Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 31 year old white female and I am proud to say that I am still a virgin. Five months ago, I met a very nice 33 year old black man through an online dating site. We’ve   been inseparable since we met and he’s so perfect for me. I have decided that I want to make love to him and he promised to take care of my heart and make it a memorable experience for me. I’m not sure if he’s “the one” but I’ve fallen in love with him and I want him to be my first. Here’s the problem… I suffer with anxiety and it is getting in the way of us having sex.................