Dear Steve and Shirley, let’s get right to it. Here's my dilemma… I’m a 38 year old woman and I've never wanted to have children. Five years ago, I was in a great relationship and we were talking about getting married, but he wanted children and I did not. So we mutually decided to end our relationship. We could not deny that we were still in love with each other, so two years after we broke up, we reconnected and have been seeing each other off and on since then..........