Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m married to a man that overindulges in everything he does. He believes in going big in life. If we’re at dinner, he has to invite all of his friends, male and female. He is a big smoker, too. He loves cigars, pipes, weed and hookah and there’s a female in town that owns the smoke shop so he loves to be a big shot and spend a lot of money with her.................................