Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been married for over half of my life and my husband checked out of the marriage five years ago. He started sleeping on the couch and then eventually moved into the guest room. I’m okay with not having sex because it wasn’t ever that good anyway. I went through periods of being bitter but didn’t do anything drastic because of our children. He told his family that I was verbally abusive to him and his mother only tolerated me so she could see our children.........................................