Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been with my wife for 13 years but we’ve been married for 9 years. We have three children, ages 4, 7 and 10. During our marriage, I’ve cheated and mis-managed our finances a few times. Whenever I messed up, I fessed up and she was always willing to forgive me and move on. But, when she’s angry with me, she’s just downright nasty. She’s spit on me and thrown things at me out of anger................