Steve and Shirley I have a big problem. I'm a 31 year old woman and my man is 36. We both have never been married and have no children. I've been with my man for a little over a year and our sex life sucks. When we first started dating it was on and poppin’ and we fell in love instantly. We couldn't get enough of each other making love two times a day and the first four months of us dating we both gained 30 pounds.