Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 40 year old man and my wife is 36. After my wife had our two sons, she gained a lot of weight. I love her so much and I’ve tried to encourage her to lose weight by working out and eating right, but she won’t stick to a diet and exercise plan. I was honest with her and let her know that I was not sexually attracted to her anymore. She promised to work harder to lose the weight. Our youngest son is six years old now and she has not lost any of the weight she gained during the pregnancy..............