Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been married for 16 years and my wife and I were headed for divorce 6 years ago because of her infidelity. She cheated on me and admitted it, but shortly after that we found out that she was really sick, so I decided to stay with her and help her out because she could only work part time, because of all of her medical appointments. I worked extra hours at a job that I really hated and I paid most of her medical bills..............