Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband and I have been married 4 years and the sex is terrible. We dated for 2 years before we got married and we agreed to wait until our wedding night to have sex for the first time. I was focused on us having a great friendship as well as a spiritual connection, which would lead to a great sex life. He romanced me and did things to me physically that satisfied me so I just knew he was going to be a great lover................