Dear Steve and Shirley, here’s my ordeal. My husband and I have been married for 8 years and we have 3 beautiful children. One of my husband’s long-time ex-girlfriends died over the weekend and we were all shocked, because it was so sudden. My husband’s best friend is the deceased woman’s cousin, so he called to tell us the bad news. He said that the family was working out the funeral arrangements and had decided that they wanted my husband to be a pall bearer at her funeral, because the ex-girlfriend still loved him, up until the day she died. This was just too much for me to process..............