Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been married for four years and I just had my first child at age forty. My husband has two children from a previous marriage. When I came home with the baby, he had his two children at my house and it was a mess. His son is fourteen and his daughter is eleven. My husband said they're not used to cleaning up, so he would get to it. His entitled children have a housekeeper at their main home with their mom so they don't have to lift a finger. I didn't speak to him for days because the house was filthy, and he shouldn't have me and our newborn daughter come home to filth. I told his ex wife that she should start now. It's not too late to give the kids basic chores around the home........................