Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I have been married for nine years. In the beginning, we talked about starting a family, but he wasn't able to make that happen. We went to see a specialist and we were told that his little swimmers are weak. The doctor said he should improve his diet and exercise more often. But my husband made his issue my fault because I cook a lot of red meat and we eat a lot of bread and potatoes. I was so hurt that he blamed that on me. Then sex with him got worse. Gradually, he said it's all my fault because I come to bed partially naked and wearing a scarf over my hair. He said, those visuals don't go together, and he can't perform with me looking unpresentable. That hurt my feelings too. The bottom line is he cannot perform and his main character is smaller than normal......................................................................