Dear Shirley and Steve, I've been married to my wife for over ten years and we have five kids. Before we got married, my wife was in an abusive relationship and over time, our arguments would lead to her getting in my face and scratching me all up. In the first 2 years of our marriage, she gave me 2 black eyes. I would never put my hands on a woman and I can never leave her because her sex is so amazing and it has a hold on me........