Dear Steve and Shirley, My life could not be more complicated. I'm a 36 year old woman and I've been dating the same man for 21 years. Yes that's right. He's my boyfriend and we've been together off and on since middle school. He was my first love and my first sexual encounter. We have three teenage children and we've been through all of the ups and downs that married couples have but we've never been married. He has never wanted to get married. I wanted to marry him when we were in our 20s but changed my mind because he was not treating me like a queen and making me feel like I was the prettiest woman in the world.............