Dear Steve and Shirley, my wife and I have been married for 22 years but for the past 4 years, we’ve lived apart. We talked about divorce but we never did it. It’s very weird but we fell into a pattern of co-parenting and just never filed for divorce. Every holiday, she invites me over so our family can be together. Every Christmas, I sleep in the guest room and wake up, cook breakfast and then we watch our kids open presents..................