Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 42 year old woman and I have been seeing a man for 6 months and we go out several times a week and we’ve started having sex. The intimacy is good, but he was a bit aggressive at first, so I had to get him to settle down a bit. But that’s not the problem I have with him. There are times I can’t reach him and when he’s non-responsive, he tells me he’s out with a friend. It became clear to me who his friend might be, when he invited me to go shopping and I ended up feeling like the third wheel................