Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 57 year old married woman but I’m at my wits end with my husband. He’s ex-military and wants me to do everything his way. We have been married for 22 years but since he’s retired, his full-time job is controlling me and the kids. I have always been the brains and the breadwinner of our family and I think that bothers him now that he has nothing to do daily....................................