Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been asked to stand with my friend in his wedding. I’m a female, so I can’t be a groomsman but I’ll be at his side at the wedding. Why am I not a bridesmaid, you ask? The future wife is controlling and she doesn’t want him to keep any of his female friends. My friend and I are so close that he officiated my wedding and now he and my husband are the best of friends. I’ve had mixed feelings from the beginning about this wedding so it’s no secret that I don’t think it will last........................