Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been married to a wonderful man for almost 30 years. He's an excellent father and provider, but over the years I've spent a lot of time alone in my marriage. At one point I was very lonely. There was a lot of love and kindness but no passion. A neighbor and I would talk occasionally and he picked up on my extreme loneliness and saw that I was vulnerable. He used it to his advantage and we ended up having sex. I'm not placing all of the blame on my neighbor because I am a grown woman and I knew better..............