Dear Steve and Shirley, I have a problem that I hope you can help me sort out, because I’m really confused. I have had a fiancé for 8 years. She and I have been together since college and we always planned to get married, but we can’t commit to setting a wedding date or planning the wedding. We have been living like a married couple for years. In December of last year, someone at my job got my attention and I have a couple of issues with it............