Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm 29 and my boyfriend has me really confused. He’s three years younger than me and we just started having sex, or at least we try to have sex. The problem is, he gets really nervous and when he’s nervous, you-know-what does not work. I don’t want to get graphic, so I hope you get the picture. So even though he says he's really into me and he wants to please me, he cannot perform. He told me that he is more comfortable taking care of business on his own and he’s been doing it that way for years.........