Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been dating a guy for about a year and a half now and I’m concerned that he isn’t motivated to better himself. The first time I spent the night at his house, I made some comments about his neighborhood being kind of ghetto and then I commented on how none of the yards have grass and the houses have burglar bars on the windows and doors. I thought to myself there’s no way I’m staying here, but he assured me that he would protect me, so I stayed over.................