Dear Steve and Shirley,  For the past five years I've been dating a man that is nine years older than me and I really love our relationship and how well he treats me. I recently started living with him and I have a problem that I need your help with. My boyfriend loves to get a big bowl of ice cream most evenings as a treat after dinner. I try not to be overbearing because he could be drinking alcohol or have another bad habit, but his ice cream addiction is killing me slowly. You see my boyfriend is lactose intolerant, therefore, I cannot sleep peacefully in the bed with him at night..............