Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 28 year old married woman and my husband just turned 30. We have a great marriage, but I need you to help me settle an argument. We are both black, but we come from very different backgrounds. He was raised in a poor, urban area that was predominately black. I was raised in a middle-class suburb that was very racially diverse. I often have to tell him that certain things like wearing a du rag outside the house or blasting loud rap music is not acceptable at his age and in the community we live in now.........