Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been dating a guy for close to three years and I need some advice on a major issue I’m having with him. I love this man and he is a great guy. He loves me, too, and we have been talking about marriage. But here’s my issue… I can not stand going to his house because it is always a mess. When we spend quality time together, we’re always at my house and I have to encourage him to pick up after himself and not eat all over my house. He and his teenage son live like slobs and I have told him that I don’t feel comfortable at his house............................