Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m married to a wonderful man that is 13 years older than I am. He is my everything and in the beginning of our marriage, we were very active and traveled a lot. Now it’s like he’s settled into being old and boring and I can barely get him to take a walk with me. I asked him if he was depressed and advised him to see a doctor. He went to the doctor and got a clean bill of health. We used to enjoy a martini in the evening to unwind and reconnect, but lately he’s turned to drinking brown liquor and I’ve noticed a change in him.................