Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been in a relationship for 19 years but we are not married. I stayed in this relationship because I do really love my guy and we have 5 kids together. Since day one, he has cheated on me and I was young, so I let him get away with it, in hopes that he would get it out of his system. Well things got worse over the years and now he has 4 outside kids with 4 other women. His family knew about the other children, but nobody ever told me about them until recently.........