Dear Steve and Shirley, I was messing with my homegirl for years and finally her husband caught us naked from the waist down in the coat closet. He came home early and we got busted hiding in the closet. So here we are a year later and her divorce is final and my long term girlfriend dumped me. My homegirl thinks that since I was messing with her while she was married, that it's fate and we are meant to be together. No we're not and I told her that, but she has trouble understanding me. We've been cool since high school, but it's never been more than sex. Back when I was married, I did not mess around with her. I honestly don't know why I went back to her...................................................