Good morning Stephen Shirley. I am here in Vegas alone and there is something weighing on my heart. So I decided to write. I've been talking to a man for about a month. I really like this guy and we connected immediately. I am 53 and he is 47. Getting to know us face has turned up some issues but since they won't harm or hurt me I can compromise. The thing that brought us to a halt is his refusal to be tested for HIV. He says he never has and never will. How are some of us still stuck on stupid and afraid of being tested?