Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm stuck. I've read your book Steve and I've been with my boyfriend for four years. In the four years we've bought a home and had lots of beautiful vacations together. We're under 30 years old and we have a solid relationship. He provides protects and professes his love for me. So why after four years I still don't have an engagement ring? I haven't given him my all yet because there are certain benefits that only a wife can give to her husband. He's not my husband. I never feel bad for reminding him when he complains about me holding back.........