You asked. We answered. And apparently, you wanted to hear more.

While Sex and the Psyche takes a short production break, we're bringing back some of your favorite conversations, and we're starting with one of our most downloaded episodes.

In this Encore Episode, Jenni and Daniel tackle the questions about sex, relationships, and intimacy that people are often too embarrassed, curious, or nervous to ask out loud.

We dive into small penis size, casual sex, sexual rejection, and why rejection can cut so deeply. We answer these questionswith honesty, humor, compassion, and a little science along the way.

Whether you missed this conversation the first time or you're ready to hear it again, there's something here for everyone. Because sometimes the questions we're most hesitant to ask are the ones we're all wondering about.

Listen, laugh, learn...and remember: you're probably not the only one asking.

New episodes of Sex and the Psyche return soon. Until then, enjoy this Encore Conversation, and keep your questions coming. Yours might be next!

Follow us on Facebook,Instagram and TikTok and please DM us with your questions! 

You asked. We answered. And apparently, you wanted to hear more.
While Sex and the Psyche takes a short production break, we're bringing back some of your favorite conversations, and we're starting with one of our most downloaded episodes.
In this Encore Episode, Jenni and Daniel tackle the questions about sex, relationships, and intimacy that people are often too embarrassed, curious, or nervous to ask out loud.
We dive into small penis size, casual sex, sexual rejection, and why rejection can cut so deeply. We answer these questions with honesty, humor, compassion, and a little science along the way.
Whether you missed this conversation the first time or you're ready to hear it again, there's something here for everyone. Because sometimes the questions we're most hesitant to ask are the ones we're all wondering about.
Listen, laugh, learn...and remember: you're probably not the only one asking.
New episodes of Sex and the Psyche return soon. Until then, enjoy this Encore Conversation, and keep your questions coming. Yours might be next!
Follow us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/sexandthepsyche">Facebook,</a> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drjenniskyler/">Instagram</a> and <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@sex.and.the.psych?is_from_webapp=1&amp;sender_device=pc">TikTok</a> and please DM us with your questions!&nbsp;

Sex and the Psyche is hosted by clinical sex therapists, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz. Married with two children, Jenni and Daniel, take listeners behind the scenes on how they talk shop on a deeper level as they conceptualize the intersection of relationships, sex, and psychology. With over 16 years of helping couples and individuals enhance and optimize their sexual function, pleasure, and knowledge of human sexuality, Sex and the Psyche covers the issues that affect most everyone from desire discrepancy, erectile issues, painful sex, porn obsessions, premature and delayed ejaculation, and healing from affairs among many other topics. 

As a husband-wife team and co-directors of 'The Intimacy Institute for Sex and Relationship Therapy', Jenni and Daniel share their expertise from real life scenarios, bringing a unique angle to understanding relationships while offering listeners helpful communication skills through thoughtful and intelligent conversations designed to help connect the more complicated dots for manifesting a more satisfying and sustainable sex life. 

Links: 

drjenniskyler.substack.com

The Intimacy Institute Roadmap to Intimacy online courses

 

Sex and the Psyche is hosted by clinical sex therapists, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz. Married with two children, Jenni and Daniel, take listeners behind the scenes on how they talk shop on a deeper level as they conceptualize the intersection of relationships, sex, and psychology. With over 16 years of helping couples and individuals enhance and optimize their sexual function, pleasure, and knowledge of human sexuality, Sex and the Psyche covers the issues that affect most everyone from desire discrepancy, erectile issues, painful sex, porn obsessions, premature and delayed ejaculation, and healing from affairs among many other topics.&nbsp;
As a husband-wife team and co-directors of 'The Intimacy Institute for Sex and Relationship Therapy', Jenni and Daniel share their expertise from real life scenarios, bringing a unique angle to understanding relationships while offering listeners helpful communication skills through thoughtful and intelligent conversations designed to help connect the more complicated dots for manifesting a more satisfying and sustainable sex life.&nbsp;
Links:&nbsp;
<a href="https://drjenniskyler.substack.com/">drjenniskyler.substack.com</a>
<a href="https://www.intimacyinstitute.org/roadmap">The Intimacy Institute Roadmap to Intimacy online courses</a>
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Sex and the Psyche is hosted by clinical sex therapists, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz. Married with two children, Jenni and Daniel, take listeners behind the scenes on how they talk shop on a deeper level as they conceptualize the intersection of relationships, sex, and psychology.

Sex and the Psyche

Sex and the Psyche is hosted by clinical sex therapists, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz. Married with two children, Jenni and Daniel, take listeners behind the scenes on how they talk shop on a deeper level as they conceptualize the intersection of relationships, sex, and psychology. With over 16 years of helping couples and individuals enhance and optimize their sexual function, pleasure, and knowledge of human sexuality, Sex and the Psyche covers the issues that affect most everyone from desire discrepancy, erectile issues, painful sex, porn obsessions, premature and delayed ejaculation, and healing from affairs among many other topics. 

As a husband-wife team and co-directors of 'The Intimacy Institute for Sex and Relationship Therapy', Jenni and Daniel share their expertise from real life scenarios, bringing a unique angle to understanding relationships while offering listeners helpful communication skills through thoughtful and intelligent conversations designed to help connect the more complicated dots for manifesting a more satisfying and sustainable sex life. 

Learn more about Sex and the Psyche

 

Follow on YouTube Instagram and Facebook 

drjenniskyler.substack.com  

intimacyinstitute.org/roadmap

 

Sex and the Psyche is hosted by clinical sex therapists, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz. Married with two children, Jenni and Daniel, take listeners behind the scenes on how they talk shop on a deeper level as they conceptualize the intersection of relationships, sex, and psychology. With over 16 years of helping couples and individuals enhance and optimize their sexual function, pleasure, and knowledge of human sexuality, Sex and the Psyche covers the issues that affect most everyone from desire discrepancy, erectile issues, painful sex, porn obsessions, premature and delayed ejaculation, and healing from affairs among many other topics.&nbsp;
As a husband-wife team and co-directors of 'The Intimacy Institute for Sex and Relationship Therapy', Jenni and Daniel share their expertise from real life scenarios, bringing a unique angle to understanding relationships while offering listeners helpful communication skills through thoughtful and intelligent conversations designed to help connect the more complicated dots for manifesting a more satisfying and sustainable sex life.&nbsp;
<a href="https://linktr.ee/SexandthePsyche?utm_source=linktree_profile_share&lt;sid=4c4cb781-48d2-4305-84b9-e35953a0a426">Learn more about Sex and the Psyche</a>
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Follow on <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCi3LsWuYtwsCiejgBN6Ab5Q">YouTube</a>&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/drjenniskyler/">Instagram</a> and <a href="https://www.facebook.com/sexandthepsyche/?ref=PROFILE_EDIT_xav_ig_profile_page_web#">Facebook</a>&nbsp;
<a href="https://drjenniskyler.substack.com/">drjenniskyler.substack.com&nbsp; </a>
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Sex and the Psyche 

In this Encore Episode, Jenni and Daniel tackle the questions about sex, relationships, and intimacy that people are often too embarrassed, curious, or nervous to ask out loud.  We dive into small penis size, casual sex, sexual rejection, and why rejection can cut so deeply. We answer these questions with honesty, humor, compassion, and a little science along the way.  Whether you missed this conversation the first time or you're ready to hear it again, there's something here for everyone. Because sometimes the questions we're most hesitant to ask are the ones we're all wondering about.

Encore Episode: You Asked, We Answered. 

Is 10 Seconds of Oral Sex Still a Blowjob?

How much time does it take for oral sex to “count”? Ten seconds? Thirty seconds? Does there have to be an orgasm, ejaculation, or even an erection?

In this episode of Sex and the Psyche, Daniel and Dr. Jenni Skyler tackle a surprisingly complicated question sparked by a very real-life sexual experience and introduce a phrase we’re pretty sure you won’t forget: the “Cock Kiss.”

They explore why there’s no universal stopwatch for good sex, how intention and attention can matter more than duration, and why the exact same sexual experience can feel satisfying to one person and completely unfinished to another. They also get into rapid ejaculation, orgasming without an erection, difficulty ejaculating while still enjoying stimulation, and how medications, age, health history, excitement, and infrequent sex can all affect what happens in the bedroom.

Most importantly, the conversation raises a bigger question: How do you communicate with your partner when your definition of “that was enough” isn't the same as theirs?

Because when it comes to sex, sometimes it's not about how long it lasted… it's about what happened while you were there.

And yes- sometimes it really is just a cock kiss.

Learn more about Sex and the Psyche

Watch this episode on YouTube

Follow on Instagram and Facebook 

Is 10 Seconds of Oral Sex Still a Blowjob?
How much time does it take for oral sex to &ldquo;count&rdquo;? Ten seconds? Thirty seconds? Does there have to be an orgasm, ejaculation, or even an erection?
In this episode of Sex and the Psyche, Daniel and Dr. Jenni Skyler tackle a surprisingly complicated question sparked by a very real-life sexual experience and introduce a phrase we&rsquo;re pretty sure you won&rsquo;t forget: the &ldquo;Cock Kiss.&rdquo;
They explore why there&rsquo;s no universal stopwatch for good sex, how intention and attention can matter more than duration, and why the exact same sexual experience can feel satisfying to one person and completely unfinished to another. They also get into rapid ejaculation, orgasming without an erection, difficulty ejaculating while still enjoying stimulation, and how medications, age, health history, excitement, and infrequent sex can all affect what happens in the bedroom.
Most importantly, the conversation raises a bigger question: How do you communicate with your partner when your definition of &ldquo;that was enough&rdquo; isn't the same as theirs?
Because when it comes to sex, sometimes it's not about how long it lasted&hellip; it's about what happened while you were there.
And yes- sometimes it really is just a cock kiss.
<a href="https://linktr.ee/SexandthePsyche?utm_source=linktree_profile_share&lt;sid=4c4cb781-48d2-4305-84b9-e35953a0a426">Learn more about Sex and the Psyche</a>
Watch this episode on <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCi3LsWuYtwsCiejgBN6Ab5Q">YouTube</a>
Follow on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drjenniskyler/">Instagram</a> and <a href="https://www.facebook.com/sexandthepsyche/?ref=PROFILE_EDIT_xav_ig_profile_page_web#">Facebook</a>&nbsp;

Is 10 seconds of oral sex still a blowjob?  Daniel and Dr. Jenni Skyler tackle the surprisingly complicated question of what actually “counts” when it comes to oral sex. Does there have to be an orgasm? An erection? Ejaculation? Or is it really about the attention, intention, and experience? Along the way, they discuss rapid ejaculation, orgasms without erections, medications that can affect ejaculation, and why two people can walk away from the exact same sexual experience feeling very differently. And then there’s the phrase that started it all: the “cock kiss.”  Sometimes sex isn't about the stopwatch. It's about the connection and communicating with your partner about what feels satisfying, complete, and wanted.

BONUS EPISODE: The Cock Kiss Conundrum

What does it really mean when we say someone is “out of our league”? And how much of our dating life is shaped by the way we think we or our partners rank in the eyes of other people?

In this episode of Sex and the Psyche, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz unpack the cultural obsession with attractiveness, status, fitness, and the idea that some people are somehow more “valuable” partners than others.

They talk about how believing someone is out of your league can create anxiety, insecurity, and even lead us to tolerate behaviors we otherwise wouldn’t accept. But they also explore the other side of the conversation: the very real reasons humans have always evaluated potential partners, and why knowing what actually matters to you can be a powerful tool.

That’s where the list comes in.

Jenni explains how she works with dating clients to identify their priorities- not as a checklist for finding a perfect partner, but as a way to get clear about what they truly want in a relationship and a shared life. Is attraction at the top? Kindness? Loyalty? Emotional safety? Financial security? There’s no right answer. It’s your list.

And having that clarity can become a kind of safety net when chemistry, hormones, attraction, and emotions threaten to cloud your judgment.

Because maybe the better question isn’t, “Is this person out of my league?”

Maybe it’s: “Does this person fit the life I want?”

Tune in for a candid conversation about attraction, dating, self-worth, red flags, relationship priorities, and finding the confidence to choose the relationship that works for you.

Learn more about Sex and the Psyche

Watch this episode on YouTube

Follow on Instagram and Facebook 

What does it really mean when we say someone is &ldquo;out of our league&rdquo;? And how much of our dating life is shaped by the way we think we or our partners rank in the eyes of other people?
In this episode of Sex and the Psyche, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz unpack the cultural obsession with attractiveness, status, fitness, and the idea that some people are somehow more &ldquo;valuable&rdquo; partners than others.
They talk about how believing someone is out of your league can create anxiety, insecurity, and even lead us to tolerate behaviors we otherwise wouldn&rsquo;t accept. But they also explore the other side of the conversation: the very real reasons humans have always evaluated potential partners, and why knowing what actually matters to you can be a powerful tool.
That&rsquo;s where the list comes in.
Jenni explains how she works with dating clients to identify their priorities- not as a checklist for finding a perfect partner, but as a way to get clear about what they truly want in a relationship and a shared life. Is attraction at the top? Kindness? Loyalty? Emotional safety? Financial security? There&rsquo;s no right answer. It&rsquo;s your list.
And having that clarity can become a kind of safety net when chemistry, hormones, attraction, and emotions threaten to cloud your judgment.
Because maybe the better question isn&rsquo;t, &ldquo;Is this person out of my league?&rdquo;
Maybe it&rsquo;s: &ldquo;Does this person fit the life I want?&rdquo;
Tune in for a candid conversation about attraction, dating, self-worth, red flags, relationship priorities, and finding the confidence to choose the relationship that works for you.
<a href="https://linktr.ee/SexandthePsyche?utm_source=linktree_profile_share&lt;sid=4c4cb781-48d2-4305-84b9-e35953a0a426">Learn more about Sex and the Psyche</a>
Watch this episode on <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCi3LsWuYtwsCiejgBN6Ab5Q">YouTube</a>
Follow on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drjenniskyler/">Instagram</a> and <a href="https://www.facebook.com/sexandthepsyche/?ref=PROFILE_EDIT_xav_ig_profile_page_web#">Facebook</a>&nbsp;

BONUS EPISODE: Your League, Your List - Stop Wondering If They're Out Of Your League, and Start Asking If They Fit Your Life

What happens when your partner refuses therapy, refuses to talk, and refuses to change- but divorce isn’t on the table?

In Part 2 of our special replay from Taboo to Truth, we’re once again turning the tables on Dr. Jenni and Daniel, as they continue their candid conversation with friend and fellow podcast host, Karen Bigman.

We’re incredibly grateful to Karen for generously allowing us to share this two-part conversation with our Sex and the Psyche listeners and give you a chance to hear Jenni and Daniel from the other side of the microphone.

This time, the conversation goes even deeper into what can slowly kill desire in long-term relationships- and what couples can realistically do when they feel stuck.

Jenni and Daniel talk about how to express your needs when your partner isn't willing to budge, why stagnation- not necessarily incompatibility, can be one of the biggest threats to a couple’s sex life, and how to tell your partner you're bored in bed without completely crushing their confidence.

They also unpack the “Madonna-whore complex” and the love-lust split, explore why menopause and postpartum can become significant periods of sexual stagnation, and get refreshingly personal about what it’s like to navigate intimacy when you're both married andsex therapists.

And they tackle an important question about relationships and gender roles: Why do so many men defer to women when it comes to being the “relationship expert,” and what happens when both partners take responsibility for understanding and nurturing their connection?

It’s honest, vulnerable, sometimes uncomfortable- and exactly the kind of conversation we love having on Sex and the Psyche.

A huge thank-you to Karen Bigman and Taboo to Truth for sharing this conversation with us.

If you haven't listened to Part 1 yet, go back and start there!

And be sure to check out Taboo to Truth wherever you listen to podcasts.

Follow Karen Bigman:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruth

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/taboototruth/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigman

Website: http://taboototruth.com

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

What happens when your partner refuses therapy, refuses to talk, and refuses to change- but divorce isn&rsquo;t on the table?
In Part 2 of our special replay from Taboo to Truth, we&rsquo;re once again turning the tables on Dr. Jenni and Daniel, as they continue their candid conversation with friend and fellow podcast host, Karen Bigman.
We&rsquo;re incredibly grateful to Karen for generously allowing us to share this two-part conversation with our Sex and the Psyche listeners and give you a chance to hear Jenni and Daniel from the other side of the microphone.
This time, the conversation goes even deeper into what can slowly kill desire in long-term relationships- and what couples can realistically do when they feel stuck.
Jenni and Daniel talk about how to express your needs when your partner isn't willing to budge, why stagnation- not necessarily incompatibility, can be one of the biggest threats to a couple&rsquo;s sex life, and how to tell your partner you're bored in bed without completely crushing their confidence.
They also unpack the &ldquo;Madonna-whore complex&rdquo; and the love-lust split, explore why menopause and postpartum can become significant periods of sexual stagnation, and get refreshingly personal about what it&rsquo;s like to navigate intimacy when you're both married and sex therapists.
And they tackle an important question about relationships and gender roles: Why do so many men defer to women when it comes to being the &ldquo;relationship expert,&rdquo; and what happens when both partners take responsibility for understanding and nurturing their connection?
It&rsquo;s honest, vulnerable, sometimes uncomfortable- and exactly the kind of conversation we love having on Sex and the Psyche.
A huge thank-you to Karen Bigman and Taboo to Truth for sharing this conversation with us.
If you haven't listened to Part 1 yet, go back and start there!
And be sure to check out Taboo to Truth wherever you listen to podcasts.
Follow Karen Bigman:
Instagram:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth">https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth</a>
TikTok:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruth">https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruth</a>
Facebook:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.facebook.com/taboototruth/">https://www.facebook.com/taboototruth/</a>
LinkedIn:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigman">https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigman</a>
Website:&nbsp;<a href="http://taboototruth.com">http://taboototruth.com</a>
Substack:&nbsp;<a href="https://karenbigman.substack.com/" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://karenbigman.substack.com&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1787762283198000&amp;usg=AOvVaw19IBITrdcCvwCDIOC4oOmH">https://karenbigman.substack.com</a>

What happens when your partner refuses therapy, refuses to talk, and refuses to change—but divorce isn’t on the table? In Part 2 of our special replay from Taboo to Truth, we’re once again turning the tables on Dr. Jenni and Daniel, as they continue their candid conversation with friend and fellow podcast host, Karen Bigman.

Encore Episode: You Asked, We Answered.

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