This week, Rob and Becs are joined by Matt James. Known for his unforgettable season on The Bachelor, Matt has traded roses for running shoes as he gears up for his fourth (in a row) TCS New York City Marathon. He played Division 1 NCAA football at Wake Forest University and now has turned into an endurance sports athlete. His move to marathons has proved successful, shaving two hours off his marathon time in two years! Matt shares his running journey on this week’s episode as he tries to chase down that ever-elusive sub three-hour marathon finish and talks about how running a marathon compares to being on The Bachelor. And for the second week in a row, our Member Moment features one of this year’s 26 Team Inspire runners, Sovena Ngeth, who is running her first marathon on November 3 and fundraising for Apex for Youth.
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The first woman to finish for the second straight year here in the New York City Marathon is Miki Gorman, a smiling Miki Gorman, and why not? 2: 29:30 it's time for Grete Waitz.
Look at the emotion of Shalane Flanagan as she comes to the line. Pointing to his chest, pointing to the USA he so proudly wears across his chest. A great day for Meb Keflezighi.
Hey, everybody, and welcome to another episode of Set the Pace presented by Peloton. It's the official podcast of New York Road Runners. Great to have you with us. I'm Rob Simmelkjaer, the CEO of New York Road Runners joined as always by the one and only Becs Gentry of Peloton fame and also of sore foot suffering. The last time we checked in, Becs, I know you stubbed that toe on the bed...
Ah, (inaudible) .
... as you're trying to get ready for this seven marathons on seven continents in seven days extravaganza in November. Have you been able to get a little recovery? How are you doing? Are you back on the road?
Yeah, yeah. Listen, I don't like the end of my bed. You should see how wide I take those corners now, and I haven't put the blinds up or down in a week, but I... Yeah, you know what? It's taken its sweet time to heal. I'm very impatient. I'm very Aries. I want it to be overnight. I'm like, cool, I did it, and tomorrow it's going to be fine, that, it doesn't happen. So I'm back on the road. I have been running. I've said to my coach, " Let's go on Sunday." And so the past two days I've got my miles in, and it's okay. I'm not saying it's healed, it's not great, but it's okay. And I'm going to get so much more uncomfortable, Rob. These seven marathons, I'm going to be so uncomfortable that this is a little taste, I think, of what's to come. I can get it done. I'm pain- free enough that eight hours is ample for 26.2. So yeah.
I can't think of anything more uncomfortable than what you're going to do, seven marathons on seven continents in seven days. So yeah, a little toe pain as you're going through these training miles. You're right, that probably is some good mental preparation for you, and so good. I'm glad you're back out running and feeling good out there. And Becs, a lot of people were running and feeling really good at the Chicago Marathon this past weekend.
What a weekend.
Congratulations to everybody who ran. We had so many New York Road Runners members out there running. Of course, a lot of people use Chicago, those who are into this multiple marathons in a fall season, folks will use Chicago as a training run for New York in some cases, or maybe they run hard in Chicago and then run New York as more of a fun pace. But it was a great day out there. I wasn't there, but I saw so much on social, and of course, Becs, the big story out of Chicago, a new world record on the women's side. Ruth Chepngetich, 2: 09:56, shattering the previous world record by more than two minutes. This was incredible. What an accomplishment there.
What an accomplishment to see her smooth sail. And I mean, this is an outsider. I have no idea, and I don't think anyone other than Ruth will ever know what was going on inside her, but she looked like she happily ran over that finish line, and all of the press interviews, all the other moments that I saw her be present for the rest of the world for the rest of Sunday, she was vibrant, and I didn't see her hobbling. It was just mind- blowing to take those two minutes off the time and just to see the power that is within humans. Last year, the record was broken last year at Berlin for the women's marathon of 2: 11: 53. So it's just, yeah, my brain cannot get around it yet. I'm still in awe of this fabulous human.
Just to see the clips at which these records are being broken these days, and who knows, is it the shoes? But it's just incredible. I mean, just looking at these results in Chicago, the previous course record was just set there last year by Sifan Hassan at three hour, sorry, 2: 13. 44. So Ruth beat that by four minutes, sets a new world record, and of course this is a year after the men's world record was set in Chicago a year ago by Kelvin Kiptum. So Chicago turning into the place where records fall, and it was just really something to see.
Spectacular.
So congratulations to everybody in Chicago, to Ruth obviously such a special thing for them to be a part of. I was also want to give congrats to Carey Pinkowski, the race director out there in Chicago who, for the second straight year, had a chance to embrace a world record holder. Of course, we're all thinking of Kelvin Kiptum at this time as well who set it, and of course we lost him since that happened. But an incredible day in Chicago. On the men's side, Becs, it was John Korir of Kenya finishing at 2: 02:44 for the win, and on the wheelchair races, Marcel Hug of course getting it done, 1: 25:54 as he continues to dominate.
What a champ.
And it was Catherine Debrunner on the women's side, a course record of 1:36:12.
Another record. Just phenomenal, everybody, absolutely phenomenal. But we can't forget what happened here as well.
That's right. As we now are getting so perfectly focused on the TCS New York City Marathon coming up in just over two weeks from the day that this podcast debuts, we had our last big race of the Five Borough Series this past weekend, the Staten Island half, always a great day, and it was a picture perfect weather day on Staten Island. Over 9, 000 runners toed the line.
Wow.
And it was great. If you haven't run this race, it's such a special race. I ran it last year. The views, the vibe, it's so much fun, especially that second half of the race, the views you get in Manhattan are really spectacular. Such a fun race, and some great results from all the runners there. The winners, it was Roberta Groner, the legendary.
Legend, legend.
And ageless, Roberta Groner with a win at 1: 14: 14 for Central Park Track Club. The non- binary winner was Elijah Taylor at 1:16: 40. And for the men, it was Sisay Fekadu Berhanu with 1:06: 48 for West Side Runners.
Oh, my gosh.
Just a great day, and a lot of folks there getting ready, that's maybe their last long run or their tacking on some miles after Staten Island, so you saw a lot of people running the marathon using Staten Island to start to get ready.
So I'm going to have to sign up for it next year. It's one every year that I want to do, but there's always something else like this year, but next year, Rob, I'm going to do it because it looks so much fun. All of the pictures I saw people were having such a beautiful day, and as you said, the sun was shining, the weather was picture perfect for running. So congrats, everyone, and then here we are, here we go. It's literally a matter of days now until the TCS New York City Marathon.
It's right there, Becs. Our staff is so focused on it. Obviously the runners are so focused on it. We are in crunch time. And speaking of that, we've got a great conversation coming up with one of your fellow runners if you are running on November 3rd, Matt James. Now, you might know Matt because he was of course The Bachelor. He was the first African- American ever to be The Bachelor on that long- running hit reality show on ABC. Also, he was a former NCAA football player, and now he's preparing to run his fourth TCS New York City Marathon, shooting to go sub- three hours for the first time. So we got a really fun conversation with Matt coming up about his time both as a bachelor and now as a marathoner as well. So that's coming up in just a minute. And then for our second week in a row, our member moment will feature one of this year's Team Inspire runners. Of course, Team Inspire is a group of 26 runners with inspirational stories that we feature here leading into the marathon. Sovena Ngeth is a Cambodian- American runner from Union City, New Jersey, and she will be running her first ever marathon on November 3rd. She's got an interesting story. She was raised in a family that really didn't think sports were safe. They did not really encourage her running at all, but Sovena discovered it during the pandemic, and now here she is running her first marathon to support Apex for Youth, which is an organization that empowers underserved Asian and immigrant youth. So Meb will be here to speak with Sovena, and then of course, since we're almost there, Meb will be right back with this week's Meb Minute where we're going to get his tips for week 14 of training for the TCS New York City Marathon.
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Today we have a guest who is not just a reality TV star, but also a legitimate athlete and a very fast runner who's on a long- term quest for marathon glory. Matt James, known for his unforgettable season as The Bachelor has traded roses for running shoes as he gears up for the 2024 TCS New York City Marathon. Matt's not just a very fast runner, he's a football player. He played division one football at Wake Forest, and now has turned into an endurance sports athlete, and he is here to share his journey as he tries to chase down that ever elusive sub- three hour marathon finish. Matt James, you do not lack talent, speed, athletic, you're a reality star. I mean, what do you not do? Welcome to Set the Pace. Great to have you here.
It's good to be here. What's up? What's up, Rob? What's up, Becs?
It is so fun to have you here. Seriously, that was the best introduction I've had in a while there, Rob. That was (inaudible) .
Yeah, that was nice. I need to bring Rob around more often. This is great. Any room I enter into, I need Rob there with me.
I mean, come on. He's got the looks, he's got the talent, he's got the fame, he's got it all, and he's bringing it to the starting line of our marathon this year, which we are so excited about. I guess I have to start by asking you, Matt, okay, you were a wide receiver, obviously a very talented athlete. You don't see too many folks going from the football field to the marathon. What was it that even got you thinking about running marathons?
Well, yeah, that's a great question. I think that it started out with I've always ran track. When I was little, I ran for the Durham Eagles, I ran for the Junior Striders, and as football and basketball started to pick up, I started to take those a little bit more serious, and I was trying to put on weight so I couldn't run the 400 and the 800 I had been doing my whole life. Then when I got to high school, I actually trained with our cross country team in the summer, and my coach put it into that once my role started to pick up on the football team. So I've always had a love for running and an appreciation for track and field field. I was fortunate enough to get out to the 2024 Paris Olympics and the Paralympics. I just have such an admiration for those type of athletes, and I love to compete, I love to watch people compete, so when that football journey was over, I needed a new avenue to push myself and compete.
Wow. But the crossover is real, right? I think once you love the sport, especially football, and I'm not going to pretend to know too much about American football, British football.
What we here in America call football. Yes.
Football, yes. I can talk about what you guys call soccer, but it's a foot sport, so you are running a lot. Those pitches are... Are they called pitches? Yeah, huge.
Fields.
Fields, there you go.
Yeah, yeah. We'll take it.
See, know nothing. They're huge, they're really, really big. So you've got that sort of endurance for, again, I don't know how long those games are because I swear every time I watch one it goes on longer than the last one I watched.
Right?
But it's a lot, so I can imagine, and I want to ask you when you decided to run a marathon, and just so everyone knows, this is your fourth TCS New York City Marathon?
I'm going to have to defer to Rob. I don't remember. They all kind of flow together after a while. I know that...
It is his fourth. I'm looking it up right now.
There we go.
His first was in '21. Not only is it his fourth, but it's actually his fourth in a row.
Fourth consecutive?
So '21, '22, '23. This will be four in a row for Mr. James.
Wow. So what made you think, okay, I'm going to go from football to marathon? Where was the 5K, 10K half- marathon?
Right. I ran a marathon before I ran a 10K or a half- marathon. One of my buddies was going to run, and I think that the idea of running 26 miles to anyone is very daunting, especially my buddy. And when he signed up, he's like, " You should do this with me." And I was crazy enough to say yes. And I think a lot of first time marathon runners under- trained, didn't really know what I was getting myself into, and it was one of the hardest, dumbest things I ever did. And I told myself I'd never do it again. And here we are.
Four times later.
Becs, when you listen to Matt tell this story and then you look at his times, they really do align with what he's saying, okay, because the first time Matt James ran the TCS New York City Marathon in 2021, his time was 5: 02: 23.
Stop.
Respectable for a first time marathoner...
Very good.
... who hadn't trained...
Absolutely.
... with his athletic ability, very respectable, right?
Fits the bill, fits the bill. Yeah.
A year later, Becs, he shaves off an hour and 15 minutes from that time. He went from an 11:32 pace to an 8: 39 pace, comes in at 3: 46, and then a year after that, 3: 04 at 7: 03 per mile. So I mean, I've looked at some marathon results in my life, I have never seen somebody shave two hours off of a marathon time in two years.
Wow.
It just shows you the athletic ability that is there and that really needed to be untapped through learning how to train for a marathon, Matt. So I mean, the results are kind of shocking when you really look at them.
Rob, Becs, peer pressure is a very strong motivator, and when you go out and... I was embarrassed because I set a bar for myself athletically at a certain rate. Not that my time was embarrassing. It's just a lot of running to not be satisfied with the outcome. And I told myself after that first one, I'm like, " Man, I cannot do this to my body again and not be proud of the product that I put forward." So you learn a little bit more with every year, and here we are trying to go under three hours this year.
Whoa. I mean, going back to Rob's digging here as a CEO, he's allowed to do that, that two hour difference is huge. And as you said, I love what said that there's a lot of running to not be proud of it, and I know a lot of our listeners out there will run that time and are very proud of it, but I think from an individual standpoint, you've kind of just taken away the time element there by saying it's a lot of running to not be proud of. So it doesn't matter what your time actually is, it's whether you're proud of the time that it took you to run 26.2 miles, and it's crazy, two hours, so now, the 3: 04 you're proud of.
Yes, and I think you made a great point, and I think that, not to put myself in this class, but when you think about elite marathon runners, and we just had the Chicago Marathon last weekend, you had men and women running two hours and nine minute marathons and going to social media and talking about how disappointed they were, and as someone outside looking in, you're like, how could you possibly be disappointed with that? And that goes back to what my example of running a five- hour marathon, for a lot of people, it just matters what your benchmark is and what your goal is and what your expectations are. And when you set goals and expectations for yourself, that's the type of standard that you hold yourself to. And it's scary every year, every year before the marathon, I get nervous because the benchmark continues to move forward in terms of wanting to run a faster time because you're more knowledgeable about the course, you have a better idea of the fueling process, just everything that goes into running a marathon and preparing. So by default, you're going to want to run faster and expect to run faster. So yeah, that's not to take anything away from anybody, it's just me personally on that quest for under three hours.
It's all completely relative. That's just the way it is. In New York, we keep our finish line open later than any other major marathon because we love celebrating people coming in at 9, 10 hours, and for them it's a huge accomplishment because that's what their goal was, to finish, and so it's all relative. That's one of the things that's so great about this sport is that we can all have our own goals, our own wins, our own challenges. Sometimes even when you don't meet the goal, that's part of what's great about it because now you've got something to fuel you and fire you for the next time, and you have used that fuel and that fire for some very dramatic improvements in your times, and we can't wait to see where it goes from here. Okay Matt, I've been trying in getting ready for this interview, trying to find a good metaphor between being The Bachelor and running marathons, right? I'm trying to figure out what is the crossover between being The Bachelor and having dozens of women competing essentially to be your choice and then running a marathon, and I can't come up with one, I've got nothing. Can you come up with something that you feel the two things have in common?
You know what, Rob, I think that there actually couldn't be a better comparison between being The Bachelor and running the marathon from multiple aspects, and we'll walk through three of them. The first one being that I don't think anyone ever knows what to expect, that's being The Bachelor, that's running a marathon. You have an idea from what previous people have run a marathon, previous people who have been The Bachelor or The Bachelorette or a lead told you what to expect, but ultimately you just have to go out there and do it and be your own... run your own race, be that person, and it's never what anyone told you how it was going to go. And there's hurdles that come along the way that you've just got to deal with. It's never going to be a perfect race. I'd say very rarely, it's never going to be the perfect scenario with maybe falling for somebody that you never thought you'd see yourself with or telling multiple... not in my situation, but you have bachelors telling multiple people they love them. Just things that could be problematic, always tend to pop up. Same with the marathon. So that's the first thing. The second thing is that-
Expect the unexpected, Matt, is really what you're saying.
Expect the unexpected.
Okay, that makes sense.
Yeah, I would say the second thing, I guess, I'd say two things. The first one and then the second thing is that it's a marathon. It literally is a marathon. You start out that process, and you have, again, you have people who jumped the gun and may express strong feelings for multiple people very quickly, that can end up being problematic. Same thing with the marathon. If you start out too quickly, it's going to end up biting you in the butt at the end when you don't have the legs to finish the race. So you've just got to take your time. I had to take my time in that process and make sure that I was doing all the right vetting because you don't have access to your phone or the computer or friends or family, so you're just kind of in this bubble trying to figure out if how you feel is real and just assess what's going on because it's foreign. Again, same with the marathon. Once you're in that situation, there's no going back, and you've got to make real time adjustments, and yeah, I would say they're both pretty similar. It's actually a great comparison.
Wow. I love that, how you've just linked that together because all those things you just said are so true, the don't jump in too soon, great, greatest analogy ever, especially for TCS New York City Marathon. Don't go down that Verrazano Bridge off ramp too fast (inaudible) .
Oh, yeah.
Oh, my gosh, that's perfect. Okay, before we talk more, more about marathons, I'm going to hold us here on The Bachelor side of things. Now, when I first met you, Matt, I think was earlier this year when we first met properly at the Olympic trials.
Yeah, in Orlando.
In Orlando, that was it. And yeah, I was like, " Oh, yeah, I think I know him." I wasn't necessarily here when your... No, I was here when you were on The Bachelor, but it wasn't a show that I watched, but I was like, " Yeah, I think I know him. Isn't he a Lululemon runner?" And all my friends just fell about laughing. They were like, " That's met James from The Bachelor." I was like, " English, don't really know." So yeah, I was like, " Yeah, he's a Lulu runner. (inaudible) , he ran the marathon last year," and I was lucky enough to be at the finish line when you and Shalane came over last year. It was fantastic to see. But we'll get to that.
Shalane Flanagan who paced (inaudible) .
Just cash, just cash. We're going to dive into that guys, don't worry, don't worry. I'm not going to miss a chance to talk about Shalane, but I want to talk about your life since The Bachelor is food. And I would say I have asked you so many times via Instagram. Now I'm like, yeah, now Matt's my buddy, Matt's my friend. I am constantly, " Where is that place? What is that place called?" I'm like, " I'm in Tokyo." I'm like, " Hey, Matt, what was that sushi place that you and Rachel went to?" Just like he's now my food guru. And your YouTube is huge, your social is huge, and it is not like gratuitous pictures of you without clothes on. It is you and Rachel around the world eating some of the most amazing food, and just so cute and honest, and what's next for you on that level?
Yeah, that's funny. I don't think a lot of people know this, but before I was on The Bachelor, or I guess I was The Bachelor, I've always had a love for food, and I actually started a nonprofit in New York City called ABC Food Tours to bring underprivileged students in the city to restaurants across New York City that I love. And I didn't grow up in a strong financial situation, so eating out to me was a treat. And the older I got, the more I got to experience that, and it changed my outlook on travel and on being able to relate to people, and I wanted to provide that experience for kids. And so that's where ABC Food Tours was founded. We work students all over the city. We've gone to different countries, different states, and we bridge that gap between students in underserved communities and fine dining. And they're meeting these restaurateurs that have similar backgrounds to theirs, whether they're immigrants, whether they came from low socioeconomic situations, didn't graduate. Just it's an amazing way to educate students on culture and cuisine. So that was before The Bachelor. And so I've always loved food. I've always had an appreciation for food, admiration for food, restaurateurs. And I'd say that when you get to do something like be The Bachelor, it does change your life, but in ways that you let it, in terms of it amplifies the person that you are or the person that you want to be, whether that's you want to go do more reality TV shows and go on Survivor, who knows, do whatever you want to do, or it gives you the opportunity, i. e., if you're in food to open more doors to travel and share your food journey with other people, or the opportunity to participate in marathons and run with former New York City Marathon winners like Shalane Flanagan. It's opened up so many doors and places that you let it do that. And for me, it's shown itself the most in my life from a food and fitness standpoint, so.
So well, there's going to be more, there's going to be more, people, watch out.
There's going to be more, especially after the marathon, that's when I really go in, that's when I really get to... There's certain things that I've cut out of the diet right now because it just, certain foods... I don't know. When I get into that training regimen, certain foods sit on my stomach differently, and I just cut a lot of things out of my diet. My body doesn't respond well to it. So come day after marathon, that is when the feasting begins.
Oh, my gosh. Can't wait.
For some of us, it goes all through marathon training and beyond. There's a lot of opportunities for eating during a marathon training block, so I'm sure you're bringing in the calories you need. But it is interesting when you talked about as a football player, you did need to put on weight, right? I mean, you're out there with some big guys, you got to be able to take a hit, make a block, things like that. Bulk and weight really does matter on a football field, even for a receiver, right? And now in a marathon situation, that extra weight isn't necessarily something that you're looking to have. How have you noticed your body responding differently, Matt? And how do you feel differently between your time as an athlete on the football field and your time as an athlete on the road running 26.2?
That's a great question, Rob. You know how you can go, I don't know, six months at times without seeing extended friends and family the older you get. When you're younger, I feel like you see all your friends every holiday. You're making a lot of time for those type of connections. And the older you get, life comes at you, and you go four months, six months at a time without seeing some of those close people in your life. I use that as an example because when I have those interactions with people after those long extended periods, people are looking at me like something's wrong with me because of the changes that my body's made. They're like, " Matt, are you okay? Are you sick? What's going on with your body?" Because when I played football, when I played collegiate football, my weight fluctuated from... I was 205. No, I was 195 pounds as a freshman, and then at my peak as a senior, I was 265 pounds.
Wow.
That's like a 70 pound, I think, yeah, that's around 70 pounds of fluctuation in there. That mold is there, it hasn't gone anywhere. So my body's capable of carrying that weight if I fuel it in that way and train in that way. So I'm susceptible to gain 20, 30 pounds in a month, and I'm susceptible to lose it, but with the running, I consistently keep that weight off, and I'm back down to the weight I was as a freshman from my freshman year of college to senior year of high school. So I kind of fluctuate around that 195, 205 range. And when people see me who haven't seen me in years, they look at me like something's wrong with me because they're used to... The training's changed. I'm not lifting weights anymore. For five and a half years I was power cleaning, I was heavy squatting, I was deadlifting. We had college training table where you're eating four meals a day. My lifestyle has changed. I've replaced the heavy lifting with running, and my body's made adjustments accordingly, and it's all in an effort to be the most efficient runner that Matt is trying to be, not the strongest, most durable football player. And I've embraced that. There are different aches and pains, but it's nice to have something, a goal to work towards and to train for as you come out of being a collegiate athlete. It's nice.
Wow, I love that. The fluctuation is huge, like your marathon times.
For sure.
So talk us through your marathon training now. We've got, what is it, two weeks, just over two weeks when this episode drops until the race. What has your training been like for this, your fourth TCS New York City Marathon?
The training block has been phenomenal. I've got the best coach in Julia Lucas who is or was a Lululemon ambassador and is the coach of a Lululemon running training program for the New York City Marathon along with other marathons. It's called the No Name Program. And her and another Lululemon ambassador, Coffey, do a fantastic job training mostly first time runners of all pace groups to be ready for a marathon. And that's from people who might be some of those last finishers when the finish line's open super late to some of those people who are trying to break sub- three. And she, in her own right, is a fantastic runner, has competed against some of the best runners in the world. So having a coach has been the game changer for me. Just having someone who you can text, reach out to and be like, " Is it normal to hurt?" They're like, " Yeah, marathons are hard. You're going to hurt." " Hey, is it normal that my hamstrings are sore? What should I do? Why do I hate running three weeks out from the marathon?" " Hey, I don't think I've done enough to prepare." All the things we think about as runners and people getting ready for a marathon, having that coach to bounce those scary thoughts off of and have them talk you back down off the ledge is been, for my mental health, so beyond liberating and just amazing, as well as the physical aspect of someone who can put together and structure a training program to put you in a position to be competitive, to hit your goal more so than something that you generate off of a Google website that you found about how to run fast. It's like that human element of coaching, making real- time adjustments to your training based off your health, how you feel. It's just been a game changer. And when, not if, when I go sub- three, she will be, Julia, one of the biggest people to credit in the doing of that. So I'm very fortunate to have coaching like that.
It makes sense, Matt, to me that coaching would be a big game changer for you because you were a football player, you're used to being coached, you had head coaches and offensive coordinators and wide receiver coaches and coaches your whole life, so coaching, you're coachable, right? I mean, you get what it means to have a coach and know how to respond to what a coach says, so it makes a lot of sense. One thing I'm really curious about, I play team sports, I play baseball, not at the level you played football, but I play baseball, and it's such a different thing as a team sport athlete in a sport like football where you're always around other people, your practices are a lot of short bursts, right? You're running short bursts, you're catching, you're doing sprints, you're in the weight room, whereas with marathons, okay, you are with a coach, but I mean, there's a lot of time where you're just there and you're just in your head and you are just going and going. It is not short bursts at all. It is these long, long runs. Has it been a challenge to make that adjustment from the kind of practice and work you had to do then to what you have to do now?
Rob, it's the biggest adjustment because you have to remind yourself why you do it. I have to remind myself why I do it. I'm a very logical person, and if there's ever a point when I'm doing something and I don't feel like I have a logical reason or explanation for doing it, then I'm not going to do it anymore. So when I'm running, I'm like, " Why am I doing this? Why am I forcing myself? No one's paying me to be out here." People have jobs, obligations for life, and that we consciously make this effort to torture ourselves for 26 miles and for months leading up to this. But I love the community aspect of it. I love being able to be social and build community around things outside of going to a bar, drinking, those type of activities. I love the idea of building friend groups, networks around those type of activities, and some of my best friendships... And you spend a lot of time with these people when you're training. And it's what I look forward to most when I have someone like a Shalane that's going to selflessly decide to pace me. One of the coolest things that's ever happened to me since I've become a runner or self- proclaimed runner is the London Marathon this year. I had a goal of going under three hours, and I had no pacer. This was my first time running a marathon without a pacer, and I didn't know anybody running the race. I didn't know anybody out there. And it's the day of the race. I just am going to try to pace myself. I'm just going to hold myself to whatever time I need to hold myself to. And I'm on a bus headed to the starting line of the marathon, and I meet the most amazing people ever. Tommy, Mikey Kratzer, he's a Berlin- based marathon runner, and we just get to talking about running, and he's like, " What's your goal for the day?" And I'm like, "Oh, I want to try to go under three hours. I've never done it." And I've never met this guy in my life, and he's like, " Matt, I'm, I'm going to pace you." He's like, " I'm going to get you to that goal." And I almost brought me to tears on the bus, these random strangers from all over the world, Tommy's from Detroit, Mikey's from Berlin, and they're just like, yeah, we got you. And they made it about pacing me. And that's what the running community is. It's such a selfless place to be. And there's been so many instances I've seen that with other people on the course. It's like if someone's hurting, if someone needs that extra motivation, race day stories of complete strangers motivating and pushing people to the finish. And that's to answer your question, those type of interactions keep my mind off of going from these short wind sprints to being able to endure a long, treacherous route is having an amazing community, amazing people who decide to uplift you and make a race day experience the best. And that's why I look forward to New York every year.
Yeah, Matt, I know exactly what you're talking about. I had a similar experience in Berlin I've talked about on the podcast. I ran Berlin, was struggling the last few miles, and a New York Road Runners member who just recognized me came along with me and Roberto, we were running together, and helped me get through the finish line as well. So it's amazing how people want to help each other out there. Okay, I have to ask, since you're talking about who you run with, Rachel, is she a runner? Is she getting into running at all? Do we have a potential running partner in Rachel? And I have to ask for all The Bachelor fans out there. How's it going?
Oh, that's funny. Rachel... So I'll say this, Rachel, every year after the marathon, she's like a lot of other spectators is so inspired, and they're like, " I'm going to sign up for the marathon. This was so beautiful to watch. I want to be a part of this. I want to participate." And if you haven't watched a marathon and you're listening, I highly recommend you just go for five minutes, and you're going to end up staying for an hour. You're going to see people who are old, people who are young, people who are tall, small. You're going to see everybody. Everybody's a runner, and everyone has representation out there on race day. So Rachel, my girlfriend, one of those people-
From The Bachelor, by the way, for those who don't know, yes.
Yes, from The Bachelor, we met on The Bachelor. She's like, " I'm going to run a marathon. I want to do this," after seeing me, and every single year after the marathon, I'm laying in the medical tent just sprawled out, hurting, just like, " Baby, you don't want to do this, don't put yourself through this. This is so dumb. I'm not going to do this again." And then every year I sign up to run again because you know what? I can't stay away from it. It's addicting. It's so much fun. It's something that I want to be able to do as long as my body will will itself to move, I want to be able to run the New York City Marathon every year. And with Rachel, I think that we got to start with something that's a little bit more palatable. So hopefully we'll get her in the Fifth Avenue Mile next year, and then we'll go from the Fifth Ave Mile to a fun 5K something in Central Park. I think the 10K in the Central Park is all women. There's a... Yes.
The Mastercard Mini 10K. Absolutely.
The Mastercard Mini 10K.
Yes, the Mastercard Mini 10K.
It's a great first race, great first kind of endurance race.
The half the year after as well. (inaudible) .
So there we go. We're going to usher Rachel into her running era through a series of New York Road Runner events.
Yes. I also feel like the...
We've got the mile.
... the festive ones as well around the holiday season are so cute as well. You can come in your ugly festive jumper and a big bubble hat and get some hot chocolate at the end. That's kind of like... I don't know, I feel like that's a really nice excuse to get moving when it's cold and gross here in New York.
Yes. And she has a bunch of friends that have participated in those events. So I think that the more we've seen this influx of new runners into the running space post- pandemic. I think the more inclusive it's become and she sees more representation from people who are not typical runners and people who fit an idea of what a runner should be and look like, gives her more confidence in terms of wanting to participate and be a part of that space, which is fun to see.
Yeah, absolutely.
Well, Matt, we're certainly rooting for you to accomplish your goal on November 3rd. By the way, that London time, just 40 seconds over three hours. I think it was three hours and 40 seconds or 41 seconds, so you're right there.
(inaudible) .
But of course that was London and this is New York, and you know New York is not the easiest course to set that PR on. How confident are you feeling, Mr. James, in your attempt at under three hours coming up in a couple of weeks?
Rob, the confidence waivers day by day. You know you have a good run and you're like, " Ah, man, these are sub- three legs right here." And then you'll go out and you'll have a 10- mile run that's supposed to be at race pace and you can barely run race pace, and you're like, " Man, I should drop out and just never run again. I'm not equipped for this." It's such a mental battle. But I think that for me, what prepares me to run that sub- three time in New York this year is the tough training blocks that I put myself through, and being able to look back on that body of work that I put together and be confident in that work. And that's what my coach reminds me of. She's like, " Listen, look back on your training, go back to your Strava, go back to your Coros data and look at all the miles you've put on your legs. Look at how well you've performed in these workouts. It's there for you to take. You just got to show up on race day and do it." And every training run, every training session builds that confidence, and that's why I take my training so serious now because that's all I have to rely on when it gets to the race and I'm dying and I'm hurting and I'm running that mile up... I don't know what avenue that is...
1st Ave?
... when you were about to head into Central Park (inaudible) .
Off the Queensboro.
Coming down Fifth Avenue.
Yeah, up First Ave, down Fifth Ave.
Yeah, coming down Fifth Avenue.
Yeah.
These training blocks prepare me, the laps that I've done in Central Park, the hills, it pays off on marathon day, so I'd rather punish myself now than have to pay for it on race day.
Yeah, absolutely. And that's a fantastic way to look at it, and you know that the crowds in this incredible city get you through. It's just, I mean, when we ran, what was it, Summer Streets earlier this year, and we shared a few very hot, very tough miles together that day. I think both of us were around the 16 plus mileage and getting it done. But even then, days like that give you a taster of the vibrancy at the TCS New York City Marathon, and it lifts you even when you've had a tough run, it gets you through. So I know there's going to be 26.2 miles of people screaming your name and supporting you all the way, including Rachel and your family and friends for sure.
Yeah, Becs, I mean, that's the training block stories that I'm referring to when I say I'm going to look back on these moments and they're going to push me through the marathon. That specific run that Becs is referring to, I had 16 miles, six of those miles were a warm- up, seven of those miles were to be at a 10K pace, so that's even faster than our marathon pace, and then my last three miles were kind of supposed to be recovery. They were open to interpretation if I had the legs to just continue at that pace, and I was dead. I wanted to walk. I had nothing left in the tank after those first 14 miles. I had three left. I saw Becs coming down, what is that, Lexington Avenue?
I think so, yeah.
And it's wide open. Summer Streets in New York, they have it blocked off for miles, so you can just run down the middle of the street with no cars, no traffic.
Cycle.
And those miles that I split out with Becs, those last three miles were some of the faster miles I ran that day because it was the peer pressure of being around another runner. It was the sense of community and just having someone there, a familiar face around you, and it reminded me that, again, like I've said so many times during the podcast, running is so mental. I mentally took myself out of the run. I'm like, I can't go any faster than I'm going. I was practically walking, trotting, and I saw Becs, and we started going seven- minute pace, and that's fast for me. We were moving, and we're having conversation, we're talking while we're keeping this pace, and I'm like, man, if I can just pull this out of nowhere, that means that it's in me. It's in there somewhere, and I need to garner that Becs energy during my race whenever I'm feeling bad or down and feeling sorry for myself knowing that you're capable of doing this. You just have to remind yourself of it.
Well, Matt, you're clearly capable. We can't wait to see what kind of day you have, whether you break three hours or not, it doesn't matter. You have turned yourself into a great runner. You're obviously such a great ambassador for the sport, and so we wish you a great day no matter what your time. And not to put any pressure on you, but anybody out there who wants to follow this gentleman, it's Matthew James, male, 32 years old, running for Lululemon, trackable from New York, New York on the app. So check him out.
Oh, my gosh.
Gee, thanks, Rob.
Completely just outed your whole race there.
He's The Bachelor, he's got almost a million followers on Instagram. He's used to the attention. And Matt, you're going to have a great day.
You are.
We wish you luck. Thank you for hanging out with us for a little while here, and I can't wait to see you at the finish line on November 3rd.
Yay.
And I'm looking forward to it. And good luck to all of the other New York City Marathon runners out there. I'm excited to share the New York City streets with y'all in a few weeks.
All right, Matt James from bachelor to marathoner. This week's member moment features another member of 2024's Team Inspire, Sovena Ngeth, a Cambodian- American runner preparing to take on her first marathon at the 2024 TCS New York City Marathon. Sovena's family journey from surviving genocide in Cambodia to building a new life in America deeply influenced her life. And this November 3rd, she's running to honor her family's bravery and sacrifice. Sovena is also a mentor with Apex for Youth, an organization that supports underserved Asian and immigrant youth. Here's Meb to introduce us to Sovena.
Thanks, Rob. Sovena, welcome to the show.
Thank you so much, Meb.
Good to be with you. Growing up with the family, sports were considered unsafe. How did starting to run during the pandemic help you deal with mental health challenge and change your life?
Yeah, so just to touch on the first part a bit more, my family never really encouraged my sisters and I to play or participate in sports because they were really afraid that we would get hurt. I think this all comes from what happened with them during the Cambodian genocide, but we all found our own paths to sports with my sisters playing lacrosse. And eventually we started to go to the gym together, and it was a good little way to bond, but when the pandemic hit, all the gyms were shut down. And during that time, I was in my senior year of college, and I remember literally waking up and everything was shut down. We had no more in- person classes, no social events to go to, no graduation, and not even the gym at the bare minimum. And that's when I got introduced to running. At that time, my boyfriend was training for a half- marathon that unfortunately got canceled because of the pandemic. And I just remember thinking to myself for the first time, are humans really capable of running 13 miles? Keep in mind, I was super new to running, so I couldn't even wrap my head around what a half- marathon was. And then a couple of years later, I watched my boyfriend and two of our friends complete their first half- marathon. And there's something about seeing your peers accomplish something that kind of makes it more achievable for you to do. So I feel like running was like learning a new language for me. It was something super brand new, but it was something that helped me beat the overwhelming sense of depression and anxiety that the pandemic had caused. Again, I was a senior in college who didn't get to walk for graduation. And as a first generation student, that really hurt because I really wanted to celebrate that with my family. But yeah, I think that something I definitely learned about myself with running was that I'm so capable of anything that I put my mind to. And signing up for the New York City Marathon was the first step in this long training block and just being able to accomplish my crazy goals. I just did a 19- mile run on Saturday, and just even doing that, I was shocked at myself and my body, especially also with just the New York City running community. It's so inclusive, and just seeing people run at Central Park at the New York Road Runner races, there's such a sense of belonging and a sense of community in that.
So how was that though from not being able to run, I don't know if I could do this, to run in 19 miles? How's your mental status now, do you think? You still got seven miles to go, but how do you feel now?
Oh, my God, I genuinely was shocked that I was able to do the 19 miles. I feel like I am genuinely capable of anything. This might be a little crazy, but now I'm looking into ultra marathons because I'm like, I can do that.
That's awesome. Your family survived the Cambodian genocide before come to the United States. What does running your first marathon for Apex for Youth means to you, and how does it connect to your family's history?
Yeah, so my mom and my grandma, they immigrated to America in 1994. They wanted to seek freedom and a new beginning after unsuccessfully trying to rebuild their life in Cambodia. They endured a full duration of the genocide from 1975 until 1979. And they lost so many loved ones. They lost all their possessions, they lost everything, even documents. They don't even know their real birthdays. And I think that's why they raised my sisters and I with such fear of hurting us or us getting hurt. And they're genuinely terrified I'm running long distances. It's kind of hard.
I mean, I was just going to ask you that. How do your parents take it, your mom to be able to say, " Hey, I'm gone for 19 miles," for not being used to unsafe sports and things like that? How are they taking it all in now?
Oh, my gosh, I wish you could see their faces when I tell them like, "Hey, mom, I just did a long run." And she's like, " Oh, how long did you do it?" " Like 19 miles?" She's like, " Why would you do that?" So yeah, I feel like just going through something as traumatic as that really does affect the way that they raised us and how they view the marathon. But I want to run this marathon to show my family that I can do this and that it is okay to push our bodies. I want to show them that also the human body is truly resilient and we can overcome physical and mental barriers. I feel like my mom and my grandma kind of live with a survival mentality, and I just want them to be free of that. And just to go back on Apex for Youth, they are an organization based in New York City that empowers low income, underserved Asian and immigrant youth to unlock their full potentials, and they connect them with a one- on- one mentor who knows what it's like to grow up in their shoes. And as someone who comes from a low income Asian immigrant family, the mission just spoke to me. And just being a part of the mentoring program, I was just so proud to be a part of an organization that is doing so much for our Asian community, and running the marathon and fundraising for them is just the perfect opportunity to combine both of my passions.
That's awesome. You've been a trailblazer and a mentor for that group, Apex, but training with Run for Chinatown has connected you with the running community. How has this experience impacted you and how do you hope to be a role model for your sisters and others by running the marathon, especially the TCS New York City Marathon?
Yeah. Training with Run for Chinatown has been such an amazing opportunity. A lot of the Apex mentors also run with Run for Chinatown, and just being able to be in an inclusive space for both Asian and Pacific Islanders, it's just you get such a sense of belonging and a sense of community that makes such a big city like New York feel so small. I've also found other Cambodian runners through the group, and it's just really nice to be able to connect with people whose families went through the same thing. And then we're all just picking up and sharing our sport, our love for running. Running the New York City Marathon means a lot to me because it's not just the physical aspect of it. It takes a lot of sacrifice, it takes a lot of dedication. I'm sure you know this, but running long, long hours and just having to say no to social commitments and stuff sometimes. Yeah, I just want to show not only my sisters, but all the youth that I mentor that no goal is too big and we just need to approach it with a sense of commitment, determination, and resilience. And my hope for them is that I'm not trying to push all my youth or them to run a marathon, but I hope that they will be inspired to tackle their own challenges and create big crazy goals like this as well.
Well, you just doing that. As a immigrant who came here, and I thought running was weird because I don't know what they were chasing. So now you are a trailblazer to be able to help others accomplish their own individual goal. And I know you did not get the opportunity to walk in your graduation through the pandemic, but now you're going to go to the five pros of the TCS New York City Marathon with 50, 000 plus others. And I'm pretty sure your community or family is going to be so proud of you. Congratulations and job well done, and look forward to seeing you soon.
Oh, my gosh, thank you so much. That means so much. Yeah.
Sovena, thank you so much for joining us and for being a member of New York Road Runners. Now it's time for today's Meb Minutes.
Week 14, visualize winning, why the ever winning means to you. Visualizing was a powerful tool for me. I would imagine the race, my strategy, and crossing the finish line. It helped me boost my confidence and focus. Spend time to visualize your success, to reinforce the positive mindset. This is huge. For me, I visualize getting to that finish line. I visualize myself winning the race. For example, in September of 2009, I woke up and had a dream that I won the New York City Marathon. And I went upstairs to tell my wife, and she says, because there was a race that was going on that weekend. And she's like, "Do you know what happened in the race?" I'm like, "No. What happened?" She's like, " They ran 59 minutes and something for the half- marathon." I said, " Well, I guess I should say goodbye to that dream." But then I realized after 30 seconds or so saying, " You know what, I am peaking at the right time." So visualization is important. You have to do what you can to be the best version of yourself. And winning doesn't always mean getting first place, but getting the best out of yourself. So you have done that now by visualizing the travel, by visualizing the starting line, by visualizing in the middle of the race, and visualize yourself getting to that finish line and earn that well deserved medal.
That does it for another episode of Set the Pace. We want to thank our guest today, Matt James, and Team Inspire's Sovena Ngeth. If you like this episode, please make sure you subscribe. Leave us a rating or a comment so others can find the show as well. Great talking to you guys today. Good luck with the rest of your training for everybody getting ready for November 3rd. Enjoy those miles, and we'll see you next week. New York Road Runners is a nonprofit organization with a vision to build healthier lives and stronger communities through the transformative power of running. The support of members and donors like you helps us achieve our mission to transform the health and wellbeing of our communities through inclusive and accessible running experiences, empowering all to achieve their potential. Learn more and contribute at nyrr. org/ donate.