Being misunderstood can be a frustrating reality of a disconnected relationship. When someone hears something you didn't say or doesn't properly understand what you mean, it can wreak havoc on your communication. Today's listener question comes from a woman whose boyfriend consistently misunderstands what she means, especially when in disagreement. He even thinks that to disagree is to disrespect. 👀 Listen in as I share how she can ask better questions to get to the heart of the matter. And remember, Proverbs 18:13 says, "Those who answer before they listen are foolish and disgraceful." Ouch but true. 

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Being misunderstood can be a frustrating reality of a disconnected relationship. When someone hears something you didn't say or doesn't properly understand what you mean, it can wreak havoc on your communication. Today's listener question comes from a woman whose boyfriend consistently misunderstands what she means, especially when in disagreement. He even thinks that to disagree is to disrespect. 👀 Listen in as I share how she can ask better questions to get to the heart of the matter. And remember, Proverbs 18:13 says, "Those who answer before they listen are foolish and disgraceful." Ouch but true. 
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Rebuilding Us is a Christian marriage podcast for couples seeking relatable marriage advice, biblical encouragement, and real hope. With her signature no-nonsense approach, marriage coach and author Dana Che brings truth and grace to the hard conversations couples often avoid—while weaving in just enough humor to make the heavy topics feel a little lighter. Each episode helps couples rebuild trust, improve communication, restore intimacy, heal after infidelity, and reconnect emotionally and spiritually.

Through honest conversations, real-life stories, faith-filled wisdom, and practical relationship tools, Dana offers a clear approach to navigating conflict, betrayal, disappointment, and disconnection—without shame, clichés, or unrealistic expectations.

Whether you are recovering from infidelity, strengthening an already-good marriage, or simply longing for a closer bond, this podcast will help you create a healthier, more connected, Christ-centered relationship.

New episodes are released every Tuesday. Follow Rebuilding Us and begin your journey from conflict to connection.

Let the rebuild begin!

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Rebuilding Us is a Christian marriage podcast for couples seeking relatable marriage advice, biblical encouragement, and real hope. With her signature no-nonsense approach, marriage coach and author Dana Che brings truth and grace to the hard conversations couples often avoid&mdash;while weaving in just enough humor to make the heavy topics feel a little lighter. Each episode helps couples rebuild trust, improve communication, restore intimacy, heal after infidelity, and reconnect emotionally and spiritually.
Through honest conversations, real-life stories, faith-filled wisdom, and practical relationship tools, Dana offers a clear approach to navigating conflict, betrayal, disappointment, and disconnection&mdash;without shame, clich&eacute;s, or unrealistic expectations.
Whether you are recovering from infidelity, strengthening an already-good marriage, or simply longing for a closer bond, this podcast will help you create a healthier, more connected, Christ-centered relationship.
New episodes are released every Tuesday. Follow&nbsp;Rebuilding Us and begin your journey from conflict to connection.
Let the rebuild begin!
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A marriage podcast to help couples rebuild trust and rediscover genuine intimacy in their marriages. Sharing lessons from her 25-year marriage, marriage coach & speaker Dana Che will help you heal your past and find hope for your future as you glean effective marriage advice and tools from Dana Che and her guests. These episodic adventures will take you on a transformative journey to a happier and healthier marriage, through faith-based principles. 

With relevant relationship strategies, heartfelt stories, and uplifting messages of hope, aimed at inspiring marriages with lasting joy, intimacy, and fulfillment. No Christian clichés over here! Dana's tell-it-like-it-is yet warm humor will endear you to come back every single week.

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Tried and True is a marriage guide for couples facing pressure—disappointment, unmet expectations, seasons of delay, or conflict. Drawing from twelve flawed biblical couples, this book helps you understand what your trials are revealing—and how God can use them to strengthen your covenant and your connection.

A marriage podcast to help couples rebuild trust and rediscover genuine intimacy in their marriages. Sharing lessons from her 25-year marriage, marriage coach &amp; speaker Dana Che will help you heal your past and find hope for your future as you glean effective marriage advice and tools from Dana Che and her guests. These episodic adventures will take you on a transformative journey to a happier and healthier marriage, through faith-based principles.&nbsp;
With relevant relationship strategies, heartfelt stories, and uplifting messages of hope, aimed at inspiring marriages with lasting joy, intimacy, and fulfillment. No Christian clich&eacute;s over here! Dana's tell-it-like-it-is yet warm humor will endear you to come back every single week.
The first letter in "us" is "u," so "rebuilding us" is also about rebuilding u (you). Whether you're seeking reconciliation, restoration, or simply looking for marriage enrichment, 'Rebuilding Us' will help guide your way.
New episodes drop every Tuesday &amp; Friday. Subscribe today so you don't miss a single one!
My new book is out! Get <a href="https://danache.com/triedandtrue" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://danache.com/triedandtrue&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1767879070424000&amp;usg=AOvVaw3Lc8E5zya32sng_mUFZb4t">Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples</a>&nbsp;wherever books are sold!&nbsp;
Tried and True is a marriage guide for couples facing pressure&mdash;disappointment, unmet expectations, seasons of delay, or conflict. Drawing from twelve flawed biblical couples, this book helps you understand what your trials are revealing&mdash;and how God can use them to strengthen your covenant and your connection.

Being misunderstood can be a frustrating reality of a disconnected relationship. When someone hears something you didn't say or doesn't properly understand what you mean, it can wreak havoc on your communication.

Q & A: Why Does My Partner Misunderstand Everything I Say?

What do you do when you want to work on the marriage... but your spouse doesn't? Maybe you've suggested marriage coaching or counseling. You've sent the podcast episode. You've bought the book. You've tried to start the conversations. You've prayed for change. And your spouse seems uninterested, unwilling, or just plain tired of talking about the marriage.

That can be an incredibly frustrating and lonely place to be.

But here's the truth I want you to hear in this episode: Your spouse's unwillingness to work on the marriage doesn't mean there's no work you can do.

And it doesn't mean your only options are to nag them into participating or sit around waiting for them to change.

In this episode, we're talking about what it looks like to take responsibility for your side of the relationship without trying to carry the entire marriage by yourself.

We'll talk about the temptation to make your spouse the project, why pressure rarely produces genuine change, and how focusing on your own growth can begin to shift the dynamic in your relationship.

In This Episode, You'll Learn:
What to do when you're the only one who seems interested in improving the marriage
The difference between taking responsibility and taking all the responsibility
What you can control when so much feels outside of your control
How to develop stamina for the long game

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What do you do when you want to work on the marriage... but your spouse doesn't? Maybe you've suggested marriage coaching or counseling. You've sent the podcast episode. You've bought the book. You've tried to start the conversations. You've prayed for change.&nbsp;And your spouse seems uninterested, unwilling, or just plain tired of talking about the marriage.
That can be an incredibly frustrating and lonely place to be.
But here's the truth I want you to hear in this episode: Your spouse's unwillingness to work on the marriage doesn't mean there's no work you can do.
And it doesn't mean your only options are to nag them into participating or sit around waiting for them to change.
In this episode, we're talking about what it looks like to take responsibility for your side of the relationship without trying to carry the entire marriage by yourself.
We'll talk about the temptation to make your spouse the project, why pressure rarely produces genuine change, and how focusing on your own growth can begin to shift the dynamic in your relationship.
In This Episode, You'll Learn:
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<li>What to do when you're the only one who seems interested in improving the marriage</li>
<li>The difference between taking responsibility and taking all the responsibility</li>
<li>What you can control when so much feels outside of your control</li>
<li>How to develop stamina for the long game</li>
</ul>
Follow Dana Che on the socials!&nbsp;
<a href="https://instagram.com/mrsdanache">Instagram&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://facebook.com/mrsdanache">Facebook&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://youtube.com/@mrsdanache">YouTube</a>
Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review!&nbsp;

What do you do when you want to work on the marriage... but your spouse doesn't? Maybe you've suggested marriage coaching or counseling. You've sent the podcast episode. You've bought the book.

Help! My Spouse Isn't Interested in Working on Our Marriage 

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Have you dealt with rejection or the feeling of being forgotten or neglected? When the people closest to you treat you like you're invisible or unimportant, it can trigger all sorts of emotions and insecurities. In today's podcast episode, I'm sharing a story of a woman who gave and gave, but her best still wasn't good enough. She was literally discarded like yesterday's news. But in that pain, she found God. Not just a God she'd heard about, but one she encountered for herself. 

Join me as I share how God sees you, supports you, and stays with you...even when everyone else walks away. This inspirational podcast episode will bless your marriage, your friendships, your family relationships, and your whole life. 

Key Takeaways:


The Power of God's Names:


El Roi: The God Who Sees Me
Hagar, from Genesis 16, is the first person in Scripture to give God a name. Through Hagar’s experience, we see how God sees us in our struggles, loneliness, and pain.


El Shaddai: The All-Sufficient One
No matter what we feel we lack—whether in life or in marriage—God is more than enough and provides everything we need.


Jehovah Shalom: The Lord is Peace
Invoking God’s shalom means declaring His full, restorative peace over our homes and relationships.


Emmanuel: God With Us
God is not distant; He is present in every season, moment, and even in conflict, offering comfort and companionship.

Resources Mentioned in this Episode

Download my FREE "Speak Life Affirmations" audio and combat every negative thought with the truth of God's word. 

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Have you dealt with rejection or the feeling of being forgotten or neglected? When the people closest to you treat you like you're invisible or unimportant, it can trigger all sorts of emotions and insecurities. In today's podcast episode, I'm sharing a story of a woman who gave and gave, but her best still wasn't good enough. She was literally discarded like yesterday's news. But in that pain, she found God. Not just a God she'd heard about, but one she encountered for herself.&nbsp;
Join me as I share how God sees you, supports you, and stays with you...even when everyone else walks away. This inspirational podcast episode will bless your marriage, your friendships, your family relationships, and your whole life.&nbsp;
Key Takeaways:
<ul>
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The Power of God's Names:
<ul>
<li>
El Roi: The God Who Sees Me Hagar, from Genesis 16, is the first person in Scripture to give God a name. Through Hagar&rsquo;s experience, we see how God sees us in our struggles, loneliness, and pain.
</li>
<li>
El Shaddai: The All-Sufficient One No matter what we feel we lack&mdash;whether in life or in marriage&mdash;God is more than enough and provides everything we need.
</li>
<li>
Jehovah Shalom: The Lord is Peace Invoking God&rsquo;s shalom means declaring His full, restorative peace over our homes and relationships.
</li>
<li>
Emmanuel: God With Us God is not distant; He is present in every season, moment, and even in conflict, offering comfort and companionship.
</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>
Resources Mentioned in this Episode
<a href="https://danache.com/speaklife">Download my FREE "Speak Life Affirmations" audio</a> and combat every negative thought with the truth of God's word.&nbsp;
Follow Dana Che on the socials!&nbsp;
<a href="https://instagram.com/mrsdanache">Instagram&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://facebook.com/mrsdanache">Facebook&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://youtube.com/@mrsdanache">YouTube</a>
Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review!&nbsp;

Have you dealt with rejection or the feeling of being forgotten or neglected? When the people closest to you treat you like you're invisible or unimportant, it can trigger all sorts of emotions and insecurities. 

Feeling Forgotten? The God Who Sees, Supports, & Stays [Sweet Repeat]

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Let’s be honest—just because we grew up and got married doesn’t mean we left our triggers at the playground. Sometimes marriage can feel like an endless game of emotional Whac-A-Mole. In today’s episode, I’m unpacking the hidden childhood triggers that sneak into our marriages, those moments when a look or a phrase sends us spiraling back—defenses up, ready to fight, flee, or freeze. But surely there's a better way.

Here’s what we dig into:


Unpacking Childhood Baggage
We talk about why seemingly harmless comments from our spouse can unleash a flood of old wounds, and how those reactions aren’t just “sensitivity”—they’re well-worn ruts of our childhood stories.


Scarcity Mindset in Marriage
What happens when our knee-jerk belief is that there’s “not enough”—not enough love, attention, or security? I’ll confess the ways scarcity thinking creeps into my own marriage, and the choices I made, both emotional and practical, have started shifting our connection.


Faith and the Hard Work of Healing
Yep, we’re going there. I unpack where faith gets tangled up with those painful places—and why it matters. We talk about inviting God into the ugly-beautiful mess, not just the Instagrammable moments, and why radical honesty is sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do.


Steps Toward Healing—Without Pretending It’s Easy
This isn’t about quick fixes or pretending your marriage is something it’s not. We’ll get real about weariness. About losing hope. About showing up anyway and trying one more time. Because that’s where real change starts: not with grand gestures, but with brave, small choices over time.

Links & Resources:


Take my free quiz: How Connected a Partner Are You?


Get my new book: Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples


Recommended episode: “Unpacking Triggers, Strongholds, & Inner Healing - with Frank Meadows”
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Follow Dana Che on the socials! 

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Let&rsquo;s be honest&mdash;just because we grew up and got married doesn&rsquo;t mean we left our triggers at the playground. Sometimes marriage can feel like an endless game of emotional Whac-A-Mole. In today&rsquo;s episode, I&rsquo;m unpacking the hidden childhood triggers that sneak into our marriages, those moments when a look or a phrase sends us spiraling back&mdash;defenses up, ready to fight, flee, or freeze. But surely there's a better way.
Here&rsquo;s what we dig into:
<ul>
<li>
Unpacking Childhood Baggage We talk about why seemingly harmless comments from our spouse can unleash a flood of old wounds, and how those reactions aren&rsquo;t just &ldquo;sensitivity&rdquo;&mdash;they&rsquo;re well-worn ruts of our childhood stories.
</li>
<li>
Scarcity Mindset in Marriage What happens when our knee-jerk belief is that there&rsquo;s &ldquo;not enough&rdquo;&mdash;not enough love, attention, or security? I&rsquo;ll confess the ways scarcity thinking creeps into my own marriage, and the choices I made, both emotional and practical, have started shifting our connection.
</li>
<li>
Faith and the Hard Work of Healing Yep, we&rsquo;re going there. I unpack where faith gets tangled up with those painful places&mdash;and why it matters. We talk about inviting God into the ugly-beautiful mess, not just the Instagrammable moments, and why radical honesty is sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do.
</li>
<li>
Steps Toward Healing&mdash;Without Pretending It&rsquo;s Easy This isn&rsquo;t about quick fixes or pretending your marriage is something it&rsquo;s not. We&rsquo;ll get real about weariness. About losing hope. About showing up anyway and trying one more time. Because that&rsquo;s where real change starts: not with grand gestures, but with brave, small choices over time.
</li>
</ul>
Links &amp; Resources:
<ul>
<li>
Take my free quiz: <a href="https://danache.com/partnerquiz">How Connected a Partner Are You?</a>
</li>
<li>
Get my new book: <a href="https://danache.com/tried-and-true-book">Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples</a>
</li>
<li>
Recommended episode: <a href="https://danache.com/marriage-podcasts/346-unpacking-triggers-strongholds-inner-healing-with-frank-meadows/">&ldquo;Unpacking Triggers, Strongholds, &amp; Inner Healing - with Frank Meadows&rdquo;</a>
</li>
<li>Support the Show:&nbsp;<a href="https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/">Your giving makes a difference!</a></li>
</ul>
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Let’s be honest—just because we grew up and got married doesn’t mean we left our triggers at the playground.

Healing Old Triggers that Hijack Your Marriage

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Q & A: Why Does My Partner Misunderstand Everything I Say?

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