Carrying secrets in marriage can cause you to live in fear and disconnection. A listener asks if she should come clean about some shady behavior when she and her husband were on bad terms. The weight of carrying this secret is weighing her down. What should you do if you're keeping a secret in your marriage or relationship? Should everything be brought to the light or are some things better off hidden? We're discussing this question and asking what the Bible says (if anything) about secrets in relationships. 

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Carrying secrets in marriage can cause you to live in fear and disconnection. A listener asks if she should come clean about some shady behavior when she and her husband were on bad terms. The weight of carrying this secret is weighing her down. What should you do if you're keeping a secret in your marriage or relationship? Should everything be brought to the light or are some things better off hidden? We're discussing this question and asking what the Bible says (if anything) about secrets in relationships. 
Got a marriage or relationship question you’d like answered on the podcast? Submit your questions at <a href="https://rebuildinguspodcast.com/contact">rebuildinguspodcast.com</a> or DM on <a href="https://instagram.com/mrsdanache">Instagram</a>.
 
**If you like the show, please leave a review! This helps other marriages and relationships grow too! **
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Ever wish there was an "easy" button for marriage? Or that you just had someone who understands the struggle?&nbsp;Rebuilding Us is a top-rated marriage podcast to help you restore intimacy, rebuild trust, and renew hope in your marriage. Join marriage coach Dana Che, who's been married to her hubby, Shaun, for 25 years as she guides couples on the journey toward restoration and connection.
Each episode includes real-life stories, practical strategies, and faith-filled insights to help you reignite love, deepen commitment, and create a thriving, joy-filled relationship. Say goodbye to Christian clich&eacute;s&mdash;Dana&rsquo;s relatable, no-nonsense approach (with a touch of humor!) will keep you coming back week after week.&nbsp;
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Let the rebuild begin! &nbsp;
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A marriage podcast to help couples rebuild trust and rediscover genuine intimacy in their marriages. Sharing lessons from her 25-year marriage, marriage coach &amp; speaker Dana Che will help you heal your past and find hope for your future as you glean effective marriage advice and tools from Dana Che and her guests. These episodic adventures will take you on a transformative journey to a happier and healthier marriage, through faith-based principles.&nbsp;
With relevant relationship strategies, heartfelt stories, and uplifting messages of hope, aimed at inspiring marriages with lasting joy, intimacy, and fulfillment. No Christian clich&eacute;s over here! Dana's tell-it-like-it-is yet warm humor will endear you to come back every single week.
The first letter in "us" is "u," so "rebuilding us" is also about rebuilding u (you). Whether you're seeking reconciliation, restoration, or simply looking for marriage enrichment, 'Rebuilding Us' will help guide your way.
New episodes drop every Tuesday &amp; Friday. Subscribe today so you don't miss a single one!

Carrying secrets in marriage can cause you to live in fear and disconnection. A listener asks if she should come clean about some shady behavior when she and her husband were on bad terms.

Q & A: Should I Come Clean About this Secret in My Marriage?

From unmet expectations to trust issues and loneliness in marriage, this episode exposes eight conversations you're likely avoiding in your marriage and how it's causing the disconnection gap to widen. I open up with a personal story about my own struggles with fear and avoidance (including a wild trip to the urgent care!), and how these emotions often hold us back from tackling topics that really matter.

The Conversations You're Likely Avoiding in Your Marriage:


Unmet Expectations: Many couples never openly discuss what they thought marriage would look like—and how reality has shifted those expectations.


Resentment: Sometimes prayer isn’t enough if you’re still nursing bitterness, unforgiveness, or past hurts. You can’t heal what you refuse to acknowledge.


Boundaries: Every relationship needs boundaries—even healthy ones. Yet many avoid discussing what’s acceptable, what’s not, and where limits should be set.


Disappointments: Small disappointments can quietly unravel intimacy if left unspoken. Instead of confronting them, we let them fester.


Loneliness in Marriage: There’s no lonelier place than a disconnected marriage, but admitting this vulnerability is often avoided.


Trust Issues: Especially after betrayal or big mistakes, couples might choose not to re-visit trust conversations for fear of reopening wounds or “rocking the boat.”


Conversations About the Future: Many avoid talking about end-of-life issues, financial planning, retirement, and other future-focused topics.


Celebrating Wins: Sometimes, couples even avoid sharing their successes if there’s secret competition or fear of triggering jealousy.

Resources Mentioned in this Episode: 

Get my FREE Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict 

Get your FREE 5-Day Tried and True Devotional in anticipation of my new book release!

Other helpful Rebuilding Us podcast episodes:

5 Boundaries Every Marriage Needs

How to Approach Difficult Conversations with Confidence

When Marriage is Harder than You Ever Expected

From unmet expectations to trust issues and loneliness in marriage, this episode exposes eight conversations you're likely avoiding in your marriage and how it's causing the disconnection gap to widen. I open up with a personal story about my own struggles with fear and avoidance (including a wild trip to the urgent care!), and how these emotions often hold us back from tackling topics that really matter.
The Conversations You're Likely Avoiding in Your Marriage:
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<li>
Unmet Expectations: Many couples never openly discuss what they thought marriage would look like&mdash;and how reality has shifted those expectations.
</li>
<li>
Resentment: Sometimes prayer isn&rsquo;t enough if you&rsquo;re still nursing bitterness, unforgiveness, or past hurts. You can&rsquo;t heal what you refuse to acknowledge.
</li>
<li>
Boundaries: Every relationship needs boundaries&mdash;even healthy ones. Yet many avoid discussing what&rsquo;s acceptable, what&rsquo;s not, and where limits should be set.
</li>
<li>
Disappointments: Small disappointments can quietly unravel intimacy if left unspoken. Instead of confronting them, we let them fester.
</li>
<li>
Loneliness in Marriage: There&rsquo;s no lonelier place than a disconnected marriage, but admitting this vulnerability is often avoided.
</li>
<li>
Trust Issues: Especially after betrayal or big mistakes, couples might choose not to re-visit trust conversations for fear of reopening wounds or &ldquo;rocking the boat.&rdquo;
</li>
<li>
Conversations About the Future: Many avoid talking about end-of-life issues, financial planning, retirement, and other future-focused topics.
</li>
<li>
Celebrating Wins: Sometimes, couples even avoid sharing their successes if there&rsquo;s secret competition or fear of triggering jealousy.
</li>
</ol>
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:&nbsp;
Get my <a href="https://danache.com/conversationstarters">FREE Conversation Starters for Couples</a> in Conflict&nbsp;
<a href="https://danache.com/tried-and-true-book">Get your FREE 5-Day Tried and True Devotional </a>in anticipation of my new book release!
Other helpful Rebuilding Us podcast episodes:
<a href="https://danache.com/marriage-podcasts/49-5-boundaries-every-marriage-needs-young-married-series/">5 Boundaries Every Marriage Needs</a>
<a href="https://danache.com/marriage-podcasts/356-how-to-approach-difficult-conversations-with-confidence-sweet-repeat/">How to Approach Difficult Conversations with Confidence</a>
<a href="https://danache.com/marriage-podcasts/384-when-marriage-is-harder-than-you-ever-expected-tried-and-true/">When Marriage is Harder than You Ever Expected</a>

From unmet expectations to trust issues and loneliness in marriage, this episode exposes eight conversations you're likely avoiding in your marriage and how it's causing the disconnection gap to widen.

8 Conversations You're Likely Avoiding in Your Marriage & How It's Widening the Distance (Tried and True)

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If you’ve found yourself disappointed, grieving unmet expectations, or questioning whether your relationship is supposed to feel this tough, you're not alone. It's a struggle that many couples face but rarely talk about openly—what to do when marriage is much harder than you ever expected. 

Plenty of couples walk down the aisle brimming with hope and expectation. After all, we’re conditioned to, right? The advice pours in from all sides before the big day: “Marriage takes work!” “There will be hard times!” But few truly believe the hard times will come for them. Most of us believe we’re the exceptions.

But disappointment is “part of the package” of marriage. It’s not pessimism—it’s reality. So, what DO you do with disappointment? Pretending everything is fine isn’t the answer. Nor is simply waiting for time to heal all wounds. Deliberate action is required to address and heal those emotional wounds. 

Key Takeaways:
Expect Drifting—and Intentionally Fight It
Don’t Lower Your Expectations. Negotiate Them.
When You Marry the “Wrong Person” (Or So You Think)
Pressure Reveals, It Doesn’t Destroy

Resources Mentioned in this Episode: 

My new book, Tried and True, releases in January 2026! Learn more at danache.com/triedandtrue.

For those who want to go deeper, get the free 5-day devotional companion to Tried and True, designed to help struggling couples reflect and reconnect.

Follow Dana Che on the socials! 

Instagram 

Facebook 

YouTube

Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review! 

If you&rsquo;ve found yourself disappointed, grieving unmet expectations, or questioning whether your relationship is supposed to feel this tough, you're not alone. It's a struggle that many couples face but rarely talk about openly&mdash;what to do when marriage is much harder than you ever expected.&nbsp;
Plenty of couples walk down the aisle brimming with hope and expectation. After all, we&rsquo;re conditioned to, right? The advice pours in from all sides before the big day: &ldquo;Marriage takes work!&rdquo; &ldquo;There will be hard times!&rdquo; But few truly believe the hard times will come for them. Most of us believe we&rsquo;re the exceptions.
But disappointment is &ldquo;part of the package&rdquo; of marriage. It&rsquo;s not pessimism&mdash;it&rsquo;s reality. So, what DO you do with disappointment? Pretending everything is fine isn&rsquo;t the answer. Nor is simply waiting for time to heal all wounds. Deliberate action is required to address and heal those emotional wounds.&nbsp;
Key Takeaways:
<ol>
<li>Expect Drifting&mdash;and Intentionally Fight It</li>
<li>Don&rsquo;t Lower Your Expectations. Negotiate Them.</li>
<li>When You Marry the &ldquo;Wrong Person&rdquo; (Or So You Think)</li>
<li>Pressure Reveals, It Doesn&rsquo;t Destroy</li>
</ol>
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:&nbsp;
My new book, Tried and True, releases in January 2026! Learn more at <a href="https://danache.com/triedandtruebook">danache.com/triedandtrue</a>.
For those who want to go deeper, <a href="https://danache.com/triedandtruebook">get the free 5-day devotional companion to Tried and True,</a> designed to help struggling couples reflect and reconnect.
Follow Dana Che on the socials!&nbsp;
<a href="https://instagram.com/mrsdanache">Instagram&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://facebook.com/mrsdanache">Facebook&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://youtube.com/@mrsdanache">YouTube</a>
Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review!&nbsp;

If you’ve found yourself disappointed, grieving unmet expectations, or questioning whether your relationship is supposed to feel this tough, you're not alone. It's a struggle that many couples face but rarely talk about openly.

When Marriage is Harder Than You Ever Expected (Tried and True)

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I’m joined by my husband, Shaun, to discuss the sometimes complicated world of gift-giving in a relationship. If you’ve ever found yourself debating with your spouse or partner over how much money you spend on gifts, how much is “too much,” or how to honor each other's money habits, this conversation is for you.

Shaun and I get real about our different financial personalities—me as the frugal saver who values experiences over things, and Shaun as the generous giver who believes in creating smiles through thoughtful presents. We share how our upbringings shaped these perspectives and how they lead to “spirited” conversations around the holidays, birthdays, and everyday giving.

Key Takeaways:


Value and respect each other’s approach to giving


Don’t go into debt for holiday gifts—find ways to bless your loved ones within your means


Set a simple holiday budget or gift limit to relieve stress


Recognize when old money stories (like scarcity thinking) are influencing your present


Focus on connection—sometimes a heartfelt note means more than any wrapped package

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

My new book, Tried and True, is releasing in January 2026! Get on the list to get your FREE 5-day devotional companion at danache.com/triedandtrue.

Still looking for simple ways to build connection with your mate? Get my "Ultimate Couple's Playbook" here. 

Follow Dana Che on the socials! 

Instagram 

Facebook 

YouTube

Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review! 

I&rsquo;m joined by my husband, Shaun, to discuss the sometimes complicated world of gift-giving in a relationship. If you&rsquo;ve ever found yourself debating with your spouse or partner over how much money you spend on gifts, how much is &ldquo;too much,&rdquo; or how to honor each other's money habits, this conversation is for you.
Shaun and I get real about our different financial personalities&mdash;me as the frugal saver who values experiences over things, and Shaun as the generous giver who believes in creating smiles through thoughtful presents. We share how our upbringings shaped these perspectives and how they lead to &ldquo;spirited&rdquo; conversations around the holidays, birthdays, and everyday giving.
Key Takeaways:
<ul>
<li>
Value and respect each other&rsquo;s approach to giving
</li>
<li>
Don&rsquo;t go into debt for holiday gifts&mdash;find ways to bless your loved ones within your means
</li>
<li>
Set a simple holiday budget or gift limit to relieve stress
</li>
<li>
Recognize when old money stories (like scarcity thinking) are influencing your present
</li>
<li>
Focus on connection&mdash;sometimes a heartfelt note means more than any wrapped package
</li>
</ul>
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
My new book, Tried and True, is releasing in January 2026! Get on the list to get your FREE 5-day devotional companion at <a href="https://danache.com/triedandtrue">danache.com/triedandtrue</a>.
Still looking for simple ways to build connection with your mate? Get my <a href="https://danache.com/ultimatecouple">"Ultimate Couple's Playbook" here.&nbsp;</a>
Follow Dana Che on the socials!&nbsp;
<a href="https://instagram.com/mrsdanache">Instagram&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://facebook.com/mrsdanache">Facebook&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://youtube.com/@mrsdanache">YouTube</a>
Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review!&nbsp;

If you’ve ever found yourself debating with your spouse or partner over how much money you spend on gifts, how much is “too much,” or how to honor each other's money habits, this conversation is for you.

Savers vs Spenders: How Couples Handle Holiday Gift-Giving

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Q & A: Should I Come Clean About this Secret in My Marriage?

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