Finding out your spouse has been unfaithful can feel like your entire world has just shattered. I'm speaking directly to the person who is hurting, confused, and unsure of what to do next in this “best of the best” sweet repeat episode. Whether this terrible discovery is fresh or something you’ve been quietly carrying for a while, this conversation will help you take your first steps toward healing.

I'm also sharing from both sides of the story—as someone who has experienced infidelity and caused it—with compassion, clarity, and a path forward that doesn’t depend on your spouse’s readiness.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, ashamed, or alone… this episode is for you.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode
Why infidelity is more destructive than most people realize
The truth about healing (and why it doesn’t start where most people think)
Why jumping straight into couples or marriage counseling may not be the best first step
The importance of focusing on your personal healing first
Encouragement for those who haven’t told anyone yet
How to begin moving forward—even if your spouse isn’t ready

Get help now at danache.com/infidelityintensive.

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Finding out your spouse has been unfaithful can feel like your entire world has just shattered. I'm speaking directly to the person who is hurting, confused, and unsure of what to do next in this &ldquo;best of the best&rdquo; sweet repeat episode. Whether this terrible discovery is fresh or something you&rsquo;ve been quietly carrying for a while, this conversation will help you take your first steps toward healing.
I'm also sharing from both sides of the story&mdash;as someone who has experienced infidelity and caused it&mdash;with compassion, clarity, and a path forward that doesn&rsquo;t depend on your spouse&rsquo;s readiness.
If you&rsquo;re feeling overwhelmed, ashamed, or alone&hellip; this episode is for you.
What You&rsquo;ll Hear in This Episode
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<li data-section-id="ogh07p" data-start="961" data-end="1024">Why infidelity is more destructive than most people realize</li>
<li data-section-id="657hon" data-start="1025" data-end="1103">The truth about healing (and why it doesn&rsquo;t start where most people think)</li>
<li data-section-id="cbctni" data-start="1104" data-end="1183">Why jumping straight into couples or marriage counseling may not be the best first step</li>
<li data-section-id="nj7az6" data-start="1184" data-end="1249">The importance of focusing on your personal healing first</li>
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</ul>
Get help now at <a href="https://danache.com/infidelityintensive">danache.com/infidelityintensive</a>.
Follow Dana Che on the socials!&nbsp;
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Ever wish there was an "easy" button for marriage? Or that you just had someone who understands the struggle? Rebuilding Us is a top-rated marriage podcast to help you restore intimacy, rebuild trust, and renew hope in your marriage. Join marriage coach Dana Che, who's been married to her hubby, Shaun, for 25 years as she guides couples on the journey toward restoration and connection.

Each episode includes real-life stories, practical strategies, and faith-filled insights to help you reignite love, deepen commitment, and create a thriving, joy-filled relationship. Say goodbye to Christian clichés—Dana’s relatable, no-nonsense approach (with a touch of humor!) will keep you coming back week after week. 

Whether you’re healing from infidelity, seeking stronger communication, or simply longing for a closer bond, this podcast equips you with the tools and encouragement to rebuild not just your relationship but yourself. 

Let the rebuild begin!  

**New episodes drop every Tuesday and Friday. Subscribe now and take the first step toward your best marriage yet.

My new book is out! Get Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples wherever books are sold! 

Tried and True is a marriage guide for couples facing pressure—disappointment, unmet expectations, seasons of delay, or conflict. Drawing from twelve flawed biblical couples, this book helps you understand what your trials are revealing—and how God can use them to strengthen your covenant and your connection.

Ever wish there was an "easy" button for marriage? Or that you just had someone who understands the struggle?&nbsp;Rebuilding Us is a top-rated marriage podcast to help you restore intimacy, rebuild trust, and renew hope in your marriage. Join marriage coach Dana Che, who's been married to her hubby, Shaun, for 25 years as she guides couples on the journey toward restoration and connection.
Each episode includes real-life stories, practical strategies, and faith-filled insights to help you reignite love, deepen commitment, and create a thriving, joy-filled relationship. Say goodbye to Christian clich&eacute;s&mdash;Dana&rsquo;s relatable, no-nonsense approach (with a touch of humor!) will keep you coming back week after week.&nbsp;
Whether you&rsquo;re healing from infidelity, seeking stronger communication, or simply longing for a closer bond, this podcast equips you with the tools and encouragement to rebuild not just your relationship but yourself.&nbsp;
Let the rebuild begin! &nbsp;
**New episodes drop every Tuesday and Friday. Subscribe now and take the first step toward your best marriage yet.
My new book is out! Get <a href="https://danache.com/triedandtrue" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://danache.com/triedandtrue&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1767879070424000&amp;usg=AOvVaw3Lc8E5zya32sng_mUFZb4t">Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples</a>&nbsp;wherever books are sold!&nbsp;
Tried and True is a marriage guide for couples facing pressure&mdash;disappointment, unmet expectations, seasons of delay, or conflict. Drawing from twelve flawed biblical couples, this book helps you understand what your trials are revealing&mdash;and how God can use them to strengthen your covenant and your connection.

Get the blueprint to improve your marriage and overcome hurt, rediscover intimacy, and deepen your connection. Communication problems got you down? "Rebuilding Us" gives you the valuable tools and encouragement to restore trust, learn from conflict, and navigate the ups and downs of marriage with grace and resilience.

Rebuilding Us: Marriage Podcast

A marriage podcast to help couples rebuild trust and rediscover genuine intimacy in their marriages. Sharing lessons from her 25-year marriage, marriage coach & speaker Dana Che will help you heal your past and find hope for your future as you glean effective marriage advice and tools from Dana Che and her guests. These episodic adventures will take you on a transformative journey to a happier and healthier marriage, through faith-based principles. 

With relevant relationship strategies, heartfelt stories, and uplifting messages of hope, aimed at inspiring marriages with lasting joy, intimacy, and fulfillment. No Christian clichés over here! Dana's tell-it-like-it-is yet warm humor will endear you to come back every single week.

The first letter in "us" is "u," so "rebuilding us" is also about rebuilding u (you). Whether you're seeking reconciliation, restoration, or simply looking for marriage enrichment, 'Rebuilding Us' will help guide your way.

New episodes drop every Tuesday & Friday. Subscribe today so you don't miss a single one!

My new book is out! Get Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples wherever books are sold! 

Tried and True is a marriage guide for couples facing pressure—disappointment, unmet expectations, seasons of delay, or conflict. Drawing from twelve flawed biblical couples, this book helps you understand what your trials are revealing—and how God can use them to strengthen your covenant and your connection.

A marriage podcast to help couples rebuild trust and rediscover genuine intimacy in their marriages. Sharing lessons from her 25-year marriage, marriage coach &amp; speaker Dana Che will help you heal your past and find hope for your future as you glean effective marriage advice and tools from Dana Che and her guests. These episodic adventures will take you on a transformative journey to a happier and healthier marriage, through faith-based principles.&nbsp;
With relevant relationship strategies, heartfelt stories, and uplifting messages of hope, aimed at inspiring marriages with lasting joy, intimacy, and fulfillment. No Christian clich&eacute;s over here! Dana's tell-it-like-it-is yet warm humor will endear you to come back every single week.
The first letter in "us" is "u," so "rebuilding us" is also about rebuilding u (you). Whether you're seeking reconciliation, restoration, or simply looking for marriage enrichment, 'Rebuilding Us' will help guide your way.
New episodes drop every Tuesday &amp; Friday. Subscribe today so you don't miss a single one!
My new book is out! Get <a href="https://danache.com/triedandtrue" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://danache.com/triedandtrue&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1767879070424000&amp;usg=AOvVaw3Lc8E5zya32sng_mUFZb4t">Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples</a>&nbsp;wherever books are sold!&nbsp;
Tried and True is a marriage guide for couples facing pressure&mdash;disappointment, unmet expectations, seasons of delay, or conflict. Drawing from twelve flawed biblical couples, this book helps you understand what your trials are revealing&mdash;and how God can use them to strengthen your covenant and your connection.

Finding out your spouse has been unfaithful can feel like your entire world just shattered. I'm speaking directly to the person who is hurting, confused, and unsure of what to do next.

I Just Found Out My Spouse Had an Affair—Where to Even Start?

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We're celebrating our 400th episode and tackling one of the most important topics in marriage—consistency. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling like your efforts to improve your marriage aren’t working or wondered if all those small daily actions really matter, this episode is for you.

Today, I’m sharing my personal journey and my not-so-secret struggle with staying consistent—not just in my marriage, but in life! I’ll walk you through a simple, actionable framework that I created called the CARE acronym (Check-in, Affection, Reassurance, Encouragement) to help you build trust, commitment, and affection in your relationship. I’ll also give practical tips for daily connection, show you how to stay motivated when you don’t see instant results, and explain why the little things you do will eventually transform your marriage.

You’ll hear:


Why consistency is a game-changer for marriage


How to use 5-10 minute daily check-ins to reconnect with your spouse


Simple ways to show affection and reassurance every single day—even if it feels awkward at first


Real encouragement to keep planting seeds, even when it seems like nothing is changing


How intentionality transformed my relationship with Shawn after years of inconsistency

Whether you’re newly married or have been together for decades, this episode will equip you with the tools you need to build a stronger, more secure marriage—one small, consistent step at a time. You can create the marriage you want, and I hope this milestone episode inspires you to start today!

Resources Mentioned in this Episode: 

Get my new book, Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples

Ep. 394: Do You Need Help, a Hug, or Just to Be Heard? 3 Questions Show Empathy and Care

 

Follow Dana Che on the socials! 

Instagram 

Facebook 

YouTube

Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review! 

 

We're celebrating our 400th episode and tackling one of the most important topics in marriage&mdash;consistency. If you&rsquo;ve ever struggled with feeling like your efforts to improve your marriage aren&rsquo;t working or wondered if all those small daily actions really matter, this episode is for you.
Today, I&rsquo;m sharing my personal journey and my not-so-secret struggle with staying consistent&mdash;not just in my marriage, but in life! I&rsquo;ll walk you through a simple, actionable framework that I created called the CARE acronym (Check-in, Affection, Reassurance, Encouragement) to help you build trust, commitment, and affection in your relationship. I&rsquo;ll also give practical tips for daily connection, show you how to stay motivated when you don&rsquo;t see instant results, and explain why the little things you do will eventually transform your marriage.
You&rsquo;ll hear:
<ul>
<li>
Why consistency is a game-changer for marriage
</li>
<li>
How to use 5-10 minute daily check-ins to reconnect with your spouse
</li>
<li>
Simple ways to show affection and reassurance every single day&mdash;even if it feels awkward at first
</li>
<li>
Real encouragement to keep planting seeds, even when it seems like nothing is changing
</li>
<li>
How intentionality transformed my relationship with Shawn after years of inconsistency
</li>
</ul>
Whether you&rsquo;re newly married or have been together for decades, this episode will equip you with the tools you need to build a stronger, more secure marriage&mdash;one small, consistent step at a time. You can create the marriage you want, and I hope this milestone episode inspires you to start today!
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:&nbsp;
Get my new book, <a href="https://danache.com/tried-and-true-book">Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples</a>
Ep. 394:<a href="https://danache.com/marriage-podcasts/394-do-you-need-help-a-hug-or-just-to-be-heard-3-questions-show-empathy-and-care/"> Do You Need Help, a Hug, or Just to Be Heard? 3 Questions Show Empathy and Care</a>
&nbsp;
Follow Dana Che on the socials!&nbsp;
<a href="https://instagram.com/mrsdanache">Instagram&nbsp;</a>
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Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review!&nbsp;
&nbsp;

We're celebrating our 400th episode and tackling one of the most important topics in marriage—consistency.

Stop Overthinking Your Marriage: The C.A.R.E. Method that Builds Consistency

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Do you often get frustrated or maybe even sad because it seems you're the only one working on your marriage? Like, your spouse is "in it," but he/she doesn't seem to take the marriage seriously. You often feel taken for granted, or you feel like you take two steps forward and twelve steps back?

Today's episode is just what you need to hear. This is a sweet repeat (an oldie but goodie)... a listener's question that I answered live on the podcast. 

My answer still holds true. And it will still work for you, too. 

Why You Should Listen? 

You’ll learn how to:


Change your step in the 'marriage dance'


Switch your focus 


Overcome frustration when nothing seems to be working


Get a new perspective

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

Is your relationship recovering from infidelity? Learn about my Infidelity Intensive here.

Follow Dana Che on the socials! 

Instagram 

Facebook 

YouTube

 

Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review! 

Do you often get frustrated or maybe even sad because it seems you're the only one working on your marriage? Like, your spouse is "in it," but he/she doesn't seem to take the marriage seriously. You often feel taken for granted, or you feel like you take two steps forward and twelve steps back?
Today's episode is just what you need to hear. This is a sweet repeat (an oldie but goodie)... a listener's question that I answered live on the podcast.&nbsp;
My answer still holds true. And it will still work for you, too.&nbsp;
Why You Should Listen?&nbsp;
You&rsquo;ll learn how to:
<ul>
<li>
Change your step in the 'marriage dance'
</li>
<li>
Switch your focus&nbsp;
</li>
<li>
Overcome frustration when nothing seems to be working
</li>
<li>
Get a new perspective
</li>
</ul>
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Is your relationship recovering from infidelity? <a href="https://danache.com/infidelityintensive">Learn about my Infidelity Intensive here</a>.
Follow Dana Che on the socials!&nbsp;
<a href="https://instagram.com/mrsdanache">Instagram&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://facebook.com/mrsdanache">Facebook&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://youtube.com/@mrsdanache">YouTube</a>
&nbsp;
Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review!&nbsp;

Do you often get frustrated or maybe even sad because it seems you're the only one working on your marriage?

[Sweet Repeat] What If I'm the Only One Working on My Marriage?

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As a marriage coach, I know firsthand how unspoken and unrealistic expectations can quietly sabotage even the strongest marriages. In this episode, I'm sharing practical strategies to help you define, communicate, and realign your expectations so you and your spouse can avoid unnecessary disappointment and disconnection.

We'll talk about the five most common unrealistic expectations couples face, including the beliefs that our spouse should never change, should make us happy, or should simply know what we're thinking. I share some of my own personal stories—like how my expectation for Shaun to be the spiritual leader in our home led to unnecessary disappointment and what I learned about the roots of where that specific expectation came from.

You’ll learn how to:


Get curious together instead of assuming your way is the only way


Stay flexible and open to growth as both you and your spouse change


Collaborate and celebrate your unique strengths as a couple


Let go of the pressure to change each other


Develop a gratitude mindset for a more joyful marriage

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Get your copy of my new book, Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples

Related episodes: 
Ep. 126 - How to Create a Marriage Vision
Ep. 304 - 4 Expectations Every Marriage Should Have

 

Follow Dana Che on the socials! 

Instagram 

Facebook 

YouTube

Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review! 

As a marriage coach, I know firsthand how unspoken and unrealistic expectations can quietly sabotage even the strongest marriages. In this episode, I'm sharing practical strategies to help you define, communicate, and realign your expectations so you and your spouse can avoid unnecessary disappointment and disconnection.
We'll talk about the five most common unrealistic expectations couples face, including the beliefs that our spouse should never change, should make us happy, or should simply know what we're thinking. I share some of my own personal stories&mdash;like how my expectation for Shaun to be the spiritual leader in our home led to unnecessary disappointment and what I learned about the roots of where that specific expectation came from.
You&rsquo;ll learn how to:
<ul>
<li>
Get curious together instead of assuming your way is the only way
</li>
<li>
Stay flexible and open to growth as both you and your spouse change
</li>
<li>
Collaborate and celebrate your unique strengths as a couple
</li>
<li>
Let go of the pressure to change each other
</li>
<li>
Develop a gratitude mindset for a more joyful marriage
</li>
</ul>
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Get your copy of my new book, <a href="https://danache.com/tried-and-true-book">Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples</a>
Related episodes:&nbsp;
<ul>
<li><a href="https://danache.com/marriage-podcasts/126-how-to-create-a-vision-for-your-marriage-my-step-by-step-process/">Ep. 126 - How to Create a Marriage Vision</a></li>
<li><a href="https://danache.com/marriage-podcasts/304-4-expectations-every-marriage-should-have/">Ep. 304 - 4 Expectations Every Marriage Should Have</a></li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Follow Dana Che on the socials!&nbsp;
<a href="https://instagram.com/mrsdanache">Instagram&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://facebook.com/mrsdanache">Facebook&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://youtube.com/@mrsdanache">YouTube</a>
Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review!&nbsp;

As a marriage coach, I know firsthand how unspoken and unrealistic expectations can quietly sabotage even the strongest marriages. In this episode, I'm sharing practical strategies to help you define, communicate, and realign your expectations so you and your spouse can avoid unnecessary disappointment and disconnection.

Could These 5 Unspoken Expectations Be Hurting Your Marriage?

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I Just Found Out My Spouse Had an Affair—Where to Even Start?

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