Have you dealt with rejection or the feeling of being forgotten or neglected? When the people closest to you treat you like you're invisible or unimportant, it can trigger all sorts of emotions and insecurities. In today's podcast episode, I'm sharing a story of a woman who gave and gave, but her best still wasn't good enough. She was literally discarded like yesterday's news. But in that pain, she found God. Not just a God she'd heard about, but one she encountered for herself. 

Join me as I share how God sees you, supports you, and stays with you...even when everyone else walks away. This inspirational podcast episode will bless your marriage, your friendships, your family relationships, and your whole life. 

Key Takeaways:


The Power of God's Names:


El Roi: The God Who Sees Me
Hagar, from Genesis 16, is the first person in Scripture to give God a name. Through Hagar’s experience, we see how God sees us in our struggles, loneliness, and pain.


El Shaddai: The All-Sufficient One
No matter what we feel we lack—whether in life or in marriage—God is more than enough and provides everything we need.


Jehovah Shalom: The Lord is Peace
Invoking God’s shalom means declaring His full, restorative peace over our homes and relationships.


Emmanuel: God With Us
God is not distant; He is present in every season, moment, and even in conflict, offering comfort and companionship.

Resources Mentioned in this Episode

Download my FREE "Speak Life Affirmations" audio and combat every negative thought with the truth of God's word. 

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Have you dealt with rejection or the feeling of being forgotten or neglected? When the people closest to you treat you like you're invisible or unimportant, it can trigger all sorts of emotions and insecurities. In today's podcast episode, I'm sharing a story of a woman who gave and gave, but her best still wasn't good enough. She was literally discarded like yesterday's news. But in that pain, she found God. Not just a God she'd heard about, but one she encountered for herself.&nbsp;
Join me as I share how God sees you, supports you, and stays with you...even when everyone else walks away. This inspirational podcast episode will bless your marriage, your friendships, your family relationships, and your whole life.&nbsp;
Key Takeaways:
<ul>
<li data-pm-slice="2 4 [&quot;bulletList&quot;,{}]">
The Power of God's Names:
<ul>
<li>
El Roi: The God Who Sees Me Hagar, from Genesis 16, is the first person in Scripture to give God a name. Through Hagar&rsquo;s experience, we see how God sees us in our struggles, loneliness, and pain.
</li>
<li>
El Shaddai: The All-Sufficient One No matter what we feel we lack&mdash;whether in life or in marriage&mdash;God is more than enough and provides everything we need.
</li>
<li>
Jehovah Shalom: The Lord is Peace Invoking God&rsquo;s shalom means declaring His full, restorative peace over our homes and relationships.
</li>
<li>
Emmanuel: God With Us God is not distant; He is present in every season, moment, and even in conflict, offering comfort and companionship.
</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>
Resources Mentioned in this Episode
<a href="https://danache.com/speaklife">Download my FREE "Speak Life Affirmations" audio</a> and combat every negative thought with the truth of God's word.&nbsp;
Follow Dana Che on the socials!&nbsp;
<a href="https://instagram.com/mrsdanache">Instagram&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://facebook.com/mrsdanache">Facebook&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://youtube.com/@mrsdanache">YouTube</a>
Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review!&nbsp;

Rebuilding Us is a Christian marriage podcast for couples seeking relatable marriage advice, biblical encouragement, and real hope. With her signature no-nonsense approach, marriage coach and author Dana Che brings truth and grace to the hard conversations couples often avoid—while weaving in just enough humor to make the heavy topics feel a little lighter. Each episode helps couples rebuild trust, improve communication, restore intimacy, heal after infidelity, and reconnect emotionally and spiritually.

Through honest conversations, real-life stories, faith-filled wisdom, and practical relationship tools, Dana offers a clear approach to navigating conflict, betrayal, disappointment, and disconnection—without shame, clichés, or unrealistic expectations.

Whether you are recovering from infidelity, strengthening an already-good marriage, or simply longing for a closer bond, this podcast will help you create a healthier, more connected, Christ-centered relationship.

New episodes are released every Tuesday. Follow Rebuilding Us and begin your journey from conflict to connection.

Let the rebuild begin!

Get Dana's latest book Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples wherever books are sold! 

Rebuilding Us is a Christian marriage podcast for couples seeking relatable marriage advice, biblical encouragement, and real hope. With her signature no-nonsense approach, marriage coach and author Dana Che brings truth and grace to the hard conversations couples often avoid&mdash;while weaving in just enough humor to make the heavy topics feel a little lighter. Each episode helps couples rebuild trust, improve communication, restore intimacy, heal after infidelity, and reconnect emotionally and spiritually.
Through honest conversations, real-life stories, faith-filled wisdom, and practical relationship tools, Dana offers a clear approach to navigating conflict, betrayal, disappointment, and disconnection&mdash;without shame, clich&eacute;s, or unrealistic expectations.
Whether you are recovering from infidelity, strengthening an already-good marriage, or simply longing for a closer bond, this podcast will help you create a healthier, more connected, Christ-centered relationship.
New episodes are released every Tuesday. Follow&nbsp;Rebuilding Us and begin your journey from conflict to connection.
Let the rebuild begin!
Get Dana's latest book <a href="https://danache.com/triedandtrue" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://danache.com/triedandtrue&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1767879070424000&amp;usg=AOvVaw3Lc8E5zya32sng_mUFZb4t">Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples</a>&nbsp;wherever books are sold!&nbsp;

Get the blueprint to improve your marriage and overcome hurt, rediscover intimacy, and deepen your connection. Communication problems got you down? "Rebuilding Us" gives you the valuable tools and encouragement to restore trust, learn from conflict, and navigate the ups and downs of marriage with grace and resilience.

Rebuilding Us: Marriage Podcast

A marriage podcast to help couples rebuild trust and rediscover genuine intimacy in their marriages. Sharing lessons from her 25-year marriage, marriage coach & speaker Dana Che will help you heal your past and find hope for your future as you glean effective marriage advice and tools from Dana Che and her guests. These episodic adventures will take you on a transformative journey to a happier and healthier marriage, through faith-based principles. 

With relevant relationship strategies, heartfelt stories, and uplifting messages of hope, aimed at inspiring marriages with lasting joy, intimacy, and fulfillment. No Christian clichés over here! Dana's tell-it-like-it-is yet warm humor will endear you to come back every single week.

The first letter in "us" is "u," so "rebuilding us" is also about rebuilding u (you). Whether you're seeking reconciliation, restoration, or simply looking for marriage enrichment, 'Rebuilding Us' will help guide your way.

New episodes drop every Tuesday & Friday. Subscribe today so you don't miss a single one!

My new book is out! Get Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples wherever books are sold! 

Tried and True is a marriage guide for couples facing pressure—disappointment, unmet expectations, seasons of delay, or conflict. Drawing from twelve flawed biblical couples, this book helps you understand what your trials are revealing—and how God can use them to strengthen your covenant and your connection.

A marriage podcast to help couples rebuild trust and rediscover genuine intimacy in their marriages. Sharing lessons from her 25-year marriage, marriage coach &amp; speaker Dana Che will help you heal your past and find hope for your future as you glean effective marriage advice and tools from Dana Che and her guests. These episodic adventures will take you on a transformative journey to a happier and healthier marriage, through faith-based principles.&nbsp;
With relevant relationship strategies, heartfelt stories, and uplifting messages of hope, aimed at inspiring marriages with lasting joy, intimacy, and fulfillment. No Christian clich&eacute;s over here! Dana's tell-it-like-it-is yet warm humor will endear you to come back every single week.
The first letter in "us" is "u," so "rebuilding us" is also about rebuilding u (you). Whether you're seeking reconciliation, restoration, or simply looking for marriage enrichment, 'Rebuilding Us' will help guide your way.
New episodes drop every Tuesday &amp; Friday. Subscribe today so you don't miss a single one!
My new book is out! Get <a href="https://danache.com/triedandtrue" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://danache.com/triedandtrue&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1767879070424000&amp;usg=AOvVaw3Lc8E5zya32sng_mUFZb4t">Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples</a>&nbsp;wherever books are sold!&nbsp;
Tried and True is a marriage guide for couples facing pressure&mdash;disappointment, unmet expectations, seasons of delay, or conflict. Drawing from twelve flawed biblical couples, this book helps you understand what your trials are revealing&mdash;and how God can use them to strengthen your covenant and your connection.

Have you dealt with rejection or the feeling of being forgotten or neglected? When the people closest to you treat you like you're invisible or unimportant, it can trigger all sorts of emotions and insecurities. 

Feeling Forgotten? The God Who Sees, Supports, & Stays [Sweet Repeat]

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/5e27a451-e6e6-4c51-aa03-a7370003783c/clips/400888c3-1c98-4ee5-abf1-b4a9017d476f/transcript

Let’s be honest—just because we grew up and got married doesn’t mean we left our triggers at the playground. Sometimes marriage can feel like an endless game of emotional Whac-A-Mole. In today’s episode, I’m unpacking the hidden childhood triggers that sneak into our marriages, those moments when a look or a phrase sends us spiraling back—defenses up, ready to fight, flee, or freeze. But surely there's a better way.

Here’s what we dig into:


Unpacking Childhood Baggage
We talk about why seemingly harmless comments from our spouse can unleash a flood of old wounds, and how those reactions aren’t just “sensitivity”—they’re well-worn ruts of our childhood stories.


Scarcity Mindset in Marriage
What happens when our knee-jerk belief is that there’s “not enough”—not enough love, attention, or security? I’ll confess the ways scarcity thinking creeps into my own marriage, and the choices I made, both emotional and practical, have started shifting our connection.


Faith and the Hard Work of Healing
Yep, we’re going there. I unpack where faith gets tangled up with those painful places—and why it matters. We talk about inviting God into the ugly-beautiful mess, not just the Instagrammable moments, and why radical honesty is sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do.


Steps Toward Healing—Without Pretending It’s Easy
This isn’t about quick fixes or pretending your marriage is something it’s not. We’ll get real about weariness. About losing hope. About showing up anyway and trying one more time. Because that’s where real change starts: not with grand gestures, but with brave, small choices over time.

Links & Resources:


Take my free quiz: How Connected a Partner Are You?


Get my new book: Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples


Recommended episode: “Unpacking Triggers, Strongholds, & Inner Healing - with Frank Meadows”
Support the Show: Your giving makes a difference!

Follow Dana Che on the socials! 

Instagram 

Facebook 

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Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review! 

Let&rsquo;s be honest&mdash;just because we grew up and got married doesn&rsquo;t mean we left our triggers at the playground. Sometimes marriage can feel like an endless game of emotional Whac-A-Mole. In today&rsquo;s episode, I&rsquo;m unpacking the hidden childhood triggers that sneak into our marriages, those moments when a look or a phrase sends us spiraling back&mdash;defenses up, ready to fight, flee, or freeze. But surely there's a better way.
Here&rsquo;s what we dig into:
<ul>
<li>
Unpacking Childhood Baggage We talk about why seemingly harmless comments from our spouse can unleash a flood of old wounds, and how those reactions aren&rsquo;t just &ldquo;sensitivity&rdquo;&mdash;they&rsquo;re well-worn ruts of our childhood stories.
</li>
<li>
Scarcity Mindset in Marriage What happens when our knee-jerk belief is that there&rsquo;s &ldquo;not enough&rdquo;&mdash;not enough love, attention, or security? I&rsquo;ll confess the ways scarcity thinking creeps into my own marriage, and the choices I made, both emotional and practical, have started shifting our connection.
</li>
<li>
Faith and the Hard Work of Healing Yep, we&rsquo;re going there. I unpack where faith gets tangled up with those painful places&mdash;and why it matters. We talk about inviting God into the ugly-beautiful mess, not just the Instagrammable moments, and why radical honesty is sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do.
</li>
<li>
Steps Toward Healing&mdash;Without Pretending It&rsquo;s Easy This isn&rsquo;t about quick fixes or pretending your marriage is something it&rsquo;s not. We&rsquo;ll get real about weariness. About losing hope. About showing up anyway and trying one more time. Because that&rsquo;s where real change starts: not with grand gestures, but with brave, small choices over time.
</li>
</ul>
Links &amp; Resources:
<ul>
<li>
Take my free quiz: <a href="https://danache.com/partnerquiz">How Connected a Partner Are You?</a>
</li>
<li>
Get my new book: <a href="https://danache.com/tried-and-true-book">Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples</a>
</li>
<li>
Recommended episode: <a href="https://danache.com/marriage-podcasts/346-unpacking-triggers-strongholds-inner-healing-with-frank-meadows/">&ldquo;Unpacking Triggers, Strongholds, &amp; Inner Healing - with Frank Meadows&rdquo;</a>
</li>
<li>Support the Show:&nbsp;<a href="https://danache.com/donations/support-the-show/">Your giving makes a difference!</a></li>
</ul>
Follow Dana Che on the socials!&nbsp;
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Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review!&nbsp;

Let’s be honest—just because we grew up and got married doesn’t mean we left our triggers at the playground.

Healing Old Triggers that Hijack Your Marriage

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In part two of this conversation on opposite sex friendships in marriage, marriage coach Sylvia Chipman and I reflect on how emotional affairs rarely begin with the intention to betray a spouse. They often develop gradually through personal conversations, frequent communication, shared experiences, and the comforting feeling of being deeply understood. A person may genuinely believe, “We’re just friends,” while unintentionally building a level of closeness that belongs within the marriage.

This is why boundaries are crucial for protecting not only your marriage but also your other friendship.

Key Takeaways:
How to respond when your spouse expresses discomfort.
Is preserving the friendship worth damaging your partner’s peace or weakening trust in your marriage?
How humility tied the cords of trust and security in your marriage
How your history, vulnerabilities, and level of trust shape the boundaries your marriage needs
Specific boundaries you may want to employ in your relationships

This episode isn’t about living suspiciously or refusing to interact with the opposite sex. It’s about choosing wisdom. Healthy friendships require transparency, appropriate communication, and boundaries both spouses understand and respect. 

Ultimately, there may not be one rule that fits every couple.  The goal is not to prove that you can handle a friendship—it is to protect the intimacy, safety, and trust you are building with your spouse.

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

Think your relationship may be in danger of an affair? Take my confidential "Affair Quiz" here. 

Learn more about Sylvia's marriage coaching here. 

Follow Dana Che on the socials! 

Instagram 

Facebook 

YouTube

Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review! 

In part two of this conversation on opposite sex friendships in marriage, marriage coach Sylvia Chipman and I reflect on how emotional affairs rarely begin with the intention to betray a spouse. They often develop gradually through personal conversations, frequent communication, shared experiences, and the comforting feeling of being deeply understood. A person may genuinely believe, &ldquo;We&rsquo;re just friends,&rdquo; while unintentionally building a level of closeness that belongs within the marriage.
This is why boundaries are crucial for protecting not only your marriage but also your other friendship.
Key Takeaways:
<ul>
<li data-start="1386" data-end="1730">How to respond when your spouse expresses discomfort.</li>
<li data-start="1386" data-end="1730">Is preserving the friendship worth damaging your partner&rsquo;s peace or weakening trust in your marriage?</li>
<li data-start="1386" data-end="1730">How humility tied the cords of trust and security in your marriage</li>
<li data-start="1386" data-end="1730">How your history, vulnerabilities, and level of trust shape the boundaries your marriage needs</li>
<li data-start="1386" data-end="1730">Specific boundaries you may want to employ in your relationships</li>
</ul>
This episode isn&rsquo;t about living suspiciously or refusing to interact with the opposite sex. It&rsquo;s about choosing wisdom. Healthy friendships require transparency, appropriate communication, and boundaries both spouses understand and respect.&nbsp;
Ultimately, there may not be one rule that fits every couple. &nbsp;The goal is not to prove that you can handle a friendship&mdash;it is to protect the intimacy, safety, and trust you are building with your spouse.
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Think your relationship may be in danger of an affair? <a href="https://danache.com/affairquiz">Take my confidential "Affair Quiz" here.&nbsp;</a>
Learn more about <a href="https://thrivemarriagecoaching.com">Sylvia's marriage coaching here.&nbsp;</a>
Follow Dana Che on the socials!&nbsp;
<a href="https://instagram.com/mrsdanache">Instagram&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://facebook.com/mrsdanache">Facebook&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://youtube.com/@mrsdanache">YouTube</a>
Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review!&nbsp;

In part two of this conversation on opposite sex friendships in marriage, marriage coach Sylvia Chipman and I reflect on how emotional affairs rarely begin with the intention to betray a spouse.

How These Boundaries Protect Your Opposite-Sex Friendships While Married - Pt. 2

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/5e27a451-e6e6-4c51-aa03-a7370003783c/clips/01417ef3-6c76-4b7c-9adb-b494013ce617/transcript

If you're married, can men and women really be just friends? It’s a question as old as time, sparking heated debates at dinner tables, in church lobbies, and—of course—in marriages. Today's episode is a sweet repeat,  where I sat down with my good friend and fellow marriage coach, Sylvia Chipman, to unpack this tricky territory: Can you maintain healthy, platonic friendships with the opposite sex after you’re married? Or is it just a slippery slope?

Sylvia and I get real and raw about our own experiences—some wins, some mistakes, and lots of lessons learned in hopes that you'll guard your marriages with intention.

Key Takeaways:
The emotional bonds that can form even if you’re not physically attracted to someone
Why setting healthy boundaries is crucial
How past wounds or histories of infidelity can shape your perspective on friendship with the opposite sex.
We also discuss “situationships,” the slow burn of emotional affairs, and how to spot (and avoid) potential pitfalls in your friendships.

You'll hear practical advice on communicating with your spouse about opposite-sex friends and how to get real with yourself so that you can be real with the true purpose of your friendships. 

Whether you believe it’s possible to have platonic friends in marriage or think it’s playing with fire, this episode will make you think twice about this important issue.

This episode originally aired on October 10, 2023.

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

Want to connect better with your spouse? Learn your "connection style" by taking my partner quiz here. 

Looking for a quick but strategic guide in connecting with your spouse? Get my new book, Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples. 

Connect with Sylvia and learn about her coaching here. 

Follow Dana Che on the socials! 

Instagram 

Facebook 

YouTube

Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review! 

 

If you're married, can men and women really be just friends? It&rsquo;s a question as old as time, sparking heated debates at dinner tables, in church lobbies, and&mdash;of course&mdash;in marriages. Today's episode is a sweet repeat, &nbsp;where I sat down with my good friend and fellow marriage coach, Sylvia Chipman, to unpack this tricky territory: Can you maintain healthy, platonic friendships with the opposite sex after you&rsquo;re married? Or is it just a slippery slope?
Sylvia and I get real and raw about our own experiences&mdash;some wins, some mistakes, and lots of lessons learned in hopes that you'll guard your marriages with intention.
Key Takeaways:
<ul>
<li data-pm-slice="1 1 []">The emotional bonds that can form even if you&rsquo;re not physically attracted to someone</li>
<li data-pm-slice="1 1 []">Why setting healthy boundaries is crucial</li>
<li data-pm-slice="1 1 []">How past wounds or histories of infidelity can shape your perspective on friendship with the opposite sex.</li>
<li data-pm-slice="1 1 []">We also discuss &ldquo;situationships,&rdquo; the slow burn of emotional affairs, and how to spot (and avoid) potential pitfalls in your friendships.</li>
</ul>
You'll hear practical advice on communicating with your spouse about opposite-sex friends&nbsp;and how to get real with yourself so that you can be real with the true purpose of your friendships.&nbsp;
Whether you believe it&rsquo;s possible to have platonic friends in marriage or think it&rsquo;s playing with fire, this episode will make you think twice about this important issue.
This episode originally aired on October 10, 2023.
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Want to connect better with your spouse? Learn your "connection style" by<a href="https://danache.com/partnerquiz"> taking my partner quiz here.&nbsp;</a>
Looking for a quick but strategic guide in connecting with your spouse? Get my new book, <a href="https://danache.com/tried-and-true-book">Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples.&nbsp;</a>
Connect with Sylvia and learn about <a href="https://www.thrivemarriagecoaching.com">her coaching here.&nbsp;</a>
Follow Dana Che on the socials!&nbsp;
<a href="https://instagram.com/mrsdanache">Instagram&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://facebook.com/mrsdanache">Facebook&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://youtube.com/@mrsdanache">YouTube</a>
Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review!&nbsp;
&nbsp;

If you're married, can men and women really be just friends? It’s a question as old as time, sparking heated debates at dinner tables, in church lobbies, and—of course—in marriages. 

More than Friends? Getting Real about Friends of the Opposite Sex While Married - Pt. 1

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/5e27a451-e6e6-4c51-aa03-a7370003783c/clips/292090cc-9f0d-4bdf-96bc-b49401362f65/transcript

Feeling Forgotten? The God Who Sees, Supports, & Stays [Sweet Repeat]

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