I know you have good intentions, but want to know if you are helping or enabling? This episode will help you to discover if you are indeed an enabler: what it really means, the signs you might be an enabler, and the dangers of mistaking enabling for grace (especially within Christian circles and families). I share about my strength in setting boundaries, shaped by the experiences I witnessed growing up, and share practical advice for those who recognize enabling patterns in their marriage, parenting, and relationships.

🔎 What you’ll learn:
What enabling REALLY is (and why it’s not the same as grace!)
The difference between peacemaking and “peace-faking” ✌️
How enabling shows up in families, churches, relationships & even parenting
Why true grace is about EMPOWERMENT, not making excuses 💪
4 main reasons we enable (and how to break free!)

👉 Mentioned resources: As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.

Lysa TerKeurst’s Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: https://amzn.to/43V94wj

Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life: by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend: https://amzn.to/3HaQNTQ

A Church Called Tov by Scot McKnight: https://amzn.to/3SoOAqm

“Peacemaking or Peacefaking?” Rebuilding Us Podcast episode: Listen here.

📝 Like this episode? 👉 PLEASE leave a 5-star review and a few sentences about how this podcast has helped you. Your reviews help more people find Rebuilding US and strengthen their marriages! 💕

Need help with your marriage? Download my FREE 7 Secrets to Know Before You Say I Do or I Did! https://danache.com/7secrets 

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I know you have good intentions, but want to know if you are helping or enabling? This episode will help you to discover if you are indeed an enabler: what it really means, the signs you might be an enabler, and the dangers of mistaking enabling for grace (especially within Christian circles and families). I share about my strength in setting boundaries, shaped by the experiences I witnessed growing up, and share practical advice for those who recognize enabling patterns in their marriage, parenting, and relationships.
🔎 What you&rsquo;ll learn:
<ul dir="ltr">
<li>What enabling REALLY is (and why it&rsquo;s not the same as grace!)</li>
<li>The difference between peacemaking and &ldquo;peace-faking&rdquo; ✌️</li>
<li>How enabling shows up in families, churches, relationships &amp; even parenting</li>
<li>Why true grace is about EMPOWERMENT, not making excuses 💪</li>
<li>4 main reasons we enable (and how to break free!)</li>
</ul>
👉 Mentioned resources: As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.
Lysa TerKeurst&rsquo;s Good Boundaries and Goodbyes:&nbsp;<a href="https://amzn.to/43V94wj">https://amzn.to/43V94wj</a>
Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life: by Dr. Henry Cloud &amp; Dr. John Townsend:&nbsp;<a href="https://amzn.to/3HaQNTQ">https://amzn.to/3HaQNTQ</a>
A Church Called Tov by Scot McKnight: <a href="https://amzn.to/3SoOAqm">https://amzn.to/3SoOAqm</a>
&ldquo;Peacemaking or Peacefaking?&rdquo; Rebuilding Us Podcast episode: <a href="https://danache.com/marriage-podcasts/296-are-you-a-peacemaker-or-a-peacefaker-in-your-relationship/">Listen here.</a>
📝 Like this episode? 👉&nbsp;PLEASE leave a 5-star review and a few sentences about how this podcast has helped you. Your reviews help more people find Rebuilding US and strengthen their marriages! 💕
Need help with your marriage? Download my FREE 7 Secrets to Know Before You Say I Do or I Did! https://danache.com/7secrets&nbsp;
Follow Dana Che on <a href="https://instagram.com/mrsdanache">Instagram</a>,&nbsp;<a href="https://facebook.com/mrsdanache">Facebook</a>, and watch these episodes on <a href="https://youtube.com/@mrsdanache">YouTube</a>!&nbsp;

Ever wish there was an "easy" button for marriage? Or that you just had someone who understands the struggle? Rebuilding Us is a top-rated marriage podcast to help you restore intimacy, rebuild trust, and renew hope in your marriage. Join marriage coach Dana Che, who's been married to her hubby, Shaun, for 25 years as she guides couples on the journey toward restoration and connection.

Each episode includes real-life stories, practical strategies, and faith-filled insights to help you reignite love, deepen commitment, and create a thriving, joy-filled relationship. Say goodbye to Christian clichés—Dana’s relatable, no-nonsense approach (with a touch of humor!) will keep you coming back week after week. 

Whether you’re healing from infidelity, seeking stronger communication, or simply longing for a closer bond, this podcast equips you with the tools and encouragement to rebuild not just your relationship but yourself. 

Let the rebuild begin!  

**New episodes drop every Tuesday and Friday. Subscribe now and take the first step toward your best marriage yet.

Ever wish there was an "easy" button for marriage? Or that you just had someone who understands the struggle?&nbsp;Rebuilding Us is a top-rated marriage podcast to help you restore intimacy, rebuild trust, and renew hope in your marriage. Join marriage coach Dana Che, who's been married to her hubby, Shaun, for 25 years as she guides couples on the journey toward restoration and connection.
Each episode includes real-life stories, practical strategies, and faith-filled insights to help you reignite love, deepen commitment, and create a thriving, joy-filled relationship. Say goodbye to Christian clich&eacute;s&mdash;Dana&rsquo;s relatable, no-nonsense approach (with a touch of humor!) will keep you coming back week after week.&nbsp;
Whether you&rsquo;re healing from infidelity, seeking stronger communication, or simply longing for a closer bond, this podcast equips you with the tools and encouragement to rebuild not just your relationship but yourself.&nbsp;
Let the rebuild begin! &nbsp;
**New episodes drop every Tuesday and Friday. Subscribe now and take the first step toward your best marriage yet.

Get the blueprint to improve your marriage and overcome hurt, rediscover intimacy, and deepen your connection. Communication problems got you down? "Rebuilding Us" gives you the valuable tools and encouragement to restore trust, learn from conflict, and navigate the ups and downs of marriage with grace and resilience.

Rebuilding Us: Marriage Podcast

A marriage podcast to help couples rebuild trust and rediscover genuine intimacy in their marriages. Sharing lessons from her 25-year marriage, marriage coach & speaker Dana Che will help you heal your past and find hope for your future as you glean effective marriage advice and tools from Dana Che and her guests. These episodic adventures will take you on a transformative journey to a happier and healthier marriage, through faith-based principles. 

With relevant relationship strategies, heartfelt stories, and uplifting messages of hope, aimed at inspiring marriages with lasting joy, intimacy, and fulfillment. No Christian clichés over here! Dana's tell-it-like-it-is yet warm humor will endear you to come back every single week.

The first letter in "us" is "u," so "rebuilding us" is also about rebuilding u (you). Whether you're seeking reconciliation, restoration, or simply looking for marriage enrichment, 'Rebuilding Us' will help guide your way.

New episodes drop every Tuesday & Friday. Subscribe today so you don't miss a single one!

A marriage podcast to help couples rebuild trust and rediscover genuine intimacy in their marriages. Sharing lessons from her 25-year marriage, marriage coach &amp; speaker Dana Che will help you heal your past and find hope for your future as you glean effective marriage advice and tools from Dana Che and her guests. These episodic adventures will take you on a transformative journey to a happier and healthier marriage, through faith-based principles.&nbsp;
With relevant relationship strategies, heartfelt stories, and uplifting messages of hope, aimed at inspiring marriages with lasting joy, intimacy, and fulfillment. No Christian clich&eacute;s over here! Dana's tell-it-like-it-is yet warm humor will endear you to come back every single week.
The first letter in "us" is "u," so "rebuilding us" is also about rebuilding u (you). Whether you're seeking reconciliation, restoration, or simply looking for marriage enrichment, 'Rebuilding Us' will help guide your way.
New episodes drop every Tuesday &amp; Friday. Subscribe today so you don't miss a single one!

I know you have good intentions, but want to know if you are helping or enabling? This episode will help you to discover if you are indeed an enabler.

Are You Helping or Enabling?

If you’ve found yourself disappointed, grieving unmet expectations, or questioning whether your relationship is supposed to feel this tough, you're not alone. It's a struggle that many couples face but rarely talk about openly—what to do when marriage is much harder than you ever expected. 

Plenty of couples walk down the aisle brimming with hope and expectation. After all, we’re conditioned to, right? The advice pours in from all sides before the big day: “Marriage takes work!” “There will be hard times!” But few truly believe the hard times will come for them. Most of us believe we’re the exceptions.

But disappointment is “part of the package” of marriage. It’s not pessimism—it’s reality. So, what DO you do with disappointment? Pretending everything is fine isn’t the answer. Nor is simply waiting for time to heal all wounds. Deliberate action is required to address and heal those emotional wounds. 

Key Takeaways:
Expect Drifting—and Intentionally Fight It
Don’t Lower Your Expectations. Negotiate Them.
When You Marry the “Wrong Person” (Or So You Think)
Pressure Reveals, It Doesn’t Destroy

Resources Mentioned in this Episode: 

My new book, Tried and True, releases in January 2026! Learn more at danache.com/triedandtrue.

For those who want to go deeper, get the free 5-day devotional companion to Tried and True, designed to help struggling couples reflect and reconnect.

Follow Dana Che on the socials! 

Instagram 

Facebook 

YouTube

Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review! 

If you&rsquo;ve found yourself disappointed, grieving unmet expectations, or questioning whether your relationship is supposed to feel this tough, you're not alone. It's a struggle that many couples face but rarely talk about openly&mdash;what to do when marriage is much harder than you ever expected.&nbsp;
Plenty of couples walk down the aisle brimming with hope and expectation. After all, we&rsquo;re conditioned to, right? The advice pours in from all sides before the big day: &ldquo;Marriage takes work!&rdquo; &ldquo;There will be hard times!&rdquo; But few truly believe the hard times will come for them. Most of us believe we&rsquo;re the exceptions.
But disappointment is &ldquo;part of the package&rdquo; of marriage. It&rsquo;s not pessimism&mdash;it&rsquo;s reality. So, what DO you do with disappointment? Pretending everything is fine isn&rsquo;t the answer. Nor is simply waiting for time to heal all wounds. Deliberate action is required to address and heal those emotional wounds.&nbsp;
Key Takeaways:
<ol>
<li>Expect Drifting&mdash;and Intentionally Fight It</li>
<li>Don&rsquo;t Lower Your Expectations. Negotiate Them.</li>
<li>When You Marry the &ldquo;Wrong Person&rdquo; (Or So You Think)</li>
<li>Pressure Reveals, It Doesn&rsquo;t Destroy</li>
</ol>
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:&nbsp;
My new book, Tried and True, releases in January 2026! Learn more at <a href="https://danache.com/triedandtruebook">danache.com/triedandtrue</a>.
For those who want to go deeper, <a href="https://danache.com/triedandtruebook">get the free 5-day devotional companion to Tried and True,</a> designed to help struggling couples reflect and reconnect.
Follow Dana Che on the socials!&nbsp;
<a href="https://instagram.com/mrsdanache">Instagram&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://facebook.com/mrsdanache">Facebook&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://youtube.com/@mrsdanache">YouTube</a>
Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review!&nbsp;

If you’ve found yourself disappointed, grieving unmet expectations, or questioning whether your relationship is supposed to feel this tough, you're not alone. It's a struggle that many couples face but rarely talk about openly.

When Marriage is Harder Than You Ever Expected (Tried and True)

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I’m joined by my husband, Shaun, to discuss the sometimes complicated world of gift-giving in a relationship. If you’ve ever found yourself debating with your spouse or partner over how much money you spend on gifts, how much is “too much,” or how to honor each other's money habits, this conversation is for you.

Shaun and I get real about our different financial personalities—me as the frugal saver who values experiences over things, and Shaun as the generous giver who believes in creating smiles through thoughtful presents. We share how our upbringings shaped these perspectives and how they lead to “spirited” conversations around the holidays, birthdays, and everyday giving.

Key Takeaways:


Value and respect each other’s approach to giving


Don’t go into debt for holiday gifts—find ways to bless your loved ones within your means


Set a simple holiday budget or gift limit to relieve stress


Recognize when old money stories (like scarcity thinking) are influencing your present


Focus on connection—sometimes a heartfelt note means more than any wrapped package

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

My new book, Tried and True, is releasing in January 2026! Get on the list to get your FREE 5-day devotional companion at danache.com/triedandtrue.

Still looking for simple ways to build connection with your mate? Get my "Ultimate Couple's Playbook" here. 

Follow Dana Che on the socials! 

Instagram 

Facebook 

YouTube

Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review! 

I&rsquo;m joined by my husband, Shaun, to discuss the sometimes complicated world of gift-giving in a relationship. If you&rsquo;ve ever found yourself debating with your spouse or partner over how much money you spend on gifts, how much is &ldquo;too much,&rdquo; or how to honor each other's money habits, this conversation is for you.
Shaun and I get real about our different financial personalities&mdash;me as the frugal saver who values experiences over things, and Shaun as the generous giver who believes in creating smiles through thoughtful presents. We share how our upbringings shaped these perspectives and how they lead to &ldquo;spirited&rdquo; conversations around the holidays, birthdays, and everyday giving.
Key Takeaways:
<ul>
<li>
Value and respect each other&rsquo;s approach to giving
</li>
<li>
Don&rsquo;t go into debt for holiday gifts&mdash;find ways to bless your loved ones within your means
</li>
<li>
Set a simple holiday budget or gift limit to relieve stress
</li>
<li>
Recognize when old money stories (like scarcity thinking) are influencing your present
</li>
<li>
Focus on connection&mdash;sometimes a heartfelt note means more than any wrapped package
</li>
</ul>
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
My new book, Tried and True, is releasing in January 2026! Get on the list to get your FREE 5-day devotional companion at <a href="https://danache.com/triedandtrue">danache.com/triedandtrue</a>.
Still looking for simple ways to build connection with your mate? Get my <a href="https://danache.com/ultimatecouple">"Ultimate Couple's Playbook" here.&nbsp;</a>
Follow Dana Che on the socials!&nbsp;
<a href="https://instagram.com/mrsdanache">Instagram&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://facebook.com/mrsdanache">Facebook&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://youtube.com/@mrsdanache">YouTube</a>
Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review!&nbsp;

If you’ve ever found yourself debating with your spouse or partner over how much money you spend on gifts, how much is “too much,” or how to honor each other's money habits, this conversation is for you.

Savers vs Spenders: How Couples Handle Holiday Gift-Giving

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It's the most wonderful time of the year—unless your relationship is in trouble. We're taking an honest look at how affection can ebb and flow in your relationship—especially during busy seasons like the holidays. Whether you consider yourself naturally affectionate or not, you'll learn why intentionally nurturing closeness matters for every couple. We're discussing real-life reasons affection can dip, ranging from plain old busyness and fatigue to unresolved wounds and letting family drama in. Plus, you'll hear practical tips to help your relationship not only avoid these "affection dips," but actually grow stronger and more connected in your marriage or relationship—no matter what time of year it is.

Key Highlights:


Why Affection Dips


Signs You’re Losing Connection


Intentional Steps for Growth


Forgiveness & Healing


Family Drama & External Voices

Resources Mentioned:


Ultimate Couples Guide
Get practical tools to strengthen your relationship: danache.com/ultimatecouple


Infidelity Intensive
Are you dealing with infidelity in your relationship? Get the help you need to recover from betrayal: danache.com/infidelityintensive


Episode on Forgiveness:
A step-by-step guide inspired by Desmond Tutu & Mpho Tutu’s “The Book of Forgiving.” Find the episode at Episode 150.

Listener Review Spotlight:

A longtime listener shares her thoughts on how the Rebuilding Us podcast has helped her and her husband to have more direct and meaningful conversations.

Follow Dana Che on the socials! 

Instagram 

Facebook 

YouTube

Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review! 

It's the most wonderful time of the year&mdash;unless your relationship is in trouble. We're taking an honest look at how affection can ebb and flow in your relationship&mdash;especially during busy seasons like the holidays. Whether you consider yourself naturally affectionate or not, you'll learn why intentionally nurturing closeness matters for every couple. We're discussing real-life reasons affection can dip, ranging from plain old busyness and fatigue to unresolved wounds and letting family drama in. Plus, you'll hear practical tips to help your relationship not only avoid these "affection dips," but actually grow stronger and more connected in your marriage or relationship&mdash;no matter what time of year it is.
Key Highlights:
<ul>
<li>
Why Affection Dips
</li>
<li>
Signs You&rsquo;re Losing Connection
</li>
<li>
Intentional Steps for Growth
</li>
<li>
Forgiveness &amp; Healing
</li>
<li>
Family Drama &amp; External Voices
</li>
</ul>
Resources Mentioned:
<ul>
<li>
Ultimate Couples Guide Get practical tools to strengthen your relationship: <a href="https://danache.com/ultimatecouple">danache.com/ultimatecouple</a>
</li>
<li>
Infidelity Intensive Are you dealing with infidelity in your relationship? Get the help you need to recover from betrayal: <a href="https://danache.com/infidelityintensive">danache.com/infidelityintensive</a>
</li>
<li>
Episode on Forgiveness: A step-by-step guide inspired by Desmond Tutu &amp; Mpho Tutu&rsquo;s &ldquo;The Book of Forgiving.&rdquo; Find the episode at <a href="https://danache.com/marriage-podcasts/150">Episode 150</a>.
</li>
</ul>
Listener Review Spotlight:
A longtime listener shares her thoughts on how the Rebuilding Us podcast has helped her and her husband to have more direct and meaningful conversations.
Follow Dana Che on the socials!&nbsp;
<a href="https://instagram.com/mrsdanache">Instagram&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://facebook.com/mrsdanache">Facebook&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://youtube.com/@mrsdanache">YouTube</a>
Like the show? Be sure to SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW the podcast! Then, give it a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and leave a great review!&nbsp;

We're taking an honest look at how affection can ebb and flow in your relationship—especially during busy seasons like the holidays. 

Holiday Affection Dip: Simple Strategies to Protect Your Affection

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/5e27a451-e6e6-4c51-aa03-a7370003783c/clips/56b782b3-6ecf-43e9-baaa-b3ad01727797/transcript

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