Legendary anthropologist Sarah Blaffer Hrdy gave us the term “allomother,” and by extension, “alloparent”—the pioneering idea that mutual care is the reason we’ve evolved to be the humans we are today. Hrdy, who is professor emerita at the University of California, Davis, has just written a new (and stunning) book, called Father Time: A Natural History of Men and Babies. Today, we talk about what she’s learned about human culture over the course of her long career, and the impact of her elegant hypothesis.

See more about this episode and guest on my Substack.



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Legendary anthropologist Sarah Blaffer Hrdy gave us the term “allomother,” and by extension, “alloparent”—the pioneering idea that mutual care is the reason we’ve evolved to be the humans we are today. Hrdy, who is professor emerita at the University of California, Davis, has just written a new (and stunning) book, called Father Time: A Natural History of Men and Babies. Today, we talk about what she’s learned about human culture over the course of her long career, and the impact of her elegant hypothesis.See more about this episode and guest on <a href="https://eliseloehnen.substack.com/p/the-podcast">my Substack</a>. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices">podcastchoices.com/adchoices</a>

Writer Elise Loehnen explores life’s big questions with today’s leading thinkers, experts, and luminaries: Why do we do what we do? How can we understand and love ourselves better? What would it look like to come together and build a more meaningful world?

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Writer Elise Loehnen explores life&rsquo;s big questions with today&rsquo;s leading thinkers, experts, and luminaries: Why do we do what we do? How can we understand and love ourselves better? What would it look like to come together and build a more meaningful world?
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How We've Evolved to Care (Sarah Blaffey Hrdy, PhD)

One of my favorite repeat guests is back: I’m talking to psychotherapist Satya Doyle Byock about the duality of individuation and community. We get into the difference between individuation and individualism, and why it’s critical for all of us to individuate—to go on our own journeys—so that we can genuinely be a part of the collective, and not just subject to herd mentality. We also chat about our search for meaning, and why Satya encourages people to trust an irrational guide. And we talk about getting in touch with our daemons—which you can think of as your inner genius, a spark that wants to come through you.

 

You can learn more about the retreat that Satya and I are hosting at Omega in May here: https://www.eomega.org/workshops/tapping-what-wants-come-through-you. 

 

And for all the show notes, head to my Substack.

One of my favorite repeat guests is back: I&rsquo;m talking to psychotherapist Satya Doyle Byock about the duality of individuation and community. We get into the difference between individuation and individualism, and why it&rsquo;s critical for all of us to individuate&mdash;to go on our own journeys&mdash;so that we can genuinely be a part of the collective, and not just subject to herd mentality. We also chat about our search for meaning, and why Satya encourages people to trust an irrational guide. And we talk about getting in touch with our daemons&mdash;which you can think of as your inner genius, a spark that wants to come through you.
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You can learn more about the retreat that Satya and I are hosting at Omega in May here:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.eomega.org/workshops/tapping-what-wants-come-through-you">https://www.eomega.org/workshops/tapping-what-wants-come-through-you</a>.&nbsp;
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And for all the show notes, head to&nbsp;<a href="https://eliseloehnen.substack.com/p/the-podcast">my Substack</a>.

The Deep Need for Individuation (Satya Doyle Byock)

“This is, I think, when people need more help remembering how to access their play or kind of letting themselves play—because adults do play,” says Cas Holman, a world-renowned designer and the author of Playful: How Play Shifts Our Thinking, Inspires Connection, and Sparks Creativity. Today, we talk a bit about Holman’s unique approach to play for kids, but mostly we talk about what she’s doing to help adults shift their mindsets—so that we might find age-appropriate ways to play that we genuinely enjoy and that can serve as a salve for our communities.

 

For the show notes, head to my Substack.

 

Get 50% off Monarch, the all-in-one financial tool, at monarch.com/thread.  

&ldquo;This is, I think, when people need more help remembering how to access their play or kind of letting themselves play&mdash;because adults do play,&rdquo; says Cas Holman, a world-renowned designer and the author of Playful: How Play Shifts Our Thinking, Inspires Connection, and Sparks Creativity. Today, we talk a bit about Holman&rsquo;s unique approach to play for kids, but mostly we talk about what she&rsquo;s doing to help adults shift their mindsets&mdash;so that we might find age-appropriate ways to play that we genuinely enjoy and that can serve as a salve for our communities.
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For the show notes, head to my&nbsp;<a href="https://eliseloehnen.substack.com/p/the-podcast">Substack</a>.
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Get 50% off Monarch, the all-in-one financial tool, at&nbsp;<a href="http://monarch.com/thread">monarch.com/thread</a>.&nbsp;&nbsp;

Remembering How to Play—Even When We're All Grown-Up (Cas Holman)

“Glorians are unearned, unbidden, freely given,” says legendary author and mentor Terry Tempest Williams. “And to me that's also what grace is—those moments of grace that we didn't anticipate, we didn't deserve, we couldn't have imagined. And here they are. And I think that's another element that is deeper than hope. And do we recognize grace when it comes in all its different manifestations?” For me, this is one of the most moving conversations I’ve had on Pulling the Thread. I treasure every stunning story Terry told during our time together. 

 

For Terry’s new book The Glorians, and all the show notes, head to my Substack.

&ldquo;Glorians are unearned, unbidden, freely given,&rdquo; says legendary author and mentor Terry Tempest Williams. &ldquo;And to me that's also what grace is&mdash;those moments of grace that we didn't anticipate, we didn't deserve, we couldn't have imagined. And here they are. And I think that's another element that is deeper than hope. And do we recognize grace when it comes in all its different manifestations?&rdquo; For me, this is one of the most moving conversations I&rsquo;ve had on Pulling the Thread. I treasure every stunning story Terry told during our time together.&nbsp;
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For Terry&rsquo;s new book&nbsp;The Glorians, and all the show notes, head to&nbsp;<a href="https://eliseloehnen.substack.com/p/the-podcast">my Substack</a>.

How We've Evolved to Care (Sarah Blaffey Hrdy, PhD)

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