When we first start working a lot of women look for women who look and sound like them - women who have walked the road before you, offered advice, opened doors and sometimes become mentors, big sisters or trusted friends. But can that relationship also come with an unintended cost? What has being friends with older women robbed you of? Has their experience and wisdom sometimes made you afraid to make your own mistakes? Have you found yourself following the path they recommended because you were scared of disappointing them — or because you trusted their experience more than your own instincts? To help us unpack this conversation we speak to Relationship and Marriage Coach, Lulama Mthembu.