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I won't let my body out be outwait everything that I'm made, don't won't spend my life.

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Trying to change. I'm learning love who.

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I am again. I'm strong, I feel free, I know everybody of me.

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It is beautiful.

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And then will always out way if you feel it, but you are She'll some love to the boy you have there, say good day and did you and die out way?

Happy Saturday, outweigh and welcome back to Part five of our Reclaiming Your Worthiness series. And in this series we've been unraveling the deep layers of what self love and worthiness really is and and honestly what it isn't. And so in Part one we talked about reclaiming your worthiness even if you don't accept yourself yet. You don't have to accept yourself to start this journey. In fact, we'll meet you there in part two, so we unpacked the toxic treadmill of external validation. In Part three we went into the emotional war that so many of us are fighting silently and secretly inside. And just last week in Part four, we called out the silent standards and rules that you didn't even know you were living by and how they have been dictating your worth. And so now we're diving deep into one of the most common emotional roadblocks I see in women who want to feel worthy but just can't seem to get there.

Happy Saturday, outweigh and welcome back to Part five of our Reclaiming Your Worthiness series. And in this series we've been unraveling the deep layers of what self love and worthiness really is and and honestly what it isn't. And so in Part one we talked about reclaiming your worthiness even if you don't accept yourself yet. You don't have to accept yourself to start this journey. In fact, we'll meet you there in part two, so we unpacked the toxic treadmill of external validation. In Part three we went into the emotional war that so many of us are fighting silently and secretly inside. And just last week in Part four, we called out the silent standards and rules that you didn't even know you were living by and how they have been dictating your worth. And so now we're diving deep into one of the most common emotional roadblocks I see in women who want to feel worthy but just can't seem to get there.

And it's this fear of being too much.

And it's this fear of being too much.

So there's this lie that so many women secretly believe, and it's that if I were just less of me, I'd be more lovable, or if I wasn't so much of this or too much of that or not enough this, then I'd feel worthy of love. Right.

So there's this lie that so many women secretly believe, and it's that if I were just less of me, I'd be more lovable, or if I wasn't so much of this or too much of that or not enough this, then I'd feel worthy of love. Right.

And it's not conscious, it's unconscious and subconscious. And so let's just get real here.

And it's not conscious, it's unconscious and subconscious. And so let's just get real here.

You know, so many of us have lived a lifetime of trying to shrink ourselves, whether it's physically, emotionally, even spiritually. And we've been taught to take up less space and to dial down our needs or mute our desires or you know, hide our hunger for food, for connection, for life. And when we don't do that, we're called needy or dramatic or you know, high maintenance or intense or whether you know, we called it to ourselves, right, and so we internalize this message again, it's not conscious, that I must just be too much, and over time that message starts to feel like truth. And like most emotional patterns, this one didn't start with you. It probably likely started years or even decades ago. Maybe you were told you were too sensitive when you cried, or I mean I lived in a house that was like, you know, go cry in the other room if you're going to cry. Maybe you were dictated, like to be too emotional when you expressed a boundary, or you know, too opinionated when you used your voice, or you know, too needy when you asked for more, you know, more love or more tension or more connection. And maybe someone made you feel like your feelings were inconvenient, or that you know, your excitement was embarrassing, like calm down, like like, don't get excited right, or that your appetite, you know, whether it was for food or for ambition.

You know, so many of us have lived a lifetime of trying to shrink ourselves, whether it's physically, emotionally, even spiritually. And we've been taught to take up less space and to dial down our needs or mute our desires or you know, hide our hunger for food, for connection, for life. And when we don't do that, we're called needy or dramatic or you know, high maintenance or intense or whether you know, we called it to ourselves, right, and so we internalize this message again, it's not conscious, that I must just be too much, and over time that message starts to feel like truth. And like most emotional patterns, this one didn't start with you. It probably likely started years or even decades ago. Maybe you were told you were too sensitive when you cried, or I mean I lived in a house that was like, you know, go cry in the other room if you're going to cry. Maybe you were dictated, like to be too emotional when you expressed a boundary, or you know, too opinionated when you used your voice, or you know, too needy when you asked for more, you know, more love or more tension or more connection. And maybe someone made you feel like your feelings were inconvenient, or that you know, your excitement was embarrassing, like calm down, like like, don't get excited right, or that your appetite, you know, whether it was for food or for ambition.

Was out of control.

Was out of control.

And so your brain did what brains do, and it learned and it adapted, and it said, Okay, I guess I'll just tone it down and i'll quiet the hunger and I'll be more palatable, right, whatever society dictates.

And so your brain did what brains do, and it learned and it adapted, and it said, Okay, I guess I'll just tone it down and i'll quiet the hunger and I'll be more palatable, right, whatever society dictates.

That to be.

That to be.

But here's the thing about constantly shrinking yourself to fit in. You end up losing sight of who you actually are. And what's even more painful is you begin to believe that the real you is somehow a burden or for me, I was like, it's a curse, you know. And then this fear affects your relationship with food in your body, not the other way around.

But here's the thing about constantly shrinking yourself to fit in. You end up losing sight of who you actually are. And what's even more painful is you begin to believe that the real you is somehow a burden or for me, I was like, it's a curse, you know. And then this fear affects your relationship with food in your body, not the other way around.

Right, And so let's connect the dots.

Right, And so let's connect the dots.

Okay, if your brain believes that your true self is too much, it's going to try to make you more acceptable by any means necessary. And it's not your definition of acceptable, it's your perception of what is acceptable. And so that often spills over into your relationship with food and your body, and so you restrict your eating to appear more in control, and you try to shrink your body because you think it will make you more lovable, or you use food to numb the big emotions that you were taught were just too much to feel.

Okay, if your brain believes that your true self is too much, it's going to try to make you more acceptable by any means necessary. And it's not your definition of acceptable, it's your perception of what is acceptable. And so that often spills over into your relationship with food and your body, and so you restrict your eating to appear more in control, and you try to shrink your body because you think it will make you more lovable, or you use food to numb the big emotions that you were taught were just too much to feel.

Or maybe you silence cravings.

Or maybe you silence cravings.

Not just for food but for life, right, because you learn to fear desire.

Not just for food but for life, right, because you learn to fear desire.

And so this is why the.

And so this is why the.

Brain and body are so connected when it comes to worthiness. And your behaviors are not broken, they're simply adaptations. And so if you were told that you were too much, it makes sense that you look for ways to take up less space. Right, But the solution is not more shrinking. I'm sure you've been doing that, right.

Brain and body are so connected when it comes to worthiness. And your behaviors are not broken, they're simply adaptations. And so if you were told that you were too much, it makes sense that you look for ways to take up less space. Right, But the solution is not more shrinking. I'm sure you've been doing that, right.

The solution is reclaiming your right to take up.

The solution is reclaiming your right to take up.

Space, like changing that narrative so that you are like, no, I have the right to take up space physically, emotionally, energetically, and so again, bringing this back to the thread, like, what does self love and worthiness have to do with all of this? Well, first off, let me just say this very transparently. Self love isn't about becoming less. It is about becoming more of who you really are. And it's about giving yourself full permission to feel and permission to want things and to express things and to show up unapologetically.

Space, like changing that narrative so that you are like, no, I have the right to take up space physically, emotionally, energetically, and so again, bringing this back to the thread, like, what does self love and worthiness have to do with all of this? Well, first off, let me just say this very transparently. Self love isn't about becoming less. It is about becoming more of who you really are. And it's about giving yourself full permission to feel and permission to want things and to express things and to show up unapologetically.

And it's it's kind of.

And it's it's kind of.

You know, about reparenting the part of you that was told to quiet down or tone it down or just sit down or shut up, right, And it's about trusting what your needs and your feelings and your presence, trusting that it's not only acceptable, but that it's necessary. Like your needs and feelings are not just acceptable, they're necessary. Because when you begin to love and accept that the you know too much parts of you, they stop feeling like liabilities and they start becoming your superpowers. The science also proves that your brain is wired for this connection, not the perfection that we've been striving for. And so let's talk neuroscience for a second. Remember how we talked about how the part of your brain that's wired for emotional safety, the anterior singulate cortex, We talk about it all the time. It is always scanning for cues, right, It's scanning for the cues like am I safe?

You know, about reparenting the part of you that was told to quiet down or tone it down or just sit down or shut up, right, And it's about trusting what your needs and your feelings and your presence, trusting that it's not only acceptable, but that it's necessary. Like your needs and feelings are not just acceptable, they're necessary. Because when you begin to love and accept that the you know too much parts of you, they stop feeling like liabilities and they start becoming your superpowers. The science also proves that your brain is wired for this connection, not the perfection that we've been striving for. And so let's talk neuroscience for a second. Remember how we talked about how the part of your brain that's wired for emotional safety, the anterior singulate cortex, We talk about it all the time. It is always scanning for cues, right, It's scanning for the cues like am I safe?

Am I accepted? Am I allowed to be who I am? Here?

Am I accepted? Am I allowed to be who I am? Here?

Like?

Like?

Can I just relax and be me?

Can I just relax and be me?

Right? And if the answer is no, it triggers a cascade of protective mechanisms and a lot of times that just shows up as shame or silencing yourself or perfectionism of disordered eating, like I mean, all the things that it triggers.

Right? And if the answer is no, it triggers a cascade of protective mechanisms and a lot of times that just shows up as shame or silencing yourself or perfectionism of disordered eating, like I mean, all the things that it triggers.

Right.

Right.

And so when you create internal safety, right, and this is what I mean by self image and identity, the kind that says like I've.

And so when you create internal safety, right, and this is what I mean by self image and identity, the kind that says like I've.

Got you, like I've got your back.

Got you, like I've got your back.

When you can say that to yourself, you send your brain the message it's been aching for, which is you are allowed to exist exactly as you are.

When you can say that to yourself, you send your brain the message it's been aching for, which is you are allowed to exist exactly as you are.

Okay, let me just say that again.

Okay, let me just say that again.

All right, you are allowed to exist exactly as you are. And when you start to practice that and condition that and live into that, that's when everything starts to shift and you stop trying to earn your place, and you stop outsourcing your worth, and you stop fearing your fullness, both metaphorically and literally, because you'll finally know you were never too much.

All right, you are allowed to exist exactly as you are. And when you start to practice that and condition that and live into that, that's when everything starts to shift and you stop trying to earn your place, and you stop outsourcing your worth, and you stop fearing your fullness, both metaphorically and literally, because you'll finally know you were never too much.

You were just too limited to receive all of who you are.

You were just too limited to receive all of who you are.

And so the truth that changed the game for me and so many of my students and clients is that like you being all of who you are, like the full you know, outgoing too much, whatever version of yourself, the full version of yourself, This is not a problem for you to solve, right, it is not.

And so the truth that changed the game for me and so many of my students and clients is that like you being all of who you are, like the full you know, outgoing too much, whatever version of yourself, the full version of yourself, This is not a problem for you to solve, right, it is not.

You are not a burden. You are simply a human being living, a human living with needs.

You are not a burden. You are simply a human being living, a human living with needs.

And desires and feelings and a whole spectrum and coaleidoscope of emotions. And so your appetite is not a character flaw, and your emotions are definitely not embarrassing.

And desires and feelings and a whole spectrum and coaleidoscope of emotions. And so your appetite is not a character flaw, and your emotions are definitely not embarrassing.

And no, your enthusiasm is not annoying.

And no, your enthusiasm is not annoying.

Okay, And your hunger right for food, for love, for connection, for rest, for fun, it is not excessive if we're feeding the actual hunger, right, And these are the parts of you that are human and they're beautiful and you are worthy of taking up space? Okay, And so if this is resonating with you, I want to just leave you with some things that you can kind of just be with or journal through. The first thing is where in my life have I believed that I was too much? Like just name it and claim it, right, but also like what version of myself have I been suppressing so that I don't feel like I'm too much and I can I'm trying to be accepted and lovable and all these things like where have I been suppressing myself? Maybe it's your talents, your creativity, your humor, what just your voice in general? And then what would it feel like to fully take up space fully emotionally, energetically, what would you do?

Okay, And your hunger right for food, for love, for connection, for rest, for fun, it is not excessive if we're feeding the actual hunger, right, And these are the parts of you that are human and they're beautiful and you are worthy of taking up space? Okay, And so if this is resonating with you, I want to just leave you with some things that you can kind of just be with or journal through. The first thing is where in my life have I believed that I was too much? Like just name it and claim it, right, but also like what version of myself have I been suppressing so that I don't feel like I'm too much and I can I'm trying to be accepted and lovable and all these things like where have I been suppressing myself? Maybe it's your talents, your creativity, your humor, what just your voice in general? And then what would it feel like to fully take up space fully emotionally, energetically, what would you do?

Who would you be if you were not afraid of being too much?

Who would you be if you were not afraid of being too much?

But also acknowledging like what are the needs and desires that I'm silencing or pretending aren't there that I want to learn how to honor? And the big one for me, like I always look at like what's the big bad wolf? It's like even if it scares me, right, what version of me is ready to be seen, and I want to learn how to show up as her, Like what is that big, bad wolf? Right?

But also acknowledging like what are the needs and desires that I'm silencing or pretending aren't there that I want to learn how to honor? And the big one for me, like I always look at like what's the big bad wolf? It's like even if it scares me, right, what version of me is ready to be seen, and I want to learn how to show up as her, Like what is that big, bad wolf? Right?

And if it's scared, like, what's the scary part? But like, what version of me is ready to be seen even if it scares me? Okay?

And if it's scared, like, what's the scary part? But like, what version of me is ready to be seen even if it scares me? Okay?

Because your too muchness is not the problem or a problem at all. It's the parts of you that have been waiting the longest to be.

Because your too muchness is not the problem or a problem at all. It's the parts of you that have been waiting the longest to be.

Loved, right.

Loved, right.

And then the hunger that you've been trying to silence, it's probably pointing to the very parts of you that need nourishment and healing, and those emotions that keep rising up, they're probably just begging for compassion instead of criticism.

And then the hunger that you've been trying to silence, it's probably pointing to the very parts of you that need nourishment and healing, and those emotions that keep rising up, they're probably just begging for compassion instead of criticism.

Right.

Right.

And if you feel big, right, the bigness that you feel, it is not shameful again, it could be your most beautiful superpower. And so if no one has told you this today, right, you are not too much? You absolutely never were And it is safe now to come home to yourself like fully, without apology, because the world doesn't need less of you. It needs more of the real you. Right, It truly needs more of the real you. And so that is it for today, outweigh and if you want to learn more about how I teach my clients to really this narrative that we're talking about, rewire their own brain and self image for peace and freedom, but of course turn off the parts of their brain that's obsessed with food and their weight in order to access that part of their brain. Then head on over to Stresslessating dot Com, where I've literally peeled back the curtain and just walked you through the exact strategy I teach my own clients to heal themselves and their brain and their narratives. But you know, without using words like macros and calorie burn, right, it is all about getting rid of the narrative that is keeping you stuck. And so it's there for you to access over at Stressless Eating dot com and we will be back for our final part of this series next week.

And if you feel big, right, the bigness that you feel, it is not shameful again, it could be your most beautiful superpower. And so if no one has told you this today, right, you are not too much? You absolutely never were And it is safe now to come home to yourself like fully, without apology, because the world doesn't need less of you. It needs more of the real you. Right, It truly needs more of the real you. And so that is it for today, outweigh and if you want to learn more about how I teach my clients to really this narrative that we're talking about, rewire their own brain and self image for peace and freedom, but of course turn off the parts of their brain that's obsessed with food and their weight in order to access that part of their brain. Then head on over to Stresslessating dot Com, where I've literally peeled back the curtain and just walked you through the exact strategy I teach my own clients to heal themselves and their brain and their narratives. But you know, without using words like macros and calorie burn, right, it is all about getting rid of the narrative that is keeping you stuck. And so it's there for you to access over at Stressless Eating dot com and we will be back for our final part of this series next week.

Bye,

Bye,