It's the big things- religion, parenting styles, financial decisions. These are things that have the potential to make or break a marriage.

Something we hear all the time is how important it is to “find someone with the same values as you." But is it not ok if you and your partner have different values?

How can we navigate this?

We spoke to Ernest Toho, dating coach and founder of Justified Connect Singles World, which offers matchmaking services.

It's the big things- religion, parenting styles, financial decisions. These are things that have the potential to make or break a marriage.
Something we hear all the time is how important it is to &ldquo;find someone with the same values as you." But is it not ok if you and your partner have different values?
How can we navigate this?
We spoke to Ernest Toho, dating coach and founder of Justified Connect Singles World, which offers matchmaking services.

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The phrase “indoda ayikhali” is a well-known isiZulu proverb  in South Africa that translates to “a man does not cry.” It reflects a deeply entrenched cultural belief in many African societies and others around the world that men must be stoic, emotionally reserved, and tough in the face of hardship.

This expression has historically been used to teach boys to suppress vulnerability and emotional expression, especially sadness or fear.

We debated the emotional upbringing of boys in 2025 with Musa Mseleku, traditionalist, polygamist and public figure, MKhulu Nobamba Zulu, founder Kwa-Nobamba Family Spiritual and Mental Wellness Institute and McDonald Thato Rametse, founder of Pakgama Learning and Mentorship Hub.

The phrase &ldquo;indoda ayikhali&rdquo; is a well-known isiZulu proverb &nbsp;in South Africa that translates to &ldquo;a man does not cry.&rdquo; It reflects a deeply entrenched cultural belief in many African societies and others around the world that men must be stoic, emotionally reserved, and tough in the face of hardship.
This expression has historically been used to teach boys to suppress vulnerability and emotional expression, especially sadness or fear.
We debated the emotional upbringing of boys in 2025 with Musa Mseleku, traditionalist, polygamist and public figure, MKhulu Nobamba Zulu, founder Kwa-Nobamba Family Spiritual and Mental Wellness Institute and McDonald Thato Rametse, founder of Pakgama Learning and Mentorship Hub.

 The African View: Do boys cry enough in 2025?”

Culture steers women, from day one of their lives, toward motherhood. Despite all the gains women have made, they still face enormous pressure and expectations to become mothers. 

A childfree woman is often viewed as “unnatural” or “selfish,” and it is typically assumed that something went wrong over the course of her life that caused her to turn her back on her reproductive destiny. Many childfree women feel stigmatized, misunderstood, and alone.

We spoke to Clinical Psychologist, Charity Mkone and Jean-Marc Groenewald, who together with his wife made a decision to be child free.  

Culture steers women, from day one of their lives, toward motherhood. Despite all the gains women have made, they still face enormous pressure and expectations to become mothers.&nbsp;
A childfree woman is often viewed as &ldquo;unnatural&rdquo; or &ldquo;selfish,&rdquo; and it is typically assumed that something went wrong over the course of her life that caused her to turn her back on her reproductive destiny. Many childfree women feel stigmatized, misunderstood, and alone.
We spoke to Clinical Psychologist, Charity Mkone and Jean-Marc Groenewald, who together with his wife made a decision to be child free. &nbsp;

Navigating the choice to be childfree

In today’s connected world, African professionals are making bold moves, stepping into global roles, joining international companies, and contributing to cross-continental teams. But with opportunity often comes a quiet tension: the clash of cultures, the unspoken rules, and the need to ‘fit in’ while holding on to who you are. From greetings and dress codes, to communication styles and even lunch choices, African identity often meets global expectations in ways that are both enriching and, at times, exhausting.

We unpack the real-life experiences of Africans navigating diversity, inclusion, and sometimes subtle exclusion in multinational workplaces with diversity expert, Asanda Ngoasheng.

In today&rsquo;s connected world, African professionals are making bold moves, stepping into global roles, joining international companies, and contributing to cross-continental teams. But with opportunity often comes a quiet tension: the clash of cultures, the unspoken rules, and the need to &lsquo;fit in&rsquo; while holding on to who you are. From greetings and dress codes, to communication styles and even lunch choices, African identity often meets global expectations in ways that are both enriching and, at times, exhausting.
We unpack the real-life experiences of Africans navigating diversity, inclusion, and sometimes subtle exclusion in multinational workplaces with diversity expert, Asanda Ngoasheng.

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