Are you a perfectionist? It is totally fine if you answered yes!

On this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty tells stories about how he overcame the perfectionist mindset and provides six simple steps for you to do it too. 

Are you a perfectionist? It is totally fine if you answered yes!
On this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty tells stories about how he overcame the perfectionist mindset and provides six simple steps for you to do it too.

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.

I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.
I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

Are you a perfectionist? It is totally fine if you answered yes!

On this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty tells stories about how he overcame the perfectionist mindset and provides six simple steps for you to do it too.

6 Steps to Overcome the Perfectionist Mindset and Focus On the Process

Have you ever let someone just be themselves?

How do you remind yourself what’s in your control?

Today, Jay  sits down with best-selling author and motivational speaker Mel Robbins to discuss her revolutionary “Let Them Theory.” Mel introduces a powerful mindset tool designed to help listeners take control of their thoughts, actions, and emotions while letting go of what they cannot control. This conversation dives into the heart of personal growth, resilience, and building a life centered on peace and purpose.

Mel begins by explaining the core of the “Let Them Theory,” which is about recognizing the limits of control. She emphasizes the importance of letting others be who they are, accepting situations as they unfold, and redirecting focus to what’s within your power. Through vivid examples, Mel demonstrates how this approach can reduce stress, strengthen relationships, and reclaim wasted energy.

Jay and Mel also explore the emotional weight of unmet expectations and the difference between “Let It Go” and “Let Them.” Mel shares how this subtle shift in mindset fosters empowerment rather than passivity. They also discuss the complexities of adult friendships and how they evolve over time. Mel introduces the three pillars of adult friendship—proximity, timing, and energy—and explains how these factors influence the ebb and flow of connections.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Identify What You Can Control

How to Handle Stressful Situations at Work

How to Set Boundaries with Difficult People

How to Let Go of Unmet Expectations

How to Manage Toxic Relationships Effectively

How to Build Meaningful Adult Friendships

How to Reclaim Energy Wasted on Others

Remember, you don’t need to have it all figured out. Start small. Say "let them" to release what’s draining you and "let me" to reclaim your energy and choices.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

Visit https://jayshettyshop.com - 100% of Proceeds are donated to National Alliance on Mental Illness. NAMI is the nation’s largest grassroots mental health organization dedicated to building better lives for the millions of Americans affected by mental illness.

What We Discuss:


01:47 What is the “Let Them” Theory


04:40 The Significant Difference Between “Let Them” and “Let Me”


06:49 Stop Obsessing Over Things You Can’t Control


14:03 People Only Change if They Want to


21:59 How Do You Let Difficult People Be


26:31 Learn to Value Your Time and Energy


35:10 Two Things that Truly Define Love


42:12 Let People Gossip About It


46:34 Don’t Expect Too Much From Others


58:22 You Aren’t Unlovable, Let Them


01:01:12 Let Them Lie to You, It’s Their Truth


01:04:17 Why is Adult Friendship Difficult?


01:12:35 The Hardest Way to Practice the “Let Them” Theory

Episode Resources:


Mel Robbins | Website


Mel Robbins | Instagram


Mel Robbins | YouTube


Mel Robbins | TikTok


The Mel Robbins Podcast


The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can’t Stop Talking About

Have you ever let someone just be themselves?
How do you remind yourself what&rsquo;s in your control?
Today, Jay&nbsp; sits down with best-selling author and motivational speaker Mel Robbins to discuss her revolutionary &ldquo;Let Them Theory.&rdquo; Mel introduces a powerful mindset tool designed to help listeners take control of their thoughts, actions, and emotions while letting go of what they cannot control. This conversation dives into the heart of personal growth, resilience, and building a life centered on peace and purpose.
Mel begins by explaining the core of the &ldquo;Let Them Theory,&rdquo; which is about recognizing the limits of control. She emphasizes the importance of letting others be who they are, accepting situations as they unfold, and redirecting focus to what&rsquo;s within your power. Through vivid examples, Mel demonstrates how this approach can reduce stress, strengthen relationships, and reclaim wasted energy.
Jay and Mel also explore the emotional weight of unmet expectations and the difference between &ldquo;Let It Go&rdquo; and &ldquo;Let Them.&rdquo; Mel shares how this subtle shift in mindset fosters empowerment rather than passivity. They also discuss the complexities of adult friendships and how they evolve over time. Mel introduces the three pillars of adult friendship&mdash;proximity, timing, and energy&mdash;and explains how these factors influence the ebb and flow of connections.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Identify What You Can Control
How to Handle Stressful Situations at Work
How to Set Boundaries with Difficult People
How to Let Go of Unmet Expectations
How to Manage Toxic Relationships Effectively
How to Build Meaningful Adult Friendships
How to Reclaim Energy Wasted on Others
Remember, you don&rsquo;t need to have it all figured out. Start small. Say "let them" to release what&rsquo;s draining you and "let me" to reclaim your energy and choices.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
Visit <a href="https://jayshettyshop.com">https://jayshettyshop.com</a> - 100% of Proceeds are donated to National Alliance on Mental Illness. NAMI is the nation&rsquo;s largest grassroots mental health organization dedicated to building better lives for the millions of Americans affected by mental illness.
What We Discuss:
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01:47 What is the &ldquo;Let Them&rdquo; Theory
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04:40 The Significant Difference Between &ldquo;Let Them&rdquo; and &ldquo;Let Me&rdquo;
</li>
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06:49 Stop Obsessing Over Things You Can&rsquo;t Control
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
14:03 People Only Change if They Want to
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<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
21:59 How Do You Let Difficult People Be
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
26:31 Learn to Value Your Time and Energy
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
35:10 Two Things that Truly Define Love
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
42:12 Let People Gossip About It
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
46:34 Don&rsquo;t Expect Too Much From Others
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<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
58:22 You Aren&rsquo;t Unlovable, Let Them
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<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
01:01:12 Let Them Lie to You, It&rsquo;s Their Truth
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
01:04:17 Why is Adult Friendship Difficult?
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
01:12:35 The Hardest Way to Practice the &ldquo;Let Them&rdquo; Theory
</li>
</ul>
Episode Resources:
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Mel Robbins | <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/">Website</a>
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Mel Robbins | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/">Instagram</a>
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Mel Robbins | <a href="https://www.youtube.com/c/melrobbins">YouTube</a>
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Mel Robbins | <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@melrobbins">TikTok</a>
</li>
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<a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast/id1646101002">The Mel Robbins Podcast</a>
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<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Let-Them-Theory-Life-Changing-Millions/dp/B0DFMZMKFJ/?_encoding=UTF8&amp;pd_rd_w=Rp7as&amp;content-id=amzn1.sym.bc3ba8d1-5076-4ab7-9ba8-a5c6211e002d&amp;pf_rd_p=bc3ba8d1-5076-4ab7-9ba8-a5c6211e002d&amp;pf_rd_r=132-8121315-7594942&amp;pd_rd_wg=OVMET&amp;pd_rd_r=8ae51e79-e6c5-4904-8848-02949c09243c&amp;ref_=aufs_ap_sc_dsk">The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can&rsquo;t Stop Talking About</a>
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</ul>

Mel Robbins: How to Use the ‘Let Them Theory’ (A Life Changing Mindset Hack That 15 Million People Can’t Stop Talking About)

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What’s your biggest goal for 2025?

What steps have you planned?

Happy New Year! Today, kicks off 2025 with a powerful message: this is your year to thrive, and the key lies within you. Sharing his proven six-step method, Jay walks listeners through a transformative framework for achieving personal and professional goals. From crafting your goals as compelling stories to prioritizing growth over mere outcomes, he offers a fresh perspective on making progress that truly lasts.

Jay dives deep into practical strategies like identifying the one personal and one professional goal that can redefine your life, understanding the power of small yet prioritized changes, and recognizing the need for community, coaching, and consistency to overcome challenges. He emphasizes the importance of measuring progress daily, weekly, and monthly to stay on track and reminds us to frame the year by understanding whether it’s a time to learn, experiment, perform, struggle, or thrive.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Focus on Small Changes with Big Priorities

How to Build Skills for Achieving Big Goals

How to Decide the Type of Year You Want to Have

How to Use the 80/20 Rule for Maximum Impact

How to Transform Energy into Momentum for Personal Growth

You have the tools within you to make this your most transformative year yet. Embrace the challenges, celebrate the victories, and stay committed to your vision. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:28 Focus on Building an Abundance Mindset

04:04 Step #1: Identify Your Top Personal and Professional Goal

10:09 Step #2: What Do You Need to Grow to Achieve Your Goal

14:44 Step #3: Decide What Type of 2025 It’s Going to Be

19:44 Step #4: Small Changes, Big Priorities

22:14 Step #5: Measure What Matters Daily, Weekly, & Monthly

24:15 Step #6: Coaching, Consistency, Community

26:04 What Are You Excited For This Year?

What&rsquo;s your biggest goal for 2025?
What steps have you planned?
Happy New Year! Today, kicks off 2025 with a powerful message: this is your year to thrive, and the key lies within you. Sharing his proven six-step method, Jay walks listeners through a transformative framework for achieving personal and professional goals. From crafting your goals as compelling stories to prioritizing growth over mere outcomes, he offers a fresh perspective on making progress that truly lasts.
Jay dives deep into practical strategies like identifying the one personal and one professional goal that can redefine your life, understanding the power of small yet prioritized changes, and recognizing the need for community, coaching, and consistency to overcome challenges. He emphasizes the importance of measuring progress daily, weekly, and monthly to stay on track and reminds us to frame the year by understanding whether it&rsquo;s a time to learn, experiment, perform, struggle, or thrive.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Focus on Small Changes with Big Priorities
How to Build Skills for Achieving Big Goals
How to Decide the Type of Year You Want to Have
How to Use the 80/20 Rule for Maximum Impact
How to Transform Energy into Momentum for Personal Growth
You have the tools within you to make this your most transformative year yet. Embrace the challenges, celebrate the victories, and stay committed to your vision.&nbsp;
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:28 Focus on Building an Abundance Mindset
04:04 Step #1: Identify Your Top Personal and Professional Goal
10:09 Step #2: What Do You Need to Grow to Achieve Your Goal
14:44 Step #3: Decide What Type of 2025 It&rsquo;s Going to Be
19:44 Step #4: Small Changes, Big Priorities
22:14 Step #5: Measure What Matters Daily, Weekly, &amp; Monthly
24:15 Step #6: Coaching, Consistency, Community
26:04 What Are You Excited For This Year?

6 Step Blueprint to Achieve All Your Goals for 2025 (Proven Method- Don't Skip This)

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What bad habit do you want to break?

What’s a health tip you no longer trust?

Today, Jay welcomes back Dr. Rangan Chatterjee, a UK-based physician, bestselling author, and podcast host, to discuss his latest book, Make Change That Lasts. Known for his holistic approach to health and wellness, Dr. Chatterjee shares nine transformative strategies to foster sustainable change in daily life, offering a blueprint for physical, mental, and emotional well-being.

The conversation explores why many health and lifestyle changes fail to stick, diving into the importance of self-awareness and the power of mindset. Dr. Chatterjee recounts how Western medicine often focuses on treating symptoms rather than promoting vitality, advocating for a harmonious blend of Western science and Eastern wisdom. He emphasizes the role of lifestyle choices—nutrition, movement, sleep, and even mindset—in shaping our health.

Jay and Rangan tap into practical tools and methods for understanding and addressing emotional triggers behind habits. They stress the significance of environment and relationships in fostering or sabotaging personal growth. Dr. Chatterjee also challenges the notion of harsh self-discipline, advocating instead for compassion, curiosity, and self-trust as the cornerstones of lasting change. 

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Build Habits That Stick

How to Create a Supportive Environment for Change

How to Reframe Negative Inner Narratives

How to Trust Yourself Instead of External Advice

How to Manage Stress with Mindset Shifts

How to Take Control of Your Health with Simple Choices

Change doesn’t have to feel like an uphill battle—it can be an act of self-love and empowerment. Trust yourself, listen to your inner wisdom, and approach each step of your journey with patience and grace.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:


00:00 Intro


01:50 Make Change That Truly Last


03:18 The Chronic Lifestyle-Driven Illness


05:58 Transformative Change Comes From Within


10:16 How Do You Break a Bad Habit?


16:17 Unbecome Who You’ve Become


27:08 What are Your Non-Negotiables?


37:31 The Root Cause of Wellness Failure


43:34 The Way You Do Things Matter


48:13 Do Fitness Trackers Work?


53:04 Why Do People Think the Way They Do?


01:03:48 You Can Change Yourself 

Episode Resources:


Dr. Rangan Chatterjee | Website


Dr. Rangan Chatterjee | Instagram


Dr. Rangan Chatterjee | YouTube


Dr. Rangan Chatterjee | TikTok


Dr. Rangan Chatterjee | Facebook


Dr. Rangan Chatterjee | X


Feel Better, Live More with Dr Rangan Chatterjee


Make Change That Lasts: 9 Simple Ways to Break Free from the Habits That Hold You Back

What bad habit do you want to break?
What&rsquo;s a health tip you no longer trust?
Today, Jay welcomes back Dr. Rangan Chatterjee, a UK-based physician, bestselling author, and podcast host, to discuss his latest book, Make Change That Lasts. Known for his holistic approach to health and wellness, Dr. Chatterjee shares nine transformative strategies to foster sustainable change in daily life, offering a blueprint for physical, mental, and emotional well-being.
The conversation explores why many health and lifestyle changes fail to stick, diving into the importance of self-awareness and the power of mindset. Dr. Chatterjee recounts how Western medicine often focuses on treating symptoms rather than promoting vitality, advocating for a harmonious blend of Western science and Eastern wisdom. He emphasizes the role of lifestyle choices&mdash;nutrition, movement, sleep, and even mindset&mdash;in shaping our health.
Jay and Rangan tap into practical tools and methods for understanding and addressing emotional triggers behind habits. They stress the significance of environment and relationships in fostering or sabotaging personal growth. Dr. Chatterjee also challenges the notion of harsh self-discipline, advocating instead for compassion, curiosity, and self-trust as the cornerstones of lasting change.&nbsp;
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Build Habits That Stick
How to Create a Supportive Environment for Change
How to Reframe Negative Inner Narratives
How to Trust Yourself Instead of External Advice
How to Manage Stress with Mindset Shifts
How to Take Control of Your Health with Simple Choices
Change doesn&rsquo;t have to feel like an uphill battle&mdash;it can be an act of self-love and empowerment. Trust yourself, listen to your inner wisdom, and approach each step of your journey with patience and grace.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
<ul>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
00:00 Intro
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
01:50 Make Change That Truly Last
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
03:18 The Chronic Lifestyle-Driven Illness
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
05:58 Transformative Change Comes From Within
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
10:16 How Do You Break a Bad Habit?
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
16:17 Unbecome Who You&rsquo;ve Become
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
27:08 What are Your Non-Negotiables?
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
37:31 The Root Cause of Wellness Failure
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
43:34 The Way You Do Things Matter
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
48:13 Do Fitness Trackers Work?
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
53:04 Why Do People Think the Way They Do?
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
01:03:48 You Can Change Yourself&nbsp;
</li>
</ul>
Episode Resources:
<ul>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
Dr. Rangan Chatterjee | <a href="https://drchatterjee.com/">Website</a>
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
Dr. Rangan Chatterjee | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drchatterjee">Instagram</a>
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
Dr. Rangan Chatterjee | <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDnwlb3IQDPJtFysPUJbDFQ">YouTube</a>
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
Dr. Rangan Chatterjee | <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@drranganchatterjee">TikTok</a>
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
Dr. Rangan Chatterjee | <a href="https://www.facebook.com/DrChatterjee/">Facebook</a>
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
Dr. Rangan Chatterjee | <a href="https://x.com/drchatterjeeuk">X</a>
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
<a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/feel-better-live-more-with-dr-rangan-chatterjee/id1333552422">Feel Better, Live More with Dr Rangan Chatterjee</a>
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Make-Change-That-Lasts-Simple/dp/1637745982/ref=sr_1_1?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.heWhrwEwBvl6pNxgb_DtsrNJnjXGlOAdAMVxsZMOu4pRlORC6_9I8PnHuGH3wnp1KCwEf0bCyvYIKHkitNrTTBQEm9aCHvB7Y9eF8XNCxchD2UPpC3zRIIfju9iB0GErtS1iLg8IqQhFbV5kMefJa9N35e5TceQC1jFpmok7UteCnbkEI-bT51pI6aIxFlgYW6NXzYiR617UumBvxhbkeA.q4A-Ph72ROmA2-MHBlY1bM50jlXXxWD25_ru7KzYI3U&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;qid=1733229253&amp;refinements=p_27%3ADr.+Rangan+Chatterjee&amp;s=books&amp;sr=1-1">Make Change That Lasts: 9 Simple Ways to Break Free from the Habits That Hold You Back</a>
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</ul>

Dr. Rangan Chaterjee: #1 Way to Break a Bad Habit & Why 50% of What Doctors Learn in Medical School Turns Out Wrong

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