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Why do some people stay in a relationship? People stay because they are in love obviously – but sometimes people stay because it’s convenient and they don’t want to waste the time they’ve already spent with that person. But is this really what makes you stay?

In this episode of On Purpose, we get to listen to Jay’s conversation with Lewis Howes where they talk about whether someone can stay in a relationship with someone for a very long time. 

Listen NOW to Episode #1 of "Awkward Therapy" with Lewis Howes & Jay Shetty on The School of Greatness
https://open.spotify.com/episode/50Y6khgBST9J48o3KqtY0k

Key Takeaways:
00:00 Intro
02:46 Real love is different from the movies
05:13 Desire in relationships
06:50 The chase and pursuit
09:56 Why you don’t need to love one person for the rest of your life
11:14 The reason why people stay in a non-working relationship
11:56 Starting a relationship in therapy
13:16 Seeing life in seasons
14:05 Polyamorous relationships will not give you peace
18:37 Have a conversation about the relationship that you want
22:20 Relationships should be high engagement - low attachment
24:58 A long term relationship does not mean it’s a successful one
28:20 Life story vs. love story
30:18 Commitment
31:26 Stop bringing baggage into the relationship
33:21 What you can learn in a committed relationship
37:52 Removing sexual chemistry in the start of a relationship
42:12 Wanting to be in a relationship because you feel lonely
44:50 Learn what you want to do together
48:12 The different stages of relationships
50:26 Inner peace

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Do you want to meditate daily with me? Go to <a href="http://go.calm.com/onpurpose">go.calm.com/onpurpose</a> to get 40% off a Calm Premium Membership. Experience the Daily Jay. Only on Calm Why do some people stay in a relationship? People stay because they are in love obviously – but sometimes people stay because it’s convenient and they don’t want to waste the time they’ve already spent with that person. But is this really what makes you stay?In this episode of On Purpose, we get to listen to Jay’s conversation with Lewis Howes where they talk about whether someone can stay in a relationship with someone for a very long time. Listen NOW to Episode #1 of "Awkward Therapy" with Lewis Howes & Jay Shetty on <a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/50Y6khgBST9J48o3KqtY0k">The School of Greatness</a> https://open.spotify.com/episode/50Y6khgBST9J48o3KqtY0kKey Takeaways:<ul><li>00:00 Intro</li><li>02:46 Real love is different from the movies</li><li>05:13 Desire in relationships</li><li>06:50 The chase and pursuit</li><li>09:56 Why you don’t need to love one person for the rest of your life</li><li>11:14 The reason why people stay in a non-working relationship</li><li>11:56 Starting a relationship in therapy</li><li>13:16 Seeing life in seasons</li><li>14:05 Polyamorous relationships will not give you peace</li><li>18:37 Have a conversation about the relationship that you want</li><li>22:20 Relationships should be high engagement - low attachment</li><li>24:58 A long term relationship does not mean it’s a successful one</li><li>28:20 Life story vs. love story</li><li>30:18 Commitment</li><li>31:26 Stop bringing baggage into the relationship</li><li>33:21 What you can learn in a committed relationship</li><li>37:52 Removing sexual chemistry in the start of a relationship</li><li>42:12 Wanting to be in a relationship because you feel lonely</li><li>44:50 Learn what you want to do together</li><li>48:12 The different stages of relationships</li><li>50:26 Inner peace</li></ul>Want to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty<a href="https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/"> https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/</a><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/on-purpose-with-jay-shetty/id1450994021">Like this show? Please leave us a review here</a> - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally!

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.

I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.
I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

Why do some people stay in a relationship? People stay because they are in love obviously – but sometimes people stay because it’s convenient and they don’t want to waste the time they’ve already spent with that person. But is this really what makes you stay?

In this episode of On Purpose, we get to listen to Jay’s conversation with Lewis Howes where they talk about whether someone can stay in a relationship with someone for a very long time.

3 Traits of Lasting Relationships & What You Can Learn From Failed Relationships

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/4605b2de-b866-4b79-9a9a-afd201539197/transcript

Pregnancy only lasts nine months, but what you eat during that time can shape your child for life.

Jay Shetty welcomes back biochemist, bestselling author, and “Glucose Goddess” Jessie Inchauspé for a conversation that goes even deeper into the impact she’s had on millions of lives. This time, they focus on something few people truly understand: pregnancy isn’t just a waiting period, it’s a critical window that can shape a child’s physical, mental, and metabolic health for life. Jay and Jessie unpack why so many parents feel under-informed, how outdated myths like “eat for two” still dominate the conversation, and what the science actually reveals about the nine months that truly count forever.

Jessie breaks down complex biology into simple, actionable insights. She explains how key factors: blood sugar balance, protein, choline, and omega-3s play a critical role in brain development, metabolism, and long-term disease risk for your child. Jay guides the conversation with curiosity and care, highlighting how small, intentional shifts during pregnancy can create lifelong resilience, while also acknowledging the systemic failures that leave parents without clear guidance or support.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Support Your Baby’s Brain With Just Four Key Nutrients

How to Reduce Blood Sugar Spikes That Affect Your Baby

How to Build Your Baby’s Brain Before They’re Born

How to Lower Your Child’s Lifetime Risk of Diabetes

How to Use Protein to Stabilize Energy and Nausea

How to Care for Your Mental Health After Miscarriage

How to Make Small Food Choices That Create Lifelong Impact

Life doesn’t come with a manual, we’re all doing the best we can with the information we have. When we learn more, we can make better choices, not just for ourselves, but for the people whose futures depend on ours.

Jessie’s latest book, 9 Months That Count Forever: How Your Pregnancy Diet Shapes Your Baby's Future, is available for pre-order now. Visit https://www.amazon.com/Months-That-Count-Forever-Pregnancy/dp/1668219123 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:54 Debunking the Biggest Pregnancy Myths

04:50 The Four Nutrients That Shape Your Baby’s Future

07:26 How Gestational Diabetes Impacts a Child for Life

11:58 How Much Protein Do You Really Need During Pregnancy?

14:22 What an Ideal Pregnancy Diet Actually Looks Like

19:08 Are You Actually “Eating for Two?” 

21:41 You’re Born With the Brain Cells You’ll Keep for Life

24:29 When Food and Supplements Work Best Together

27:02 Avoid These Foods During Pregnancy!

31:28 How High Sugar Intake Affects Pregnancy

36:07 The Modern Food System Is Failing Families

39:03 What Can Contribute to Miscarriage

41:15 Understanding Silent Miscarriage

46:21 Processing the Grief of Pregnancy Loss

49:02 The Most Common Causes of Miscarriage

51:42 What Happens When You Eat Sugar on an Empty Stomach

54:24 The Importance of Movement During Pregnancy 

57:09 How to Reduce Bloating During Pregnancy

57:44 Does a Father’s Diet Affect Conception?

59:01 Using Food to Set Your Child Up for Life

01:01:20 What the UK Sugar Ration Taught Us About Health

01:04:33 This or That: Pregnancy Edition  

Episode Resources:

Website | https://www.glucosegoddess.com/ 

Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/glucosegoddess 

X | https://x.com/glucosegoddesss 

TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@glucosegoddess_ 

YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@GlucoseRevolution 

Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/glucosegoddesss/

Pregnancy only lasts nine months, but what you eat during that time can shape your child for life.
Jay Shetty welcomes back biochemist, bestselling author, and &ldquo;Glucose Goddess&rdquo; Jessie Inchausp&eacute; for a conversation that goes even deeper into the impact she&rsquo;s had on millions of lives. This time, they focus on something few people truly understand: pregnancy isn&rsquo;t just a waiting period, it&rsquo;s a critical window that can shape a child&rsquo;s physical, mental, and metabolic health for life. Jay and Jessie unpack why so many parents feel under-informed, how outdated myths like &ldquo;eat for two&rdquo; still dominate the conversation, and what the science actually reveals about the nine months that truly count forever.
Jessie breaks down complex biology into simple, actionable insights. She explains how key factors: blood sugar balance, protein, choline, and omega-3s play a critical role in brain development, metabolism, and long-term disease risk for your child. Jay guides the conversation with curiosity and care, highlighting how small, intentional shifts during pregnancy can create lifelong resilience, while also acknowledging the systemic failures that leave parents without clear guidance or support.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Support Your Baby&rsquo;s Brain With Just Four Key Nutrients
How to Reduce Blood Sugar Spikes That Affect Your Baby
How to Build Your Baby&rsquo;s Brain Before They&rsquo;re Born
How to Lower Your Child&rsquo;s Lifetime Risk of Diabetes
How to Use Protein to Stabilize Energy and Nausea
How to Care for Your Mental Health After Miscarriage
How to Make Small Food Choices That Create Lifelong Impact
Life doesn&rsquo;t come with a manual, we&rsquo;re all doing the best we can with the information we have. When we learn more, we can make better choices, not just for ourselves, but for the people whose futures depend on ours.
Jessie&rsquo;s latest book, 9 Months That Count Forever: How Your Pregnancy Diet Shapes Your Baby's Future, is available for pre-order now. Visit <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Months-That-Count-Forever-Pregnancy/dp/1668219123">https://www.amazon.com/Months-That-Count-Forever-Pregnancy/dp/1668219123</a>&nbsp;
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
JAY&rsquo;S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX
Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe <a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe">here</a>.&nbsp;
Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! <a href="https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast">https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast</a>&nbsp;
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:54 Debunking the Biggest Pregnancy Myths
04:50 The Four Nutrients That Shape Your Baby&rsquo;s Future
07:26 How Gestational Diabetes Impacts a Child for Life
11:58 How Much Protein Do You Really Need During Pregnancy?
14:22 What an Ideal Pregnancy Diet Actually Looks Like
19:08 Are You Actually &ldquo;Eating for Two?&rdquo;&nbsp;
21:41 You&rsquo;re Born With the Brain Cells You&rsquo;ll Keep for Life
24:29 When Food and Supplements Work Best Together
27:02 Avoid These Foods During Pregnancy!
31:28 How High Sugar Intake Affects Pregnancy
36:07 The Modern Food System Is Failing Families
39:03 What Can Contribute to Miscarriage
41:15 Understanding Silent Miscarriage
46:21 Processing the Grief of Pregnancy Loss
49:02 The Most Common Causes of Miscarriage
51:42 What Happens When You Eat Sugar on an Empty Stomach
54:24 The Importance of Movement During Pregnancy&nbsp;
57:09 How to Reduce Bloating During Pregnancy
57:44 Does a Father&rsquo;s Diet Affect Conception?
59:01 Using Food to Set Your Child Up for Life
01:01:20 What the UK Sugar Ration Taught Us About Health
01:04:33 This or That: Pregnancy Edition&nbsp;&nbsp;
Episode Resources:
Website | <a href="https://www.glucosegoddess.com/">https://www.glucosegoddess.com/</a>&nbsp;
Instagram | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/glucosegoddess">https://www.instagram.com/glucosegoddess</a>&nbsp;
X | <a href="https://x.com/glucosegoddesss">https://x.com/glucosegoddesss</a>&nbsp;
TikTok | <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@glucosegoddess_">https://www.tiktok.com/@glucosegoddess_</a>&nbsp;
YouTube | <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@GlucoseRevolution">https://www.youtube.com/@GlucoseRevolution</a>&nbsp;
Facebook | <a href="https://www.facebook.com/glucosegoddesss/">https://www.facebook.com/glucosegoddesss/</a>

Jessie Inchauspé: 90% of Pregnant People Are Missing THIS Nutrient (Follow THIS Simple Diet To Reduce Glucose Spikes & Protect Your Baby’s Brain & Metabolism) 

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/97f5d7c4-47df-4ca7-9a35-b3fa00551afc/transcript

Why can it sometimes feel easier to connect with the outside world than with the person we love most?

Jay explores why love can feel stressful instead of safe, even when both people care deeply. Drawing from his Audible Original Messy Love: Difficult Conversations for Deeper Connection, he breaks down the everyday habits that quietly create distance: subtle disrespect, scorekeeping, unspoken resentment, mismatched conflict styles, and the fear of saying what we really feel. Through real sessions with three couples, he shows that what we often label as incompatibility is rarely about love itself, it’s about unresolved hurt, inherited fight patterns, and the deep need to feel respected, recognized, and taken seriously by the person we care about most.

Jay introduces five transformative principles that can help couples turn conflict into connection. From understanding how respect, not chemistry, is the true foundation of lasting love, to breaking the silent resentment of scorekeeping, he invites listeners to reflect on where imbalance, miscommunication, and unexpressed needs may be shaping their connection. He explains how our conflict styles, whether we vent, hide, or explode, are protective patterns learned over time, and why repair, not perfection, is the true marker of a healthy relationship.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Build Love on Respect, Not Just Chemistry

How to Stop Scorekeeping Before It Turns Into Resentment

How to Express Needs Without Blame

How to Identify and Improve Your Conflict Style

How to Repair After an Argument Instead of Withdrawing

How to Communicate Feelings Instead of Accusations

Healthy love isn’t built in grand gestures or perfect moments. It’s built when two people choose understanding over ego, consistency over intensity, and respect over being right. And knowing those choices are available to you at any moment.

Listen to Jay’s Messy Love: Difficult Conversations for Deeper Connection on Audible. Visit https://www.audible.com/pd/Messy-Love-Audiobook/B0G16Z76ZD

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:17 Difficult Conversations for Deeper Connection

02:24 Principle #1: Influence, Respect, and Recognition

14:50 Principle #2: Scorekeeping

20:15 Principle #3: Conflict Styles

25:50 Principle #4: The X, Y, Z Communication Method

33:14 Principle #5: Create a 30-Day Agreement

Why can it sometimes feel easier to connect with the outside world than with the person we love most?
Jay explores why love can feel stressful instead of safe, even when both people care deeply. Drawing from his Audible Original Messy Love: Difficult Conversations for Deeper Connection, he breaks down the everyday habits that quietly create distance: subtle disrespect, scorekeeping, unspoken resentment, mismatched conflict styles, and the fear of saying what we really feel. Through real sessions with three couples, he shows that what we often label as incompatibility is rarely about love itself, it&rsquo;s about unresolved hurt, inherited fight patterns, and the deep need to feel respected, recognized, and taken seriously by the person we care about most.
Jay introduces five transformative principles that can help couples turn conflict into connection. From understanding how respect, not chemistry, is the true foundation of lasting love, to breaking the silent resentment of scorekeeping, he invites listeners to reflect on where imbalance, miscommunication, and unexpressed needs may be shaping their connection. He explains how our conflict styles, whether we vent, hide, or explode, are protective patterns learned over time, and why repair, not perfection, is the true marker of a healthy relationship.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Build Love on Respect, Not Just Chemistry
How to Stop Scorekeeping Before It Turns Into Resentment
How to Express Needs Without Blame
How to Identify and Improve Your Conflict Style
How to Repair After an Argument Instead of Withdrawing
How to Communicate Feelings Instead of Accusations
Healthy love isn&rsquo;t built in grand gestures or perfect moments. It&rsquo;s built when two people choose understanding over ego, consistency over intensity, and respect over being right. And knowing those choices are available to you at any moment.
Listen to Jay&rsquo;s Messy Love: Difficult Conversations for Deeper Connection on Audible. Visit <a href="https://www.audible.com/pd/Messy-Love-Audiobook/B0G16Z76ZD">https://www.audible.com/pd/Messy-Love-Audiobook/B0G16Z76ZD</a>
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe <a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe">here</a>.
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:17 Difficult Conversations for Deeper Connection
02:24 Principle #1: Influence, Respect, and Recognition
14:50 Principle #2: Scorekeeping
20:15 Principle #3: Conflict Styles
25:50 Principle #4: The X, Y, Z Communication Method
33:14 Principle #5: Create a 30-Day Agreement

Stop Trying to “Win” An Argument With Your Partner! (THIS Shift Will Turn Conflict into Communication)

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/c8447492-c70b-48c9-94ff-b3f7005e9bf8/transcript

Have you ever pushed away the love you wanted most or clung to it so tightly that you lost yourself in the process?

Jay sits down with Attachment Style expert and creator of the Integrated Attachment Theory Thais Gibson to unpack one of the most powerful forces shaping our relationships. Together, they explore how our earliest emotional experiences quietly shape the way we love, communicate, and respond to conflict later in adulthood. Thais explains how anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant patterns aren’t flaws or labels that define us, but protective mechanisms we once needed to feel safe.

Jay and Thais dive into the subtle ways attachment wounds show up in dating and long-term relationships, from overthinking a delayed text, to fearing commitment when things start to get too serious. Thais shares practical tools for recognizing your subconscious needs, reprogramming limiting beliefs, and communicating in ways that build security instead of sabotaging connection. Jay highlights how healing isn’t about changing who you are, it’s about understanding why you are the way you are, and consciously choosing new patterns that align with the love you truly desire. They emphasize that compatibility alone isn’t enough; emotional safety, self-awareness, and the willingness to grow are what sustain meaningful connection.

This is a reminder that love is not just about finding the right person, it’s about becoming the safest, most secure version of yourself. When we learn to meet our own unmet needs, we stop outsourcing our worth and start building relationships rooted in clarity, compassion, and conscious choice.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Identify Your Attachment Style

How to Stop Overthinking in Relationships

How to Communicate Your Emotional Needs Clearly

How to Reprogram Limiting Love Beliefs

How to Build Emotional Safety with a Partner

How to Respond Instead of React to Triggers

How to Set Boundaries Without Fear of Abandonment

Awareness is the turning point. The moment you begin to notice your triggers without judging them, communicate your needs without apologizing for them, and choose growth over fear, that’s the moment your relationships begin to change.

Interested in learning more about your own Attachment style, take the Attachment Style Quiz here: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/quiz?utm_source=pr-js&utm_medium=public_relations&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_content=new-attachment-theory 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX

Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe  

Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast 

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:25 Understanding Your Attachment Style

17:13 How to Date with Self-Awareness

20:26 Healing Your Core Wounds

28:50 Can Insecure Attachment Build a Healthy Relationship?

30:05 The Five Pillars of Emotional Healing

32:10 Pillar One: Reprogramming Core Beliefs

34:29 Pillar Two: Practicing Self-Validation

38:37 Pillar Three: Regulating the Nervous System

43:50 Pillar Four: Conscious Communication

53:08 Pillar Five: Creating Healthy Boundaries

50:09 Are Your Needs Realistic or Trauma-Driven?

57:16 The 90-Day Reprogramming Process

59:09 When One Partner Resists Self-Work

01:02:18 How Do You Move Forward With an Unwilling Partner?

01:04:10 The Psychology of Love Bombing

01:05:12 How Do You Set Boundaries With a Narcissist?

01:09:04 Why Anxious and Secure Dynamics Can Struggle

01:10:52 When Power Struggles Begin

01:17:53 Are You Just Scared or Is It a True Mismatch?

01:20:58 When is it Time to Break Up?

01:25:27 Do You Ever Truly Move On?

01:27:17 No One Is Ever 100% Ready

01:31:27 The Invaluable Lessons Hidden in Hard Times

01:34:51 This or That: Relationship Edition

01:39:44 Thais on Final Five

Episode Resources:

Website | http://offer.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast/all-access-pass 

YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHQ4lSaKRap5HyrpitrTOhQ 

Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ 

Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 

TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 

The Thais Gibson Podcast

Have you ever pushed away the love you wanted most or clung to it so tightly that you lost yourself in the process?
Jay sits down with Attachment Style expert and creator of the Integrated Attachment Theory Thais Gibson to unpack one of the most powerful forces shaping our relationships. Together, they explore how our earliest emotional experiences quietly shape the way we love, communicate, and respond to conflict later in adulthood. Thais explains how anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant patterns aren&rsquo;t flaws or labels that define us, but protective mechanisms we once needed to feel safe.
Jay and Thais dive into the subtle ways attachment wounds show up in dating and long-term relationships, from overthinking a delayed text, to fearing commitment when things start to get too serious. Thais shares practical tools for recognizing your subconscious needs, reprogramming limiting beliefs, and communicating in ways that build security instead of sabotaging connection. Jay highlights how healing isn&rsquo;t about changing who you are, it&rsquo;s about understanding why you are the way you are, and consciously choosing new patterns that align with the love you truly desire. They emphasize that compatibility alone isn&rsquo;t enough; emotional safety, self-awareness, and the willingness to grow are what sustain meaningful connection.
This is a reminder that love is not just about finding the right person, it&rsquo;s about becoming the safest, most secure version of yourself. When we learn to meet our own unmet needs, we stop outsourcing our worth and start building relationships rooted in clarity, compassion, and conscious choice.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Identify Your Attachment Style
How to Stop Overthinking in Relationships
How to Communicate Your Emotional Needs Clearly
How to Reprogram Limiting Love Beliefs
How to Build Emotional Safety with a Partner
How to Respond Instead of React to Triggers
How to Set Boundaries Without Fear of Abandonment
Awareness is the turning point. The moment you begin to notice your triggers without judging them, communicate your needs without apologizing for them, and choose growth over fear, that&rsquo;s the moment your relationships begin to change.
Interested in learning more about your own Attachment style, take the Attachment Style Quiz here: <a href="https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/quiz?utm_source=pr-js&amp;utm_medium=public_relations&amp;utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&amp;utm_content=new-attachment-theory">https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/quiz?utm_source=pr-js&amp;utm_medium=public_relations&amp;utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&amp;utm_content=new-attachment-theory</a>&nbsp;
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
JAY&rsquo;S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX
Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe <a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe">https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe</a> &nbsp;
Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! <a href="https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast">https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast</a>&nbsp;
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:25 Understanding Your Attachment Style
17:13 How to Date with Self-Awareness
20:26 Healing Your Core Wounds
28:50 Can Insecure Attachment Build a Healthy Relationship?
30:05 The Five Pillars of Emotional Healing
32:10 Pillar One: Reprogramming Core Beliefs
34:29 Pillar Two: Practicing Self-Validation
38:37 Pillar Three: Regulating the Nervous System
43:50 Pillar Four: Conscious Communication
53:08 Pillar Five: Creating Healthy Boundaries
50:09 Are Your Needs Realistic or Trauma-Driven?
57:16 The 90-Day Reprogramming Process
59:09 When One Partner Resists Self-Work
01:02:18 How Do You Move Forward With an Unwilling Partner?
01:04:10 The Psychology of Love Bombing
01:05:12 How Do You Set Boundaries With a Narcissist?
01:09:04 Why Anxious and Secure Dynamics Can Struggle
01:10:52 When Power Struggles Begin
01:17:53 Are You Just Scared or Is It a True Mismatch?
01:20:58 When is it Time to Break Up?
01:25:27 Do You Ever Truly Move On?
01:27:17 No One Is Ever 100% Ready
01:31:27 The Invaluable Lessons Hidden in Hard Times
01:34:51 This or That: Relationship Edition
01:39:44 Thais on Final Five
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