Does being a bridesmaid mean agreeing to a $1,000 dress and a destination bachelorette weekend? Celebrity wedding planner Diann Valentine joins Linda Mathis, Greg Jr., Camara and Amir for a conversation about wedding expectations, friendship and who should pay.

The family doesn’t land on the same answer. Diann draws a distinction between traveling to celebrate a friend and paying the extra costs of being in the wedding party. They also debate how much control parents should have when they’re funding the celebration.

Linda and Camara revisit the heat, the cake and the budget behind Camara’s wedding. Diann shares stories from To Rome for Love, explains what it felt like to start again in the beauty business around 50, and reflects on the costs her daughter experienced while she built her career as a single mother. She also explains why she’s rethinking what she wants to leave her grandchildren.

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