Sex can be painful in more ways than one: from trauma, to physical pain, to porn. But these don't need to doom your relationship. Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers ideas to transform hurt to eventual healing and wholeness.

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Sex can be painful in more ways than one: from trauma, to physical pain, to porn. But these don't need to doom your relationship. Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers ideas to transform hurt to eventual healing and wholeness. 
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 	<a href="https://www.familylife.com/app/">Download our app to listen</a> to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions. 
 	For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit <a href="https://shaunti.com/">Shaunti.com</a>. 
 	Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma's book in our shop: <a href="https://shop.familylife.com/p-6352-secrets-of-sex-and-marriage.aspx">Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference</a>.

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Sex can be painful in more ways than one: from trauma, to physical pain, to porn. But these don't need to doom your relationship. Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers ideas to transform hurt to eventual healing and wholeness. Show Notes and Resources D...

6. When Sex is Painful: Dr. Michael Sytsma

Who do highly happy couples attribute their happiness to? Themselves or their partners? Join hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn and learn the power of humility and expressing gratitude for your better half.

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Weekend to Remember is FamilyLife's getaway for couples, at the intersection of faith-based marriage conference and romantic retreat from everyday life. Want to foster more oneness in your marriage? Learn more and find one near you at weekendtoremember.com.
FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy. Learn more about the the all-new Art of Marriage at artofmarriage.com and get 20% off with the code "Benefits".
For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages, head to her website.
Check out Married with Benefits on YouTube

Who do highly happy couples attribute their happiness to? Themselves or their partners? Join hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn and learn the power of humility and expressing gratitude for your better half.
Show Notes and Resources
<ul>
<li>Weekend to Remember is FamilyLife's getaway for couples, at the intersection of faith-based marriage conference and romantic retreat from everyday life. Want to foster more oneness in your marriage? Learn more and find one near you at <a href="https://www.familylife.com/weekend-to-remember/">weekendtoremember.com</a>.</li>
<li>FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy. Learn more about the the all-new Art of Marriage at <a href="https://www.familylife.com/art-of-marriage/home/">artofmarriage.com</a> and get 20% off with the code "Benefits".</li>
<li>For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, <a href="https://shaunti.com/tb-books/surprising-secrets-highly-happy-marriages/">The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages</a>, head to her website.</li>
<li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSzse1nmlqbKytpFD6blgrimXPYZoi-_J">Check out Married with Benefits on YouTube</a></li>
</ul>

Who do highly happy couples attribute their happiness to? Themselves or their partners? Join hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn and learn the power of humility and expressing gratitude for your better half.

Secret 13: Appreciating Your Better Half

True or False? One of the best ways to resolve conflict in marriage is to let go of it. Join hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn as they discuss the art of "conflict amnesia."

Show Notes and Resources
Weekend to Remember is FamilyLife's getaway for couples, at the intersection of faith-based marriage conference and romantic retreat from everyday life. Want to foster more oneness in your marriage? Learn more and find one near you at weekendtoremember.com.
FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy. Learn more about the the all-new Art of Marriage at artofmarriage.com and get 20% off with the code "Benefits".
For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages, head to her website.
Check out Married with Benefits on YouTube

True or False? One of the best ways to resolve conflict in marriage is to let go of it. Join hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn as they discuss the art of "conflict amnesia."
Show Notes and Resources
<ul>
<li>Weekend to Remember is FamilyLife's getaway for couples, at the intersection of faith-based marriage conference and romantic retreat from everyday life. Want to foster more oneness in your marriage? Learn more and find one near you at <a href="https://www.familylife.com/weekend-to-remember/">weekendtoremember.com</a>.</li>
<li>FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy. Learn more about the the all-new Art of Marriage at <a href="https://www.familylife.com/art-of-marriage/home/">artofmarriage.com</a> and get 20% off with the code "Benefits".</li>
<li>For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, <a href="https://shaunti.com/tb-books/surprising-secrets-highly-happy-marriages/">The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages</a>, head to her website.</li>
<li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSzse1nmlqbKytpFD6blgrimXPYZoi-_J">Check out Married with Benefits on YouTube</a></li>
</ul>

Secret 12: On "Conflict Amnesia" in Marriage

Divorce and Christians: there are some misunderstandings around its prevalence. Join hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn as they set the record straight and learn how keeping God at the center does help to make highly happy couples.

Show Notes and Resources
For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, "The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages", head to her website 
George Barna Study: The episode refers to the misinterpretation of a study by George Barna regarding divorce rates among different belief systems.
Brad Wilcox: University of Virginia researcher who provided data showing the correlation between church attendance and lower divorce rates.
FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy. Learn more about the the all-new Art of Marriage at artofmarriage.com!

Divorce and Christians: there are some misunderstandings around its prevalence. Join hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn as they set the record straight and learn how keeping God at the center does help to make highly happy couples.
Show Notes and Resources
<ul>
<li>For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, "<a href="https://shaunti.com/tb-books/surprising-secrets-highly-happy-marriages/">The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages</a>", head to her website </li>
<li>George Barna Study: The episode refers to the misinterpretation of a <a href="https://www.barna.com/research/born-again-christians-just-as-likely-to-divorce-as-are-non-christians/">study by George Barna</a> regarding divorce rates among different belief systems.</li>
<li><a href="https://ifstudies.org/brad-wilcox">Brad Wilcox</a>: University of Virginia researcher who provided data showing the correlation between church attendance and lower divorce rates.</li>
<li>FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy. Learn more about the the all-new Art of Marriage at <a href="https://www.familylife.com/art-of-marriage/home/">artofmarriage.com</a>!</li>
</ul>

Divorce and Christians: there are some misunderstandings around its prevalence. Find out how keeping God at the center helps makes highly happy couples.

6. When Sex is Painful: Dr. Michael Sytsma

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