Secret 4: On Keeping Score

You've probably heard the marriage advice: don't try to keep score. Hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn suggest there's one tally that might actually be good to track in Christian marriage—find out what it is! Show Notes and Resources For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, "The Surprisin…

Secret 3: On Going to Bed Mad, with Jen Goins

Going to bed angry or not: if someone's giving you advice for marriage, they likely have an opinion. And doesn't the Bible take a stance? Join hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn for a fresh take on how to deal with anger in marriage — a normal part of the human experience — at bedtime and beyon…

Secret 2: 5 Little Ways to Grow Happiness In Marriage

Looking for some happy vibes in your marriage? Learn about the 'fantastic five' small but mighty try-now practices to grow happiness in your marriage. Show Notes and Resources FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy. Learn more about the t…

The First Secret of Highly Happy Marriages

You know what they say about making assumptions, right? But there's one kind of assumption that can dramatically improve your marriage. Hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn discuss first secret of highly happy marriages on today's episode of Married with Benefits. Learn how one foundational minds…

The Highly Happy Marriage: Is That a Thing?

"Highly happy" is possible for marriage. But how do you get there? Change—even "good" change and growth—can be uncomfortable! Join hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn for a roadmap for perseverance in relationship growth, towards the highly happy marriage you dream of. Show Notes and Resources…

Is Marriage Past its Prime? Dr. Brad Wilcox

Is marriage worth it? If you've never wondered yourself, you may have had someone ask you that question. In this special teaser episode to Season 4 of Married with Benefits, hosts Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins are joined by Dr. Brad Wilcox, a renowned sociologist specializing in marriage and fam…

8. Is Your Sex Life Missing the Point?

Could your sex life be missing the point? Dr. Michael Sytsma talks about why we have sex…and the key to wow-level sex that changes everything. Show Notes and Resources Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions. For more from Sha…

7. When Sex is Boring

Has your married sex coasted into the blahs? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma's got solutions to keep you both captivated in the bedroom. Show Notes and Resources Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions. For more from Shaunti …

6. When Sex is Painful: Dr. Michael Sytsma

Sex can be painful in more ways than one: from trauma, to physical pain, to porn. But these don't need to doom your relationship. Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers ideas to transform hurt to eventual healing and wholeness. Show Notes and Resources Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, …

5. Not Tonight? Why Good Signals Make Sexual Sparks Fly: Dr. Michael Sytsma

Initiating or declining sex: It's tricky. Are your signals clear to your spouse? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma helps you with “not tonight” and “yes, please.” Show Notes and Resources Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions. …