My wife always says no

Abstaining to avoid sin

Break 1

Unrealistic expectations?

Planning intimacy

Break 2

Finding inappropriate videos

What should you do if your spouse always says no to marital intimacy? What if there is conflict about abstaining from intimacy to avoid sin? Doug goes to the mailbag answering these questions and more.

 

 

Listener questions and Comments:
Ray - I am seeing the biggest hinderance in marriage being unrealistic expectations. (21:59)

What should you do if your spouse always says no to marital intimacy? What if there is conflict about abstaining from intimacy to avoid sin? Doug goes to the mailbag answering these questions and more.
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Listener questions and Comments:
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<li>Ray - I am seeing the biggest hinderance in marriage being unrealistic expectations. (21:59)</li>
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Marriage Unhindered is a sincere exploration of the joys and challenges within the realm of marriage. Hosted by the seasoned Doug Hinderer, this one-hour, caller-based show is scheduled to air every Saturday from 11am – 12pm CT, and will offer listeners an authentic journey into the complexities of marital relationships.

Marriage Unhindered is a sincere exploration of the joys and challenges within the realm of marriage. Hosted by the seasoned Doug Hinderer, this one-hour, caller-based show is scheduled to air every Saturday from 11am – 12pm CT, and will offer listeners an authentic journey into the complexities of marital relationships.

Marriage Unhindered

When Your Spouse Says No

Sexuality is a source of pleasure and joy

What's allowed in the bedroom?

Frustration  over men's lack of interest

Intimacy when you have a special needs child

Intimacy should not hurt

Sarah Bartel, co-founder of Cana Feast, joins Doug to discuss how women can enjoy holy and healthy physical intimacy with their husbands.

 

Listener questions and comments:
Mary - My husband would wake me up in the middle of the night. I would tell him no, but he'd keep insisting. I got to the point that I told him, ‘It feels like you're raping me'. Was it wrong for me to say this? (14:38)
John - How would you prioritize your spouse in terms of intimacy when you have a special needs child? (39:40)

 

Resources:

Cana Feast

https://canafeast.com/

 

https://canafeast.com/mydelight-whatsallowed

Sarah Bartel, co-founder of Cana Feast, joins Doug to discuss how women can enjoy holy and healthy physical intimacy with their husbands.
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Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Mary - My husband would wake me up in the middle of the night. I would tell him no, but he'd keep insisting. I got to the point that I told him, &lsquo;It feels like you're raping me'. Was it wrong for me to say this? (14:38)</li>
<li>John - How would you prioritize your spouse in terms of intimacy when you have a special needs child? (39:40)</li>
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Resources:
Cana Feast
<a href="https://canafeast.com/">https://canafeast.com/</a>
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<a href="https://canafeast.com/mydelight-whatsallowed">https://canafeast.com/mydelight-whatsallowed</a>

Holy and Healthy Marital Intimacy

Setting firm boundaries

Our daughter's"same-sex" marriage

When kids don't want to communicate

What if there is not a next time?

Tell your kids you love them

Monica Hinderer joins Doug to discuss parenting and family relationship.

 

Listener questions and comments:
Ron - It’s my job as a man to lead my wife regardless of how we feal at the time. This is something the younger generation does not understand. My son does not understand. I had to cut him off. (6:07)
Maryann - My daughter's friends say she has a personality disorder. She doesn't want to listen to me. How do I help her? (13:08)
Maria - Thank you for the show and welcome back Monica! (22:20)
Therese - One of my daughters is "married" to a woman and we didn’t go to the wedding. Now they won’t talk to us. What do we do? (22:57)
Reba - I am a mother of 4 and the oldest is 14. She is the only daughter and she and I have really hit a brick wall and I don’t want to ruin it. What should I do? (28:52)

Monica Hinderer joins Doug to discuss parenting and family relationship.
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Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Ron - It&rsquo;s my job as a man to lead my wife regardless of how we feal at the time. This is something the younger generation does not understand. My son does not understand. I had to cut him off. (6:07)</li>
<li>Maryann - My daughter's friends say she has a personality disorder. She doesn't want to listen to me. How do I help her? (13:08)</li>
<li>Maria - Thank you for the show and welcome back Monica! (22:20)</li>
<li>Therese - One of my daughters is "married" to a woman and we didn&rsquo;t go to the wedding. Now they won&rsquo;t talk to us. What do we do? (22:57)</li>
<li>Reba - I am a mother of 4 and the oldest is 14. She is the only daughter and she and I have really hit a brick wall and I don&rsquo;t want to ruin it. What should I do? (28:52)</li>
</ul>

When Children Shut Down

Fear of abandonment 

Examples of people pleasing 

Common traits of people pleasing

Spouse involvement in people pleasing

Trauma response 

What to do if you are people pleaser

Respect in a conversation 

If you find yourself becoming a people pleaser, it’s important to recognize the underlying fear of abandonment and the tendency to depend on others for your self-worth. Building a stronger sense of self involves setting boundaries, developing confidence, and learning to validate your own needs instead of constantly seeking approval.

 

Listener questions and comments:
Pam - I tend to be a people pleaser. I say 'I'm sorry' a lot and my son is the same way. I tell him he doesn't have to do that all the time. (6:31)
Amy - Your spouse could make you a people pleaser because of their volatile reaction. (20:19)
Michael - How come the people pleasers can't get together? I keep being drawn to the same type of person in relationships. It starts out good, but they end up being yellers and screamers. (36:27)
Stephanie - I have noticed one of my friends who was adopted is a strong people pleaser. I have an adopted daughter that's a people pleaser as well. How do I help her? (39:13)

If you find yourself becoming a people pleaser, it&rsquo;s important to recognize the underlying fear of abandonment and the tendency to depend on others for your self-worth. Building a stronger sense of self involves setting boundaries, developing confidence, and learning to validate your own needs instead of constantly seeking approval.
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Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Pam - I tend to be a people pleaser. I say 'I'm sorry' a lot and my son is the same way. I tell him he doesn't have to do that all the time. (6:31)</li>
<li>Amy - Your spouse could make you a people pleaser because of their volatile reaction. (20:19)</li>
<li>Michael - How come the people pleasers can't get together? I keep being drawn to the same type of person in relationships. It starts out good, but they end up being yellers and screamers. (36:27)</li>
<li>Stephanie - I have noticed one of my friends who was adopted is a strong people pleaser. I have an adopted daughter that's a people pleaser as well. How do I help her? (39:13)</li>
</ul>

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