If you find yourself becoming a people pleaser, it’s important to recognize the underlying fear of abandonment and the tendency to depend on others for your self-worth. Building a stronger sense of self involves setting boundaries, developing confidence, and learning to validate your own needs instead of constantly seeking approval.

Listener questions and comments:

• Pam - I tend to be a people pleaser. I say 'I'm sorry' a lot and my son is the same way. I tell him he doesn't have to do that all the time. (6:31)
• Amy - Your spouse could make you a people pleaser because of their volatile reaction. (20:19)
• Michael - How come the people pleasers can't get together? I keep being drawn to the same type of person in relationships. It starts out good, but they end up being yellers and screamers. (36:27)
• Stephanie - I have noticed one of my friends who was adopted is a strong people pleaser. I have an adopted daughter that's a people pleaser as well. How do I help her? (39:13)