Email: Behavior disorder

Break 1

Avoident son 

Tactics of the Devil 

Break 2

Emotional infidielity 

Doug answers a listener’s email about ending a relationship with someone who may have a behavioral disorder, then continues a series on how the devil attacks marriages. He also discusses the Four Horsemen of relationship conflict and when to seek professional help.

Listener questions and comments:


Kim: My 20-year-old son is dealing with a situation similar to the man in the email. What should I do? (17:36)


Maria: My husband and I are separated because we do not get along. He frequently talks to other women, makes new friends, and seeks platonic relationships with them. (38:03)

Resources:

The International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy
https://iceeft.com/
Four Common Tactics of the Devil
https://spiritualdirection.com/2025/11/16/four-common-tactics-of-the-devil
https://catholictherapists.com/
https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/

Doug answers a listener&rsquo;s email about ending a relationship with someone who may have a behavioral disorder, then continues a series on how the devil attacks marriages. He also discusses the Four Horsemen of relationship conflict and when to seek professional help.
Listener questions and comments:
<ul data-spread="false">
<li>
Kim: My 20-year-old son is dealing with a situation similar to the man in the email. What should I do? (17:36)
</li>
<li>
Maria: My husband and I are separated because we do not get along. He frequently talks to other women, makes new friends, and seeks platonic relationships with them. (38:03)
</li>
</ul>
Resources:
The International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy <a href="https://iceeft.com/" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="0">https://iceeft.com/</a> Four Common Tactics of the Devil <a href="https://spiritualdirection.com/2025/11/16/four-common-tactics-of-the-devil" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="1">https://spiritualdirection.com/2025/11/16/four-common-tactics-of-the-devil</a> <a href="https://catholictherapists.com/" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="2">https://catholictherapists.com/</a> <a href="https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/" data-auth="NotApplicable" data-linkindex="3">https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/</a>

How the Devil Destroys Marriages

4 tactics of the devil - Deception

Husband wants a divorce

Finding balance amid marital conflict

Doug begins a two-part series on the 4 tactics the devil uses to destroy marriages.

 

Listener questions and comments:
Mary - My husband is considering divorce after an affair, saying the other woman gives him “a feeling” he can’t explain. Our hearing is Friday, and I’ve asked him to pause and reconsider, but he’s unsure what to do. (20:48)
Sebastian - How can I apply this concept of the devil’s influence to my situation, where my wife and I seem divided in our views of marriage and family life after several years of marriage and raising five children? (34:39)
Nancy – My second husband and I have been married for 31 years; both having come from difficult marriages. A quote by Bonhoeffer about marriage deeply resonated with me, giving me a beautiful sense of its purpose: not just romantic love, but a commitment to responsibility, mutual support, and the greater good of the world. (44:57)

 

Resources:

Marriage Unhindered

https://www.marriageunhindered.com/

 

Four Common Tactics of the Devil

https://spiritualdirection.com/2025/11/16/four-common-tactics-of-the-devil

 

4 ways the devil deceives us
The devil deceives us with many false and empty promises.
The devil also deceives us by suggesting all sorts of complexities.
The devil also seeks to deceive us with “wordsmithing.”
The devil also deceives us through the manipulation of data.

Doug begins a two-part series on the 4 tactics the devil uses to destroy marriages.
&nbsp;
Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Mary - My husband is considering divorce after an affair, saying the other woman gives him &ldquo;a feeling&rdquo; he can&rsquo;t explain. Our hearing is Friday, and I&rsquo;ve asked him to pause and reconsider, but he&rsquo;s unsure what to do. (20:48)</li>
<li>Sebastian - How can I apply this concept of the devil&rsquo;s influence to my situation, where my wife and I seem divided in our views of marriage and family life after several years of marriage and raising five children? (34:39)</li>
<li>Nancy &ndash; My second husband and I have been married for 31 years; both having come from difficult marriages. A quote by Bonhoeffer about marriage deeply resonated with me, giving me a beautiful sense of its purpose: not just romantic love, but a commitment to responsibility, mutual support, and the greater good of the world. (44:57)</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Resources:
Marriage Unhindered
<a href="https://www.marriageunhindered.com/">https://www.marriageunhindered.com/</a>
&nbsp;
Four Common Tactics of the Devil
<a href="https://spiritualdirection.com/2025/11/16/four-common-tactics-of-the-devil">https://spiritualdirection.com/2025/11/16/four-common-tactics-of-the-devil</a>
&nbsp;
4 ways the devil deceives us
<ol>
<li>The devil deceives us with many false and empty promises.</li>
<li>The devil also deceives us by suggesting all sorts of complexities.</li>
<li>The devil also seeks to deceive us with &ldquo;wordsmithing.&rdquo;</li>
<li>The devil also deceives us through the manipulation of data.</li>
</ol>

Four Common Tactics of the Devil (Part 1)

Her story of infertility

Adoption

Impact of infertility on marriage

Joy in the midst of suffering

Conversations with God

Mary Bruno joins Doug to discuss her book, Twelve Stripes Deep: How Infertility & Other Suffering Delivered My Greatest Joys.

 

Resources:

Mary Bruno

https://marygbruno.com/

 

NaPro Technology

https://naprotechnology.com/

 

FAbM Base

https://fabmbase.org

 

Twelve Stripes Deep: How Infertility & Other Suffering Delivered My Greatest Joys

https://bit.ly/47vFyPP

Mary Bruno joins Doug to discuss her book, Twelve Stripes Deep: How Infertility &amp; Other Suffering Delivered My Greatest Joys.
&nbsp;
Resources:
Mary Bruno
<a href="https://marygbruno.com/">https://marygbruno.com/</a>
&nbsp;
NaPro Technology
<a href="https://naprotechnology.com/">https://naprotechnology.com/</a>
&nbsp;
FAbM Base
<a href="https://fabmbase.org">https://fabmbase.org</a>
&nbsp;
Twelve Stripes Deep: How Infertility &amp; Other Suffering Delivered My Greatest Joys
<a href="https://bit.ly/47vFyPP">https://bit.ly/47vFyPP</a>

Navigating Infertility

Dr. Pamela Patnode - Beyond burnout 

Defining burnout 

Impact of burnout on marriage

What is St. Benedict's solution?

Daily schedule

Dr. Pamela Patnode joins Doug to discuss her book, Beyond Burnout: Learning Balance from the Rule of St. Benedict. They define burnout, discuss the impact of burnout on marriage and share practical solutions.

 

Listener questions and comments:
Simon - I struggle with procrastination and when I try to put it off it will make it worse instead of doing it quick. (24:00)
Deedee - Did St. Benedict believe in perfect order? (36:11)

 

Resources:

Beyond Burnout: Learning Balance from the Rule of St. Benedict

https://orderosv.com/product/beyond-burnout-learning-balance-from-the-rule-of-st-benedict?ga_ref_list_id=taxonomy_3_term_94ga_ref_list_name=Taxonomy%20Term:%20Books

Dr. Pamela Patnode joins Doug to discuss her book, Beyond Burnout: Learning Balance from the Rule of St. Benedict. They define burnout, discuss the impact of burnout on marriage and share practical solutions.
&nbsp;
Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Simon - I struggle with procrastination and when I try to put it off it will make it worse instead of doing it quick. (24:00)</li>
<li>Deedee - Did St. Benedict believe in perfect order? (36:11)</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Resources:
Beyond Burnout: Learning Balance from the Rule of St. Benedict
<a href="https://orderosv.com/product/beyond-burnout-learning-balance-from-the-rule-of-st-benedict?ga_ref_list_id=taxonomy_3_term_94ga_ref_list_name=Taxonomy%20Term:%20Books">https://orderosv.com/product/beyond-burnout-learning-balance-from-the-rule-of-st-benedict?ga_ref_list_id=taxonomy_3_term_94ga_ref_list_name=Taxonomy%20Term:%20Books</a>

Overcoming Burnout

Postpartum psychosis 

Mom trying to find time for prayer

Three children under 4

Monica Hinderer joins Doug to continue their conversation about how children impact marriage, focusing on how busy moms can maintain a prayer life while still focusing on raising their children.

 
Steve - My son is getting married to his live-in protestant girlfriend and they are not getting married in the Church. Her mother is also a pastor. (12:25)
Mary - Find the moments in the day where you can pray even in busy times. (28:35)
Kristen - I have 9 kids and I battle this as well. I pray a morning offering just in case I don’t get anything else done. (32:43)
Mariana - I am a mom of 3 under 4 and I have some advice. (38:48)

 

Resources:

Should I Attend THAT Wedding?

https://relevantradio.com/2026/10/should-i-attend-that-wedding/

Monica Hinderer joins Doug to continue their conversation about how children impact marriage, focusing on how busy moms can maintain a prayer life while still focusing on raising their children.
&nbsp;
<ul>
<li>Steve - My son is getting married to his live-in protestant girlfriend and they are not getting married in the Church. Her mother is also a pastor. (12:25)</li>
<li>Mary - Find the moments in the day where you can pray even in busy times. (28:35)</li>
<li>Kristen - I have 9 kids and I battle this as well. I pray a morning offering just in case I don&rsquo;t get anything else done. (32:43)</li>
<li>Mariana - I am a mom of 3 under 4 and I have some advice. (38:48)</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Resources:
Should I Attend THAT Wedding?
<a href="https://relevantradio.com/2026/10/should-i-attend-that-wedding/">https://relevantradio.com/2026/10/should-i-attend-that-wedding/</a>

Prayer for the Busy Mom

Infertility struggles

Trusting in God

Wife won't forgive

Bringing up the past

Faithfull marriages 

Doug shares tips for what to do if your wife refuses to forgive you. He also discusses how faith filled marriages produce the happiest couples.

 

Listener questions and comments:
Lucy - We have been married for 5 years but we don’t have children. It gets depressing during the holidays. (3:39)
Marie - My ex-husband says that I like to bring up the past. What do I do to talk about this stuff? (10:14)
Rachel - Comment for Lucy: I wanted to share Springs in the Desert that helps infertile couples. (16:43)
Lydia - I think healing has to happen sometimes before the problem can be forgotten. (18:51)
David - My wife and I have been married for 5 years and we have been dealing with infertility but we bonded in our faith by trusting God. (25:00)
Beth - How can I address things that continue to happen. How do you avoid bringing up the past when addressing a current issue. (39:56)

 

Resources:

Springs in the Desert

https://springsinthedesert.org/

 

Marriage Unhindered

https://www.marriageunhindered.com/

 

Happy Marriage for Life

https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

 

Catholic Therapists

https://catholictherapists.com/

 

Catholic Psychotherapy

https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/

 

Emotionally Focused Therapy

https://iceeft.com/

Doug shares tips for what to do if your wife refuses to forgive you. He also discusses how faith filled marriages produce the happiest couples.
&nbsp;
Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Lucy - We have been married for 5 years but we don&rsquo;t have children. It gets depressing during the holidays. (3:39)</li>
<li>Marie - My ex-husband says that I like to bring up the past. What do I do to talk about this stuff? (10:14)</li>
<li>Rachel - Comment for Lucy: I wanted to share Springs in the Desert that helps infertile couples. (16:43)</li>
<li>Lydia - I think healing has to happen sometimes before the problem can be forgotten. (18:51)</li>
<li>David - My wife and I have been married for 5 years and we have been dealing with infertility but we bonded in our faith by trusting God. (25:00)</li>
<li>Beth - How can I address things that continue to happen. How do you avoid bringing up the past when addressing a current issue. (39:56)</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Resources:
Springs in the Desert
<a href="https://springsinthedesert.org/">https://springsinthedesert.org/</a>
&nbsp;
Marriage Unhindered
<a href="https://www.marriageunhindered.com/">https://www.marriageunhindered.com/</a>
&nbsp;
Happy Marriage for Life
<a href="https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/">https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/</a>
&nbsp;
Catholic Therapists
<a href="https://catholictherapists.com/">https://catholictherapists.com/</a>
&nbsp;
Catholic Psychotherapy
<a href="https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/">https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/</a>
&nbsp;
Emotionally Focused Therapy
<a href="https://iceeft.com/">https://iceeft.com/</a>

When a spouse won't forgive

Senior Citizen asks if okay to use contracepti

Radiation could be reason for contraception us

Chemotherapy could get into body fluids 

Okay to use condoms b/c worry of genetic defec

Spouse refusing to go to mass 

Husband being alone w/another woman 

Husband didn't go to mass initially but is now

Spiritual Loneliness attending mass

Woman asking for pryaers for moving to homeles

Married a non-Catholic, and made it work 

Doug talks about a senior citizen with cancer using contraception.  AND could a relationship between a devout churchgoer and lukewarm believer stand a chance? 

Listener questions and comments:
Mary-Worries about radiation spread in regards to condom use for senior citizen (7:22)
Mark-Clarifies about condom use for senior citizen with cancer in regards to bodily fluid (8:31)
Mark - Using condoms to prevent genetic defect being passed on to  next generation (10:17)
Anna-My spouse is refusing to go to mass. Everytime I ask him he puts up a fight and the priest said to make mass a cheerful event rather than a fight. (21:48)
Anna-Husband being alone with another woman (25:02)
Mary-I have been married for 40 years but my husband never went to church and we got a dispensation. He is now catholic though! (28:55)
Elaine-I think there is a possibility that this is a problem of spiritual loneliness, when only one spouse goes to mass. (33:58)
Jo-I am leaving my parent's house to go live at the homeless shelter. I am going through some issue with that relationship and need prayers. Also i just found RR this week. (38:08)
Mary-I married a Christan man not catholic. I just want to say we made it work but it would have been a lot easier if he was catholic! (48:09)

Doug talks about a senior citizen with cancer using contraception.&nbsp; AND could a relationship between a devout churchgoer and lukewarm believer stand a chance?&nbsp;
Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Mary-Worries about radiation spread in regards to condom use for senior citizen (7:22)</li>
<li>Mark-Clarifies about condom use for senior citizen with cancer in regards to bodily fluid (8:31)</li>
<li>Mark - Using condoms to prevent genetic defect being passed on to&nbsp; next generation (10:17)</li>
<li>Anna-My spouse is refusing to go to mass. Everytime I ask him he puts up a fight and the priest said to make mass a cheerful event rather than a fight. (21:48)</li>
<li>Anna-Husband being alone with another woman (25:02)</li>
<li>Mary-I have been married for 40 years but my husband never went to church and we got a dispensation. He is now catholic though! (28:55)</li>
<li>Elaine-I think there is a possibility that this is a problem of spiritual loneliness, when only one spouse goes to mass. (33:58)</li>
<li>Jo-I am leaving my parent's house to go live at the homeless shelter. I am going through some issue with that relationship and need prayers. Also i just found RR this week. (38:08)</li>
<li>Mary-I married a Christan man not catholic. I just want to say we made it work but it would have been a lot easier if he was catholic! (48:09)</li>
</ul>

Could devout Catholic be with Lukewarm Believer?

How much suffering is too much?

Finding closure after a spouse's death

Advice from Brother Lawrence

Religious men are more happy

Doug discusses the challenges and suffering that can arise in marriage, emphasizing the importance of redemptive suffering and the need to find meaning and purpose in our suffering rather than waste it.

 

Listener questions and comments:
Leslie - My husband died of cancer and we didn’t end on a good note. I wonder if he loved me. I need some closure. (19:26)
Heidi - I am in a difficult marriage but what helps is to offer up the things that he does to me and then maybe he will suffer less later. (29:50)
Mark - Can you clarify the question about children and offering up suffering. (35:02)
Joseph - You gave a great answer when somebody was going through suffering and you suggested that she 'be saintly' and suffer well. (37:00)
Lara - I don’t think people realize that when you ask for prayer you are hoping to help someone else in your life. (41:35)

 

Resources:

Marriage Unhindered

https://www.marriageunhindered.com/

 

Happy Marriage for Life

https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

 

Rekindled Hearts

https://relevantradio.store/products/rekindled-hearts-book

Doug discusses the challenges and suffering that can arise in marriage, emphasizing the importance of redemptive suffering and the need to find meaning and purpose in our suffering rather than waste it.
&nbsp;
Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Leslie - My husband died of cancer and we didn&rsquo;t end on a good note. I wonder if he loved me. I need some closure. (19:26)</li>
<li>Heidi - I am in a difficult marriage but what helps is to offer up the things that he does to me and then maybe he will suffer less later. (29:50)</li>
<li>Mark - Can you clarify the question about children and offering up suffering. (35:02)</li>
<li>Joseph - You gave a great answer when somebody was going through suffering and you suggested that she 'be saintly' and suffer well. (37:00)</li>
<li>Lara - I don&rsquo;t think people realize that when you ask for prayer you are hoping to help someone else in your life. (41:35)</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Resources:
Marriage Unhindered
<a href="https://www.marriageunhindered.com/">https://www.marriageunhindered.com/</a>
&nbsp;
Happy Marriage for Life
<a href="https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/">https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/</a>
&nbsp;
Rekindled Hearts
<a href="https://relevantradio.store/products/rekindled-hearts-book">https://relevantradio.store/products/rekindled-hearts-book</a>

When a son goes no-contact

Our Lady of Champion

I am actually happy serving him

My husband thinks pornography is normal

Is it possible for a young bride to be happy in serving her husband? Today, Doug shares advice from Alice Von Hildebrand in her book By Love Refined. 

 

Listener question and comments:
Jean - My son sent me a no-contact text. How do I respond? (4:07)
Irene - I'm in a no-contact situation with two of my boys, and it's been going on for four years. It's just heartbreaking and I can't see my grandchildren. (24:20)
Elena - My daughter recently got engaged after dating her fiancé for three years. As they began planning their wedding, he told her that his fear about her mental health and the possibility of it worsening is greater than his love for her. How can I help her navigate this situation? (30:15)
Nancy – I was married and was in a very abusive relationship. I learned later that he was addicted to pornography. (48:00)

 

Resources:

STRIVE: 21-Day Porn Detox for Men

https://www.covenanteyes.com/strive/

 

Integrity Restored 

https://integrityrestored.com/

 

RECLAIM Sexual Health 

https://www.reclaimsexualhealth.com/

 

Road to Purity  

https://roadtopurity.com/

 

Catholics Fight Porn  

https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/

Is it possible for a young bride to be happy in serving her husband? Today, Doug shares advice from Alice Von Hildebrand in her book By Love Refined. 
&nbsp;
Listener question and comments:
<ul>
<li>Jean - My son sent me a no-contact text. How do I respond? (4:07)</li>
<li>Irene - I'm in a no-contact situation with two of my boys, and it's been going on for four years. It's just heartbreaking and I can't see my grandchildren. (24:20)</li>
<li>Elena - My daughter recently got engaged after dating her fianc&eacute; for three years. As they began planning their wedding, he told her that his fear about her mental health and the possibility of it worsening is greater than his love for her. How can I help her navigate this situation? (30:15)</li>
<li>Nancy &ndash; I was married and was in a very abusive relationship. I learned later that he was addicted to pornography. (48:00)</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Resources:
STRIVE: 21-Day Porn Detox for Men
<a href="https://www.covenanteyes.com/strive/">https://www.covenanteyes.com/strive/</a>
&nbsp;
Integrity Restored&nbsp;
<a href="https://integrityrestored.com/">https://integrityrestored.com/</a>
&nbsp;
RECLAIM Sexual Health&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.reclaimsexualhealth.com/">https://www.reclaimsexualhealth.com/</a>
&nbsp;
Road to Purity&nbsp;&nbsp;
<a href="https://roadtopurity.com/">https://roadtopurity.com/</a>
&nbsp;
Catholics Fight Porn&nbsp;&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/">https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/</a>

Serving your Spouse 

Relationship challenges 

My sister is rushing into marriage

Intimacy frustrations 

Divorce and remarriage

Identity shifts 

Monica Hinderer joins Doug to discuss how children impact a marriage. They discuss relationship challenges including the effect on intimacy, finances and identity shifts.  

 

Listener questions and comments:
Pete - Having kids gave me a reason to work harder. It was the proudest moment of my life. Having people around to support you is helpful. (13:19)
Cindy - My sister has been friends with a guy for three years and recently started dating him. They’re already talking about getting married in December. What are your thoughts? Should they date longer? She no longer practices the Catholic faith, and they met at a nondenominational church. (20:56)
Mark - What is the best advice I can give to a married couple struggling with sleep deprivation? (46:49)

 

Resources

 

Marriage Unhindered

https://www.marriageunhindered.com/

 

Happy Marriage for Life

https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

 

Monica Hinderer

https://www.monicahinderer.com/

 

Bringing Baby Home

https://www.gottman.com/bringing-baby-home-for-parents/

Monica Hinderer joins Doug to discuss how children impact a marriage. They discuss relationship challenges including the effect on intimacy, finances and identity shifts. &nbsp;
&nbsp;
Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Pete - Having kids gave me a reason to work harder. It was the proudest moment of my life. Having people around to support you is helpful. (13:19)</li>
<li>Cindy - My sister has been friends with a guy for three years and recently started dating him. They&rsquo;re already talking about getting married in December. What are your thoughts? Should they date longer? She no longer practices the Catholic faith, and they met at a nondenominational church. (20:56)</li>
<li>Mark - What is the best advice I can give to a married couple struggling with sleep deprivation? (46:49)</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Resources
&nbsp;
Marriage Unhindered
<a href="https://www.marriageunhindered.com/">https://www.marriageunhindered.com/</a>
&nbsp;
Happy Marriage for Life
<a href="https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/">https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/</a>
&nbsp;
Monica Hinderer
<a href="https://www.monicahinderer.com/">https://www.monicahinderer.com/</a>
&nbsp;
Bringing Baby Home
<a href="https://www.gottman.com/bringing-baby-home-for-parents/">https://www.gottman.com/bringing-baby-home-for-parents/</a>

Impact of Children on Marriage

Marriage Unhindered is a sincere exploration of the joys and challenges within the realm of marriage. Hosted by the seasoned Doug Hinderer, this one-hour, caller-based show is scheduled to air Monday through Friday at 5PM CT, and will offer listeners an authentic journey into the complexities of marital relationships.

Marriage Unhindered is a sincere exploration of the joys and challenges within the realm of marriage. Hosted by the seasoned Doug Hinderer, this one-hour, caller-based show is scheduled to air Monday through Friday at 5PM CT, and will offer listeners an authentic journey into the complexities of marital relationships.

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