Dr. Pamela Patnode - Beyond burnout 

Break 1

Defining burnout 

Impact of burnout on marriage

What is St. Benedict's solution?

Break 2

Daily schedule

Dr. Pamela Patnode joins Doug to discuss her book, Beyond Burnout: Learning Balance from the Rule of St. Benedict. They define burnout, discuss the impact of burnout on marriage and share practical solutions.

 

Listener questions and comments:
Simon - I struggle with procrastination and when I try to put it off it will make it worse instead of doing it quick. (24:00)
Deedee - Did St. Benedict believe in perfect order? (36:11)

 

Resources:

Beyond Burnout: Learning Balance from the Rule of St. Benedict

https://orderosv.com/product/beyond-burnout-learning-balance-from-the-rule-of-st-benedict?ga_ref_list_id=taxonomy_3_term_94ga_ref_list_name=Taxonomy%20Term:%20Books

Dr. Pamela Patnode joins Doug to discuss her book, Beyond Burnout: Learning Balance from the Rule of St. Benedict. They define burnout, discuss the impact of burnout on marriage and share practical solutions.
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Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Simon - I struggle with procrastination and when I try to put it off it will make it worse instead of doing it quick. (24:00)</li>
<li>Deedee - Did St. Benedict believe in perfect order? (36:11)</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Resources:
Beyond Burnout: Learning Balance from the Rule of St. Benedict
<a href="https://orderosv.com/product/beyond-burnout-learning-balance-from-the-rule-of-st-benedict?ga_ref_list_id=taxonomy_3_term_94ga_ref_list_name=Taxonomy%20Term:%20Books">https://orderosv.com/product/beyond-burnout-learning-balance-from-the-rule-of-st-benedict?ga_ref_list_id=taxonomy_3_term_94ga_ref_list_name=Taxonomy%20Term:%20Books</a>

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Marriage Unhindered is a sincere exploration of the joys and challenges within the realm of marriage. Hosted by the seasoned Doug Hinderer, this one-hour, caller-based show is scheduled to air Monday through Friday at 5PM CT, and will offer listeners an authentic journey into the complexities of marital relationships.

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Overcoming Burnout

Postpartum psychosis 

Mom trying to find time for prayer

Three children under 4

Monica Hinderer joins Doug to continue their conversation about how children impact marriage, focusing on how busy moms can maintain a prayer life while still focusing on raising their children.

 
Steve - My son is getting married to his live-in protestant girlfriend and they are not getting married in the Church. Her mother is also a pastor. (12:25)
Mary - Find the moments in the day where you can pray even in busy times. (28:35)
Kristen - I have 9 kids and I battle this as well. I pray a morning offering just in case I don’t get anything else done. (32:43)
Mariana - I am a mom of 3 under 4 and I have some advice. (38:48)

 

Resources:

Should I Attend THAT Wedding?

https://relevantradio.com/2026/10/should-i-attend-that-wedding/

Monica Hinderer joins Doug to continue their conversation about how children impact marriage, focusing on how busy moms can maintain a prayer life while still focusing on raising their children.
&nbsp;
<ul>
<li>Steve - My son is getting married to his live-in protestant girlfriend and they are not getting married in the Church. Her mother is also a pastor. (12:25)</li>
<li>Mary - Find the moments in the day where you can pray even in busy times. (28:35)</li>
<li>Kristen - I have 9 kids and I battle this as well. I pray a morning offering just in case I don&rsquo;t get anything else done. (32:43)</li>
<li>Mariana - I am a mom of 3 under 4 and I have some advice. (38:48)</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Resources:
Should I Attend THAT Wedding?
<a href="https://relevantradio.com/2026/10/should-i-attend-that-wedding/">https://relevantradio.com/2026/10/should-i-attend-that-wedding/</a>

Prayer for the Busy Mom

Infertility struggles

Trusting in God

Wife won't forgive

Bringing up the past

Faithfull marriages 

Doug shares tips for what to do if your wife refuses to forgive you. He also discusses how faith filled marriages produce the happiest couples.

 

Listener questions and comments:
Lucy - We have been married for 5 years but we don’t have children. It gets depressing during the holidays. (3:39)
Marie - My ex-husband says that I like to bring up the past. What do I do to talk about this stuff? (10:14)
Rachel - Comment for Lucy: I wanted to share Springs in the Desert that helps infertile couples. (16:43)
Lydia - I think healing has to happen sometimes before the problem can be forgotten. (18:51)
David - My wife and I have been married for 5 years and we have been dealing with infertility but we bonded in our faith by trusting God. (25:00)
Beth - How can I address things that continue to happen. How do you avoid bringing up the past when addressing a current issue. (39:56)

 

Resources:

Springs in the Desert

https://springsinthedesert.org/

 

Marriage Unhindered

https://www.marriageunhindered.com/

 

Happy Marriage for Life

https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

 

Catholic Therapists

https://catholictherapists.com/

 

Catholic Psychotherapy

https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/

 

Emotionally Focused Therapy

https://iceeft.com/

Doug shares tips for what to do if your wife refuses to forgive you. He also discusses how faith filled marriages produce the happiest couples.
&nbsp;
Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Lucy - We have been married for 5 years but we don&rsquo;t have children. It gets depressing during the holidays. (3:39)</li>
<li>Marie - My ex-husband says that I like to bring up the past. What do I do to talk about this stuff? (10:14)</li>
<li>Rachel - Comment for Lucy: I wanted to share Springs in the Desert that helps infertile couples. (16:43)</li>
<li>Lydia - I think healing has to happen sometimes before the problem can be forgotten. (18:51)</li>
<li>David - My wife and I have been married for 5 years and we have been dealing with infertility but we bonded in our faith by trusting God. (25:00)</li>
<li>Beth - How can I address things that continue to happen. How do you avoid bringing up the past when addressing a current issue. (39:56)</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Resources:
Springs in the Desert
<a href="https://springsinthedesert.org/">https://springsinthedesert.org/</a>
&nbsp;
Marriage Unhindered
<a href="https://www.marriageunhindered.com/">https://www.marriageunhindered.com/</a>
&nbsp;
Happy Marriage for Life
<a href="https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/">https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/</a>
&nbsp;
Catholic Therapists
<a href="https://catholictherapists.com/">https://catholictherapists.com/</a>
&nbsp;
Catholic Psychotherapy
<a href="https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/">https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/</a>
&nbsp;
Emotionally Focused Therapy
<a href="https://iceeft.com/">https://iceeft.com/</a>

When a spouse won't forgive

Senior Citizen asks if okay to use contracepti

Radiation could be reason for contraception us

Chemotherapy could get into body fluids 

Okay to use condoms b/c worry of genetic defec

Spouse refusing to go to mass 

Husband being alone w/another woman 

Husband didn't go to mass initially but is now

Spiritual Loneliness attending mass

Woman asking for pryaers for moving to homeles

Married a non-Catholic, and made it work 

Doug talks about a senior citizen with cancer using contraception.  AND could a relationship between a devout churchgoer and lukewarm believer stand a chance? 

Listener questions and comments:
Mary-Worries about radiation spread in regards to condom use for senior citizen (7:22)
Mark-Clarifies about condom use for senior citizen with cancer in regards to bodily fluid (8:31)
Mark - Using condoms to prevent genetic defect being passed on to  next generation (10:17)
Anna-My spouse is refusing to go to mass. Everytime I ask him he puts up a fight and the priest said to make mass a cheerful event rather than a fight. (21:48)
Anna-Husband being alone with another woman (25:02)
Mary-I have been married for 40 years but my husband never went to church and we got a dispensation. He is now catholic though! (28:55)
Elaine-I think there is a possibility that this is a problem of spiritual loneliness, when only one spouse goes to mass. (33:58)
Jo-I am leaving my parent's house to go live at the homeless shelter. I am going through some issue with that relationship and need prayers. Also i just found RR this week. (38:08)
Mary-I married a Christan man not catholic. I just want to say we made it work but it would have been a lot easier if he was catholic! (48:09)

Doug talks about a senior citizen with cancer using contraception.&nbsp; AND could a relationship between a devout churchgoer and lukewarm believer stand a chance?&nbsp;
Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Mary-Worries about radiation spread in regards to condom use for senior citizen (7:22)</li>
<li>Mark-Clarifies about condom use for senior citizen with cancer in regards to bodily fluid (8:31)</li>
<li>Mark - Using condoms to prevent genetic defect being passed on to&nbsp; next generation (10:17)</li>
<li>Anna-My spouse is refusing to go to mass. Everytime I ask him he puts up a fight and the priest said to make mass a cheerful event rather than a fight. (21:48)</li>
<li>Anna-Husband being alone with another woman (25:02)</li>
<li>Mary-I have been married for 40 years but my husband never went to church and we got a dispensation. He is now catholic though! (28:55)</li>
<li>Elaine-I think there is a possibility that this is a problem of spiritual loneliness, when only one spouse goes to mass. (33:58)</li>
<li>Jo-I am leaving my parent's house to go live at the homeless shelter. I am going through some issue with that relationship and need prayers. Also i just found RR this week. (38:08)</li>
<li>Mary-I married a Christan man not catholic. I just want to say we made it work but it would have been a lot easier if he was catholic! (48:09)</li>
</ul>

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